Xiao Mo:
Hello, I don't really have anything big to ask you, I just want to talk to you.
I'm 29 years old, married for a year, we're classmates, we've been together for five years, and then he's always shown to love me, but the person who loves me so much, he's cheating.
Probably half a year after we got married, he didn't admit it at first, saying that I was cranky, and finally I took out **and**, he began to beg for mercy, I felt uncomfortable, I felt that I couldn't forgive, he began to mess up, meaning, it's out, cheating, what can I do.
Then I went back to my parents' house, and I thought he would come to me, but instead of coming, my friend ran into him and the girl.
Seriously, that girl is not very good, at least I don't think it's better than me, but he just can't break off with her, and when I said I want to divorce him, he didn't choose to coax me, but continued to be with that woman, which really made me really unable to figure it out.
The two of us are still like this, and no one is looking for anyone, I just belong to a state where I can think about it for a while, and I can't think about it for a while.
Sometimes I think that there are so many men in the world, why do I have to spend it with him, but sometimes I start to get entangled again, how can he say that he doesn't love if he doesn't love.
I really think I'm good to him, and I don't have any big mistakes or bad things about myself, how did he become like this?
I'm so good to him, to his family, why doesn't he love me anymore?
What the hell am I not good at?
I really can't figure it out, my internal friction is really serious, I can't work well now, I can't live well, I feel like I'm about to collapse.
Girl: Hello, thank you for trusting, thank you for treating me as a friend and sharing your story with me.
First of all, I'll answer your question, are you *** bad?
So far, looking at your description, I don't think you're doing anything wrong.
As for why he cheated, that is, his character is not good, and it has nothing to do with you.
We have to figure out one thing, that is, whether others love me or not and whether I am good or not has nothing to do with it.
These are completely two different things.
Don't fall into the mistake that if he doesn't love you and chooses someone else, it's that you're not good, or that you're not as good as that person.
This is not right.
Let me give you an example, for example, if you love apples, then bananas, pears, grapes are not good
So you get out of this misunderstanding first, and you have to believe that you are good and worthy of love.
Next, let's talk about the issue of emotional backlash, in fact, most women will be like this when they encounter betrayal, which has a lot to do with women's thinking patterns and personalities.
At that time, you can divert your attention.
Try to find something to do, keep yourself busy, and don't think about him.
Although you can't get out of it now and don't want to get divorced, I think if you completely cut off contact with him for a year and work hard to improve yourself, then after a year, the situation will definitely be reversed.
At that time, he threw it away or picked it up, you have the final say, whether you want this marriage or not, the decision is in your hands.
Come on!--Hello!