The recent excitement of the Internet belongs to the duel between "capital" and "Internet celebrity".
Self-networking.
Dong Yuhui, after being used to the fullest by capital, chose poetry and distance;Meng Yutong, after making the best use of capital, is loyal to the Gou in front of him. Two young people standing at the outlet of traffic and **, with similar ages and similar situations, have a clear path in life, and their life choices are completely different.
It is said that the environment determines character, and character determines fate. Today, let's take a look at how the original family (class habits) affects their destiny
Career Choices:Goal control vs. reality bondingMeng Yutong, born in 1998, from a middle-class family in Shijiazhuang, was sent to Zhejiang University at the age of 17 to major in Spanish, and everyone knows about her escort path: the Shijiazhuang Foreign Chinese School where Meng Yutong attended high school is one of the 16 foreign Chinese middle schools designated by the Ministry of Education with escort qualifications. 
A small language can knock on the door of a prestigious school, but it may not be able to get a high starting point in her career, so she minored in the best college of Zhejiang University, Zhu Kezhen College, and the most fashionable-sounding major in this college, innovation and entrepreneurship management. With a beautiful face as a foundation, a double degree endorsement from a prestigious school, and the blessing of a tenth-level national dance specialty, Meng Yutong has been trying to find opportunities to debut and become famous since his sophomore year. She has participated in variety shows such as "Fight to the End" and "Magical Chinese Characters", but she didn't make a big splash, until she met Dong Mingzhu in the workplace care variety show "We Are New to the Workplace", and she was well-known to the public. 
Since the rights and wrongs of Meng Yutong and Gree on the Internet, there have been too many interpretations on the Internet, and it is good that they do not meet each other's expectations;A young PUA or a person without professional ethics, in short, he got his most proud title: the secretary of the president of the top 500. Along the way, under the guidance of a strong sense of purpose, the little girl skillfully used various social rules to easily get what she wanted. On the other hand, Dong Yuhui is like duckweed pushed by fate, where fate pushes him, he lands, takes root, sprouts, and blossoms:Dong Yuhui, born in 1993, came from a rural family in Tongguan, Shaanxi, and had a good life when he was young, but later his family fell into the middle of the road and could not afford expensive living expenses, so he could only pass by the key high schools in Xi'an. Dong Yuhui had a leg injury in high school and was unexpectedly suspended for nearly a year, but later with a solid foundation and hard work, he was admitted to the English Department of Xi'an University of Foreign Chinese. 
Since the Internet University, while studying, he earned living expenses by working as a tour guide for foreigners, and lived quite hard, but fortunately he got three very good offers when he graduated: a domestic watch company, an automobile company and New Oriental. Dong Yuhui couldn't make up his mind, so he went home and asked his father, who said like an artist: Son, what's the use of you selling very expensive watches and expensive cars to rich people?People are the measure of all things, and the work that influences people is the work that is valuable. Dong's father is undoubtedly wise in teaching the general direction of life, but the knowledge and information of the specific job market are undoubtedly lacking. 
Since the Internet, Dong Yuhui has spent four years from a front-line teacher to the youngest person in charge of the English subject of New Oriental's ** high school, which is excellent enough, but he still can't escape the fate of the decline of the industry. In 2021, under the order of "double reduction", all K12 education and training institutions are facing layoffs and transformation, and Dong Yuhui originally submitted his resignation to Sun Dongxu, then CEO of New Oriental, but when he resigned, HR got off work at the end of the day. The next day, Sun Dongxu found him:"Walking and walking, maybe there is a direction. ”In a word, Dong Yuhui stayed, and the later story is familiar to everyone. 
Values:Focusing on "I" vs. honoring traditional authorityCombing through Dong Yuhui's life experience, you will find a very interesting phenomenon, every time he encounters an either/or, right or wrong choice, he likes to do the same thing without exception:Home. When you can't make up your mind about work, go back to your hometown;When his career changed suddenly, he was so depressed that he couldn't pay the mortgage and couldn't pay the rent, so he went back to his hometownWhen the "small composition" incident intensified and could not be ended, he returned to his hometown. 
What are you doing when you go back to your hometown from the Internet?Spiritually Seeking Roots!I hope to use the wisdom of traditional masters to answer my current confusion, but the little pig demon in Langlang Mountain, when he returned to his hometown after encountering a bump outside, the admonition he could get from his father was probably nothing: son, we are all honest and responsible people, but we dare not forget our conscience, you can do it with others. Teacher Yu has driven your leaders away, and you have smashed the jobs of the leaders, what do you want to do?You have everything now, what do you want?One cannot be too greedy. The most important thing I can learn from my mother is:Eat well and sleep well. Sure enough, in the later live broadcast with Yu Minhong, Dong Yuhui ended all the turmoil with the sentence "Death for a confidant". 
Self-networking. Meng Yutong is different, she has her own value judgment from beginning to end, and always pays attention to her own feelings. Regarding the choice of life path, she said frankly, "I can listen to the opinions and suggestions of my parents on matters of principle, but the freedom of life, the main choice and initiative, must be in my own hands." When Dong Mingzhu said that she wanted to cultivate her as a second self, she was very sober and sent notes on Xiao's book:No one can be the second president, and I have never been a ** person. 
Since the disagreement between the two on the Internet, Dong Mingzhu was busy exporting the professionalism of the older generation on various occasions when young people should dare to endure hardships and be willing to dedicate, Meng Yutong posted such a meaningful ** on his social platform: Don't be old and value, the essence of work is value exchange, sometimes it has nothing to do with your own ideals, has nothing to do with other people's expectations, and even has nothing to do with self-value realization, the essence of work is to exchange time for compensation.
