When people reach middle age, they can calm down, calm down, and turn corners

Mondo Psychological Updated on 2024-01-28

Life is a long journey.

Through the growth of teenagers, the experience of youth, and the struggle of middle age, we can usher in a fruitful old age.

Middle age is an extremely embarrassing period, not only the tiredness of life, but also the beauty of family, the sadness of wind and rain, and the harvest of spring and autumn.

People always reach a certain age before they can suddenly wake up, see the truth of life, understand the meaning of life, and then adjust themselves unhurriedly.

When people reach middle age, as long as they can calm down, calm down, and turn corners, they will definitely be able to see different scenery.

01 Be calm

"There is calm in every major event;I don't believe that there are no ancient sages today. ”

This is a couplet of the three generations of emperors of the Qing Dynasty.

Those ancient and modern sages are all atmospheric people, and the more major events they encounter, the more they can calm down and deal with them calmly, so that life is full of wisdom.

Mr. Yang Jiang's life can be said to be uneventful.

During the war, the meals eaten by Yang Jiang's family were often mixed with sand. Originally, she was pampered, and she had to chop firewood, cook, and deal with everything at home.

Qian Zhongshu broke the door shaft of the house, and Mr. Yang Jiang said quietly: "It doesn't matter. ”

Because of the hardships of life, Qian Zhongshu felt uncomfortable, and Mr. Yang Jiang comforted him: "It doesn't matter, it will get better." Assigned to wash the toilet, she was still calm and calm, and felt that it didn't matter.

Throughout Yang Jiang's life, she can always deal with everything calmly, even in the face of life's unsatisfactory life, she can live her small life quietly without being disturbed.

Zeng Guofan said"Everything must be dealt with peacefully and slowly, if you are in a hurry, you are afraid that there will be a mistake, what is not wrong in the world?Therefore, calm and peaceful, is the first way to do things. ”

You and I are ants, busy withering among the withered crops.

People live for a lifetime, and plants and trees for an autumn. No matter how troubled the life in front of you is, you must stabilize yourself with a clear and quiet heart, go to see the mountains and rivers, and watch the flowers bloom and fall.

Life is impermanent, and who doesn't realize while walking. If you feel life with experience and feel the beauty with your heart, you will find that those hardships and hardships will pass, and you can't let your impetuous heart trap you.

Accept yourself, accept life, accept all the gifts of life.

Calm down, live well, withdraw from the noisy world, say goodbye to the disturbances of the world, look down on fame and fortune, forget your worries, and you will be able to touch the beauty of life.

02 Hold your breath

Zhou Chuanji, a veteran Chinese filmmaker, came from a famous family, learned English very well, and was also proficient in violin.

With a happy marriage and a successful career, he originally lived a very peaceful life, but in 1966, he encountered a change in his life.

Because of the turmoil of the times, the books and violins at home were burned, and he was also sent to the library of the Beijing Film Academy as a reference clerk.

For ten years, he could not communicate with the outside world, and could only do the boring work of sorting out books every day.

Teacher Zhou Chuanji thought to himself, since this is the case, it is better to read.

Over the years, he read all the film books in the library and did very in-depth research.

After the dust settled, he left the library, with a wealth of theoretical knowledge and enthusiasm, and went on academic visits around the world and shared the stage with Hollywood producers. Later, he taught Chen Kaige and Zhang Yimou a group of outstanding filmmakers, and was known as "China's No. 1 film leader".

Wang Zhiwen said:

"The more unpleasant the time, the more you have to calm down, the difficult road is not for everyone to be qualified to walk, when God needs you to grow, there will always be some unpleasant people and things to stimulate you, don't be afraid, get through it, bear the pain of Nirvana, and then there will be the beauty of rebirth. ”

There are also very powerful people in life, they can always stabilize their mentality, calm down, have a strong sense of mission, understand how to live in this life, and then wait for the opportunity to turn things around.

When something overwhelms you, you just have to actively save yourself, silently precipitate yourself, not be impatient or impatient, and then save yourself from fire and water at the most appropriate time.

Therefore, we must wake up the decadent self, and we must let the self who is not strong enough to learn Xi, experience, and feel the beauty of the world.

The Book of Changes says: "A gentleman hides his weapon in his body and moves when the time comes." ”

If you hold your breath, you can show the pattern, and the pattern is so big that you can achieve a person.

Don't worry, don't be angry, don't be discouraged, accumulate steadily, wait for the opportunity, as long as you can calm down, there are infinite possibilities for the future.

03 Turn the corner

Turning a corner is a kind of wisdom that knows how to be flexible.

"Zhou Yi" said: "If you are poor, you will change, and if you change, you will be able to do it for a long time. ”

Sometimes, the road doesn't work, it's the heavens telling you to turn, you can see different scenery when you turn, life is short, you really don't have to stick to a place, life is actually beautiful everywhere.

During the Northern Song Dynasty, a teenager failed the first scientific examination at the age of twenty-six, failed the second time at the age of thirty-two, failed the third time at the age of thirty-five, and failed the fourth time at the age of forty-one.

He has entered middle age, and suddenly one day he decided to stop obsessing with scientific research, but to be a lyricist who travels through mountains and rivers.

He has traveled all over the country, written more than 100 words, and finally became the first professional lyricist in history, even Su Shi is full of praise for him, he is Liu Yong.

Turning is not a retreat, not cowardice, but another way of moving forward in life.

Drilling the tip of the horn and the peak loop is often just a thought, depending on what you think.

When the mentality turns, you can see a different scenery, and when the road of life turns, you can win a different kind of excitement for yourself.

Life is never the same, and there is not only one path to success.

Caigen Tan also said:

"If you can't do it, you have to know the way to take a step back;If you can do it, you must give up one-third of the work. ”

Life teaches us to be bold, to be strong, to persevere when we should persevere, and to give up when we should give up.

People must have dreams, but also to see the reality, the road under their feet to firmly grasp, whether it is a step back, let three points of work, what we do is just to make life better.

Life is a long road, and if this road doesn't work, find another way.

People who can turn corners can adapt to the times, can bravely deal with the problems of life, can advance or retreat, will be able to bypass all the bends in life, and win their own wonderful!

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