As Professor Tsang said:
When a person is big enough to understand the truth that only by giving can he get, it will not be far from the day of his transfer.
To be willing means to remove, streamline, and let go.
Sweep away the trash
We need to clean up the garbage in our lives, lighten the load on our hearts, and stay away from those who drain our energy.
Bian Lichun, a well-known organizer, discovered a common problem among Chinese families after serving more than 2,000 families:
Many unpleasant moments are associated with a cluttered space.
She tells the story of a client.
The family consists of three adults and a 4-year-old child, living together in a two-bedroom, two-bathroom house of more than 100 square meters.
Although the size of the room is not small, the whole home is always in chaos.
The floor of the living room is piled up with children's toys, early education instruments, and unwashed clothes ......
The coffee table was filled with snack bags, piled masks, and unused sanitizer ......
Such an environment causes the temper of the whole family to burn like firecrackers, and the home is full of complaints and quarrels.
Psychologist Jonah Berger believes that the living environment has a "contagious" effect on people.
A dirty and chaotic house can exude negative energy, making people feel irritable, anxious, and have low self-esteem, and living in such an environment for a long time can affect one's fortunes.
Only by cleaning up the household garbage in time and making the environment refreshing can you get a pleasant mood, and good luck will naturally come to your door.
The protagonist of the author's "I Decided to Live a Simple Life" was previously a sloppy hoarder.
He lives in a bachelor apartment, and every day when he comes home from work, he throws away his dirty laundry and watches TV while drinking beer.
The next day, he often got up too late, went out to work in a hurry to eat something, and didn't even iron his clothes properly.
His desk is also disorganized, he often can't find the tools and documents he needs, and his productivity is low.
Eventually, he was fired from the company for being decadent and lazy.
He finally made up his mind to put his life in order.
First, he cleaned the room thoroughly, threw away a lot of garbage, discarded too many items, and left only a desk and coffee table.
After tidying up his room, he began to read and write in a comfortable environment, had afternoon tea with friends, and began to exercise actively.
The whole person was completely renewed, and in just two years, he became a well-known writer and published his own works.
The so-called "wealth does not enter the dirty door, and blessing does not enter the side door".
People who are too lazy to clean their rooms are always bothered by clutter and are bound to have things going their way.
Ditch too much clutter and keep the environment clean and tidy, so that wealth and blessing can enter.
Clean up the emotional garbage
In the book "Power", it is mentioned that everyone is surrounded by a magnetic field, and no matter where they are, this magnetic field will follow.
If negative emotions pile up, it's like carrying a garbage magnetic field with you, and good luck will avoid you.
A friend of a Zhihu blogger @Guan Yuan is named Xiao Chen.
Xiao Chen was born in a rural area, and his parents were unable to provide him with financial support.
After getting married and having children, his life became more difficult, and he often had to borrow money from friends.
It stands to reason that Xiao Chen, who is living in embarrassment, should work harder, but he can hardly work in any job for a long time.
Because he has accumulated too much emotional garbage.
When he is doing takeout, if a customer complains about the overtime, he will think that the other party is deliberately targeting him and will fight with him;
When he was doing online car-hailing, he would quarrel with customers over some trivial things, resulting in continuous bad reviews, and the platform would no longer send orders to him.
In life, Xiao Chen has a sad face all day long, complaining about the sky, blaming his parents for being incapable, and blaming his wife and children for dragging him down.
His life went from bad to worse.
In this world, you can't improve your life just because you're complaining.
Only by cultivating an optimistic mindset can we usher in a smooth life.
Haruki Murakami experienced a period of financial distress before becoming famous.
He and his wife had to rent a narrow triangular house.
Open the front door every day and the tram whizz by;Push open the rear window, and another tram will pass by.
There was no decent furniture in the room, and at the coldest they had no heating equipment and had to hold the cat for warmth.
Murakami never complained, but would joke with his wife: "I'm afraid we can apply for Guinness records if we are so poor." ”
He has always believed that "despite the difficulties of the moment, the experience may pay off in the end".
He sat firmly at his desk every day to write, went out for a run, and lived his life with enthusiasm.
