When people are old, they will understand some of the ancient precepts of their ancestors, which have a certain truth, and there are many wisdom and experience summaries of being a man and doing things, which are worth learning.
There is an ancient adage passed down by folk mouth, called ——"When people are over sixty, they don't say three words, and they don't fight for three things."
For the elderly who have passed the age of 60, how to pay attention to their words and deeds in order to live a better life?
How to understand this ancient admonition?Let's take a look at the analysis below.
Some elderly people, over 60 years old, especially like to show off their family wealth and children's achievements at gatherings of relatives and friends.
A relative, with a pension of 8,700 yuan, especially likes to take the initiative to talk about the topic of pensions, for some relatives whose pensions are relatively low or have no at allThis topic is more embarrassing, after all, people have a heart of contrast, and when you hear that your pension is so high, your heart will be somewhat unbalanced.
In the back, basically no relatives are willing to get close to his family, and the impression of him is also very bad, and his popularity is lost.
Therefore, after retirement, no matter how high your pension is and how great your children's achievements are, you must keep a low profile, and don't brag about yourself to your relatives, which is easy to arouse jealousy.
When people are over 60, try not to say some hurtful words, but to say more kind words and good words, so as to accumulate good fortune for yourself and your descendants.
As the saying goes: "A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word is hurtful and cold in June." ”
There are some words that cannot be taken back when they are spoken, and they may be a shadow for a lifetime for those who have been hurt. Therefore, don't be too casual, think carefully, don't say less, it's much smarter than say more.
Being able to speak is a manifestation of high emotional intelligence, and knowing how to measure is a kind of cultivation. It must be clear what is said on what occasion, and when it is better to say it or not, it is better to remain silent.
When a person is over 60, he must control his temper, and don't get angry, so he blurts out some cruel and angry words.
When people are emotionally out of control, the words they say are often not fully thought through the brain, with a certain amount of negative emotional catharsis, and after calming down, they will realize that they have said the wrong thing, and it will be difficult to redeem it.
Therefore, when encountering something, you must first calm down your emotions, and don't speak when your emotions are unstable, calm down for 5 minutes first, and develop the habit of speaking slowly and urgently.
The three indisputables refer to the three things that are not necessary to fight
When people are over 60, the relationship between husband and wife should also be maintained, think from a different perspective in everything, and don't only care about yourself.
Especially as a man, don't talk to your wife about some small problems, and don't argue about right and wrong. Relatively speaking, women are sometimes more emotional, and this is the difference between men and women.
The old husband and wife, what can be done if they are right or wrong, life still has to be lived, and with more tolerance and tolerance, the relationship will be more harmonious.
I used to know a neighbor, obviously I didn't have much money, for the sake of face, I often behaved very generously in front of relatives and friends, often invited guests to dinner, and was very generous.
The face is there, but the lining is not good, a little savings are quickly spent, the family can only save money, and even the tuition fees for the children's education are not enough, and they have to borrow from others everywhere.
So, with relatives and friends, don't fight for face.
The so-called face is just a manifestation of satisfying personal vanity, which essentially wants to show oneself, but also weighs one's own strength.
When people are old, they should also take life lightly. Something that is not more important, don't fight too much, don't make life too tiring.
If the economic conditions are still passable, don't think about making money anymore, people are old and their physical strength is not good, and going to work again is also overconsuming their body, and the gains outweigh the losses.
Some false names should also be looked down upon, and don't look at and evaluate us in the unexpected world. Some people, living under the opinion of others all their lives, are very tired, and life is not fun.
After retirement, we have to live our own lives, let them say what others say, live their own lives, take care of their families, is the true meaning of happiness.