If you were bitten by a snake, would you go around the country to find and kill the snake, or would you bandage the wound and focus on your life?
I'm sure any normal person would choose the latter.
However, in life, we often play the role of the former, to hurt our own people, waiting for revenge, must be vicious!
It's like chasing the snake that bit you. It didn't work. It can delay** and make the situation worse.
Read the "Law of Chasing Snakes" and let go of resentment, so that you can truly ** yourself.
I have heard a saying: The biggest harm in life is to let go, but never stop clinging;I should have given up a long time ago, but I've been trapped by a puppet for the rest of my life.
In Jin Yong's ** "The Return of the Congolese", Li Mochou was in pain all his life because he couldn't let go of his hatred.
She is an innocent and lively, beautiful and moving woman, by chance, she met the elegant young Lang Lu Zhanyuan, the two fell in love at first sight, and have had a lifelong personal relationship since then.
However, Lu Zhanyuan did not come back after coming down the mountain, and the earth seemed to evaporate. When Li Mochou went through all the trouble to find him, he married another woman named He Yuanjun.
Li Mochou then buried the fire of hatred, which became more and more intense, burning her day and night.
She once cut down more than 20 men, women and children in the old boxer's family, because the other party's surname is one character.
63 cargo ships were destroyed on the Yuan River because they had a "yuan" on their signboards.
She hated the woman who took away her obsession, He Yuanjun. Ten years later, when her strength was enough to take revenge on the parties, she came to Lujiazhuang, only to find that Lu Zhanyuan and He Yuanjun had both died.
Li Mochou turned their bones into ashes, one on the top of Mount Hua and the other on the coast of the East China Sea, keeping them away from heaven and away from their souls.
Aristotle said, "No one can torture a man but himself." ”
Haunted by resentment, you are the one who has been hurt the most and for the longest time. When a person is consumed by resentment and bound by obsession, life is not good.
Zhou Guoping once said: "If you suffer, just because you care, the more you care, the more painful it becomes." "If you don't care, you can't even hurt a hair. ”
The host, Ni Ping, told a story about her grandmother.
Grandma is a rural woman with a rough life, but she has a good attitude and never gets along with anyone.
At that time, the rural land reform was deepening, and many people in the village were afraid of being classified as rich peasants.
A neighbor had more than a dozen pieces of cloth at home, and he was worried that he would be discovered, so he asked his grandmother to help hide it, and his grandmother agreed.
Later, in order to protect himself, the neighbor first complained to the wicked and bit back, revealing that the grandmother had hidden the precious cloth, and the grandmother was severely criticized.
But the grandmother did not hold a grudge against her, and soon after, she happily brought fruit to the neighbors.
Ni Ping later asked grandma, don't you hate it in your heart?Grandma said: What's the use of hating, torture yourself!A person with a bad conscience is like having a heart attack. She hated herself.
I can't let go of everything in life, hard work, and difficulty in peace, all of which are my own obsessions. Resentment is the strongest poison, it can make people kill, and it can never be recovered.
Knowing how to let go and not hating anyone is the best wisdom.