Since the network is everywhere, only the traditional authority is the first to look forward, and everything is self-centered, and there is no good or bad and right or wrong in the essence of values, but only the gift of their respective growth experiences: first of all, the difference in the growth environment, the latter was born late in the past few years, and he missed the era of accumulating wealth by working in the enterprise according to the rules;Second, it coincides with the profound changes in Internet technology, the rise of super individuals, and the step-by-step process is no longer likable, and individual IP is far more real than collective honor. The second is that the family background is different, the parents at the bottom are not only unable to give their children the confidence to choose freely in terms of material, but also play some social roles that need to be obeyed, and they have been pinched by Confucianism, locked by Legalism, and trapped by Taoism for too long and too long, and obedience to traditional authority has long been engraved into genes and passed on from generation to generation. Parents of middle-class families are well aware of the importance of independent thinking, and usually consciously discuss current affairs with their children, encourage their children to express their own opinions, and do not resist their children bargaining with themselves in daily life, and even deliberately create opportunities for their children to negotiate terms with themselves.
Personality:Tangled inferiority complex vs light and confident typeDong Yuhui has told his childhood experience more than once: his father only comes home once a year in order to earn money, his mother borrows money everywhere to pay tuition fees and can't borrow it, and his sister knows that the family can't afford it, so she finds various reasons to say that she doesn't want to study and takes the initiative to drop out of school, and works odd jobs at a wonton shop near the school to support him ...... schoolHe was very guilty, he was able to study and go to university, and work in a big city at the expense of his family, so he was extremely sensible, and he did not want to conflict with others, and only liked to be "vassal and elegant", and obtained spiritual strength in the poetry and literature of the sages and sages.
Since the outbreak of this "small composition" incident on the Internet, Dong Yuhui also chose to escape at first, he described himself as like a helpless "little grass", who could only crawl on the ground and wait for the storm to pass. Later, there was no way to avoid it, and he went back to Beijing to live broadcast with the boss, in order to settle the dispute quickly, he kept taking responsibility for himself: the matter of replying with the account was originally very small, my handling was very naïve and inappropriate, and the communication with Mr. Sun was not very good. Regarding the salary and retention issues that the "mothers-in-law" are most concerned about, he takes the overall situation into account: I don't need so much money, I don't need such a big number, just enough, I have given enough. If my existence can make a good selection for Dongfang, I will exist, and if my existence can't make Dongfang select well, Mr. Yu will adjust it for me.
Since the Internet's preference for big guys, he was flattered: I never understand why everyone likes me so much, many friends praise me more and more empty-hearted, I can't figure it out, I have been criticized from appearance and height since I was a child, and I am not perfect ......The above are the traits brought by the womb of a poor child: too kindness, too much concern, too much forbearance, and a sense of unworthiness for money, honor, and excessive social status. Look at Meng Yutong again, Gree's official front foot confirmed her resignation, and she affirmed her life creed on the social **: relying on others is never as good as relying on yourself.
Self-networking. A child from a well-to-do family, who has seen enough of the world since she was a child, has been deliberately cultivated enough abilities, she has enough psychological capital, "I can live well without anyone", and there is no "I have to do it" twist. In the face of Dong Mingzhu's rebuke recently, she still only used one sentence to transfer a thousand pounds: she is preparing for the exam, and it is inconvenient to respond. turned his head and continued to operate his own blogger platform, continued to receive advertisements, continued to give speeches at Tsinghua University, and continued to "be the big heroine of life together" with fans. In the face of an opponent whose absolute strength is several times that of herself, the little girl does not confront, does not prove herself, does not empathize, and focuses on one that does not waste time emotionally. It is really because of growing up in such a privileged family environment, parents live a relaxed, self-consistent, calm and relaxed life, and children are exposed to it, so it is naturally easier to learn the skills of emotional stability;Parents themselves are comfortable in interpersonal interactions, and children are subtle, so they are naturally better at roundabout negotiations and skillful responses to conflicts.
Summing up from the Internet, Dong Yuhui is of course a good cabbage, but if it weren't for Luo Yonghao setting up the stove, other bigwigs contributed broth, many isolated and bullied professionals brought firewood, competitors offered chili mushrooms, fungus and daylily, and the "mothers-in-law" took out exquisite silver plates. Without the participation of these people, this dish of gluttony that shows the beauty of human nature would not have been served on the table in any way. Even, at the beginning, if there was no deep sympathy for the education and training industry;There is no official traffic support for a certain sound out of its own strategic considerations, not that he must not be popular, but at least it is not as popular as today's national degree. The children at the bottom are from ordinary workers to sky-high partners, such a cool plot, don't say that other young people can't copy it, even if they start from scratch, Dong Yuhui himself can't copy it, but middle-class families are cultivating "Meng Yutong" in batches, and even more elite families are cultivating better "Meng Yutong": the milk tea sister who danced aerobics into Tsinghua University, Gu Ailing who skated into Stanford in the snow, and Guo Wenjing, who entered Harvard by faith and was chased by Silicon Valley bigwigs after completing his studies. In the Internet era, children from ordinary families can see too many examples of superior backgrounds and all their efforts. It's not that we dislike the original family and are indifferent to family affection, it's just that "the husband and wife in the stone trench village say goodbye, and there are more tears than in the Palace of Eternal Life", the more people go up, the more they find that in the cruel workplace environment, family background greatly affects a person's fate choice. This is probably the sorrow of children from ordinary families, so the chicken baby wants the chicken itself!100 help plan