In the world of feelings, whether it is a husband and wife or a lover, the fate is often not due to external factors, but because of internal shortcomings. Among them, two things are most crucial: appreciation and inclusion.
Appreciation is the cornerstone of feelings. Whether it is a husband and wife or a lover, only by appreciating each other can a deep emotional foundation be established. In appreciation, we see the strengths and strengths of the other person, which leads to respect and admiration. This kind of respect and admiration is a source of affection, and it can inspire more enthusiasm and motivation on both sides, so that each other is willing to give more for each other. And when one partner can no longer see the good in the other, the relationship begins to crack. Because of the lack of appreciation, people begin to think about each other's shortcomings, and the relationship gradually drifts apart, and eventually it is disillusioned.
Tolerance is an important means of maintaining relationships. In the process of getting along, it is inevitable that there will be conflicts and frictions between husband and wife or lovers, and one party needs to be able to tolerate the other party's unreasonable troubles or mistakes. Tolerance does not mean connivance or unprincipled concessions, but rather tolerance and understanding of the other party's shortcomings and mistakes on the basis of understanding. When one party can face the problem with an inclusive attitude, the conflict can often be properly resolved without escalating into irreparable conflict. Lack of tolerance will escalate the conflict and eventually lead to the breakdown of the relationship.
However, appreciation and inclusion are not innate qualities, they require both partners to work together to nurture and maintain. In marriage or love, we must learn to discover and appreciate the beauty of each other, and give each other full affirmation and encouragementAt the same time, we must also learn to be tolerant and understand each other's shortcomings and mistakes, and give each other enough space and time to grow. Only in this way can we go further and more steadily on the road of feelings.
Therefore, for couples or lovers, it is not terrible to end the fate, but what is terrible is the lack of appreciation and tolerance. As long as we can re-examine our relationship with each other, and strive to cultivate and maintain appreciation and tolerance in our relationship, we believe that fate is not an inevitable result.