Quarrels between husband and wife are inevitable in daily life. However, in some cases, the way in which a fight is handled is a big surprise. Recently, I heard a topic: After the two quarreled, the husband ran to his father-in-law's house. What exactly is the reason for this behavior?And what should we think of it?
1. The reason behind it.
Escapism: Some men may feel unable to cope or emotionally out of control after an argument and choose to flee the scene temporarily. And his father-in-law's house has become his safe haven, hoping to find comfort and support there.
Asylum seeking: In some cultures, it is common for the woman's family to favor the daughter. Therefore, the man may think that he will get more support and shelter in the father-in-law's house to help him resolve the conflict between the husband and wife.
Poor communication: If there is a communication barrier between spouses, one partner may choose to seek help from the spouse's family in the hope of mediating a solution through them.
2. Actively respond to conflicts between husband and wife.
Although running to the father-in-law's house may be a helpless move, there are some drawbacks to this practice. First, it deepens the estrangement between couples and complicates the problem. Second, long-term dependence on the spouse's family to resolve conflicts is not conducive to the husband and wife building the ability to solve problems independently.
Therefore, in the face of conflicts and quarrels between husband and wife, we should learn the following:
Open communication: Communication is the key to solving problems. Couples should learn to listen to each other's opinions and feelings and look for solutions to problems, rather than running away from them.
Deal with it calmly: When emotions are high, both parties should calm down and avoid making aggressive words and actions. A proper cooling-off period can also help ease tensions.
Seek help from a third party: If you are unable to resolve the issue on your own, consider seeking professional help, such as a counsellor or marriage and family counselor. They can provide neutral perspectives and helpful advice to help couples resolve conflicts.
Develop problem-solving skills: Couples should learn to think and solve problems independently, and avoid over-reliance on family members or other external factors. By confronting and solving problems together, trust and understanding between couples are enhanced.
3. Conclusion: Cherish the marriage relationship.
Quarrels between husband and wife are normal, and the key is how to deal with them properly. Running to my father-in-law's house is not a wise move to solve the problem, but it may deepen the conflict. We should cherish the marital relationship, learn to communicate openly, deal with problems calmly, and develop problem-solving skills. Only in this way can the relationship between husband and wife be more harmonious and happy.