Zhang Ailing expressed such a point of view in ** "Red Rose and White Rose":
In the life of every man, there are two women, one with red roses and one with white roses. When he chooses red roses, over time, red roses will become ordinary like a drop of mosquito blood on the wall, while white roses will be like the light of the moon in front of the window. On the contrary, when he chooses the white rose, the white rose will become ordinary with the polish of time, like a grain of white rice on the collar of a shirt, while the red rose becomes a precious cinnabar mole on the chest.
In fact, in real life, every man is faced with the choice of a wife and a lover. Men often have a wife after they still have a desire for a lover, but once they have a lover, they are worried about losing their wife. Someone asked on Zhihu: "Wife and lover, who does a man love more in his heart?"One respondent noted: "A fool makes a choice, and it's better to love both." ”
This statement is shared by many people, because men usually behave selfishly, always greedy, and do not know contentment. In reality, it is not uncommon for men to be unfaithful to their marriage, and many women suffer in silence due to various pressures after marriage.
I hope that women can treat love rationally, learn to discern the true intentions of men, and avoid falling into unnecessary pain. The question of whether a man loves his wife or a lover more may be revealed from the statements of the three men below.
1. Mr. Wang: Although he has a lover, he still loves his wife in his heart
Mr. Wang and his wife have been married for more than five years, and at first they were honest and well-behaved men. With the success of his career, his heart began to wander. In order to expand his business, he frequently interacted with customers, and one of the beautiful women became his lover. Despite having this lover, Mr. Wang insisted that he still loved his wife deeply. However, his actions caught the attention of his wife, which eventually led to the breakdown of the marriage. Mr. Wang regretted it and realized his mistake, but it was too late.
2. Mr. Zhou: I used to love my wife, but now I love people even more
Mr. Zhou has been married for 11 years, and his marriage is uneventful, and his relationship with his wife is gradually fading. A woman he met online gave him solace and their relationship was getting better. Despite having a lover, Mr. Zhou remained the family intact and was reluctant to divorce, taking into account the feelings of the children. Although he said that he no longer had love for his wife, in order to maintain the family, he chose to find emotional sustenance outside.
3. Mr. Zhu: Both wife and lover have love
Mr. Zhu, who has been married to his wife for eight years, confesses that he loves both his wife and his lover. Although his wife is virtuous and well-organized, Mr. Zhu rediscovers his first love at a class reunion. Despite having a lover, he is reluctant to leave his wife and makes up for his guilt by being attentive and changing his behavior.
Overall, the experiences of these three men show the choices and contradictions that men face in marriage between their wives and lovers. Remind men that their wives are the ultimate companions and that they should cherish and love those around them. At the same time, women outside also need to be cautious, not too complacent, because the outside feelings are not necessarily true love, the happiness of marriage requires the joint efforts of husband and wife, loyalty and sincerity are the key to maintaining marriage.