Eventually, he wrote his first award-winning book** and received a generous prize that greatly improved his financial situation.
Zhou Guoping once said: "No matter how short life is, we should live with a smile, enjoy and endure, this is life." ”
A person's luck depends on his state of mind.
If you sigh when you encounter setbacks, and stagnate when you encounter difficulties, you are doomed to never get rid of bad luck for the rest of your life.
Clean up negative emotions and think positively, so that everything can go smoothly and everything goes well.
Shielding from negative energy
Stay away from people and things that bring negative influences.
There is an interesting cartoon in which there is such a story:
A female boss covered in mud hit the company's employees and kept scolding, so the employees were so angry that they couldn't help but shout at his wife for why she hadn't prepared dinner yet.
The wife is a **, and after she was angry, she vented her anger on the patient who came to get the injection.
After the patient was discharged from the hospital, he limped down the sidewalk, was frantically honked by a passing driver, and the two sides began to argue loudly.
This story vividly demonstrates the speed and scope of the propagation of negative energy.
When we encounter entangled rotten people, learn to shield and stay away as soon as possible to avoid our own magnetic field being polluted.
There is a character in Mo Yan's ** "Late Bloomer" called martial arts.
Wu Gong has a violent temperament and a strong sense of revenge.
After he had a conflict with the village secretary, the village secretary's family raised more than 300 catties of fat pigs were poisoned to death;
When he clashed with his companions, he cut down an entire field of lush corn.
Later, when he got into a verbal altercation with someone, he insulted the other person's ancestors for eighteen generations and even spread rumors that the other party's son was not biological.
The man wanted to beat up Wu Gong, but remembering all the evil deeds before Wu Wu, he finally chose to avoid continuing to entangle with him.
He moved out of the village in time, away from martial arts, thus avoiding possible doom in the future.
Interaction between people is actually an exchange of energy.
Fight with rotten people intermittently, their anger will be imperceptibly transmitted to you, and their misfortune may also fall on you.
Only by shielding negative energy and staying away from garbage people can you protect your luck.
Quit junk happy
Another point, we have to quit junk happiness.
I have a friend who has recently gotten hooked on a game and often stays up late in pursuit of rare gear.
He felt more joy than ever because of the sense of accomplishment and the satisfaction of getting items that come with leveling up in the game.
However, his physical condition was getting worse and worse, and the performance bonus was gradually reduced.
Eventually, he was demoted during the company's internal adjustments, only to realize that he had fallen into a "dopamine trap".
Have you had a similar experience in your life?
After work, lie on the sofa and brush short**, but accidentally brush until late at night;
On the weekend, I was going to ask my friends to climb the mountain together, but as soon as I opened the game, I couldn't control it;
I finally had a small long vacation, and I was going to make various plans, but I was disrupted by a trivial TV series.
The American writer Stephen King once said, "Hell never makes you fall immediately, but engulfs you little by little." ”
When we quit junk happiness and embark on the path of self-discipline, it is possible for us to counterattack in life.
The story of my friend Lisa also confirms this.
Lisa used to be addicted to junk food and at one point weighed over 200 pounds.
She was obsessed with boring TV programs all day long, and she was also obsessed with TV shopping, and even borrowed money to buy things.
Indulging herself for a long time eventually led to her life turning into a nightmare.
She was often collected by debt collection agencies, and her physical health deteriorated due to tremendous internal pressure.
At the age of 34, Lisa was determined to emerge from the abyss.
She stopped filling her stomach with junk food and began to eat seriously;
She no longer lies on the couch all day watching TV, and runs around the park every day;
She no longer indulged in the cheap pleasure of shopping, but began to learn Xi various courses ......
When she was away from low-level pleasures, she had a well-proportioned body, a healthy body, and plenty of energy.
A few years later, she paid off her arrears, earned a master's degree in management from Harvard, and managed to change her fortunes.
As Mr. Lin Yutang said:
The wisdom of life lies in clarifying and filtering out the impurities that are not important and keeping the most important parts.
Quitting junk pleasures and choosing difficult but valuable things may be difficult at first, but the satisfaction that comes from perseverance is the source of luck that can nourish a lifetime.
It is through renunciation that we can make our lives better.