Other people's tools don't necessarily work for me, and my choices don't necessarily work for others.
Some time ago, a friend accidentally talked about an app called "Tomato Clock".
According to him, the software has really helped him manage his concentration.
I also went to ** to try it out for a while, but I found that this software was not exactly "for me".
For example, when I am reading and writing, I will focus on it without asking about the time, and let me rest in the middle of it, but I will interrupt my train of thought.
But if I do something that I'm not interested in, my attention will be caught up in when I can get to the rest point from time to time, and I will become less focused.
Later, I asked my friend how to use it.
He mainly sets the tomato clock on his mobile phone when he corrects the homework sent by students in the group:
After each Pomodoro Clock, take a 5-minute break, and for every 4 Pomodoro Clocks, take another 15-30 minutes to protect your eyes.
So, I don't have the same needs and actual situation as him, and even if this tool works well for him, it doesn't necessarily work for me.
The other way around!
If I have friends who want to ask me about my weight-loss experience, I will remind them first:
Before you put it into action, you must find out if the need for "weight loss" is really suitable for you.
Because everyone has different health needs, if you don't know what your needs are and what kind of physical condition you want to achieve, then you are likely to get half the result.
Moreover, before fitness has become a habit, it must be very painful to insist on practicing it deliberately every day, but if you are a little more bored, it is very likely that you will not be able to persevere!
You've also seen that other people's tools don't necessarily work for me, and my choices don't necessarily work for others.
So, my thinking is: follow the example of others, imitate him, do it, and we will all do this.
But any tool, any method, any option, has its limitations.
In the face of them, I should first understand the logic behind the answers, and then think about my own needs and actual situationThen combine the above two points and make adjustments to make it more suitable for you and become something new and exclusive to you.
The gap between people is not the ability to imitate at all, but the ability to think.
The purpose of thinking is to let yourself really understand this matter on the basis of cognition and action, grasp the basic laws, and then apply them flexibly according to your own situation.
Finally, expand a little more:
Thinking positively, being sincere, seeking truth from facts, and being consistent with words and deeds are my consistent values.
I also hope that people in my circle can share similar values as me.
If you are like-minded, you will be in harmony, and if you are in harmony, you will be safe.
Just like a friend once asked me, how should I deal with colleagues who are always full of negative energy?I quoted such an answer:
A colleague always complained that no matter how he analyzed the problem, he still scolded, saying that others deliberately messed with him. Later, I couldn't stand not chatting with him, and I broke up with his work cooperation. After that, we politely kept our distance from each other, and we didn't have to communicate, but I felt that my world was clear!
So, my experience is:If you have been suffering from this loss all these years, what you have to do is not to please the people who take advantage of you, but to strive to enhance your strength and do your best to find a way to get out of this "mud pit".
After all, finding an environment that suits your survival is the "best".