Once upon a time, in the management of marriage, he often complained about others, thinking that he was blind and did not find the ideal other half in his mind!
Think that all the cause and effect you get is ** to your other half! often complain to him, accuse him from above! Think that all the pressure you are under now is ** on him!
complained that he didn't give himself a good life after marriage, and made himself what he is now, thinking that the unfair treatment he is receiving now is all because of his lack of hard work, and the debts he owes are all because of him!
And we often quarrel, every time I think of these unhappy things, it will rise to a quarrel, I will also complain, he will also be wronged, I think we both thought about divorce! But for the sake of the kids, we had to be together!
But lately, I seem to have found a way for us to get along! I have learned to change, and when I encounter difficulties, I will no longer blame him, but be considerate of him, tolerate him, solve problems for him, and manage our lives together!
Indeed, marriage needs to be managed, not just taken for granted! Yang Jiang once said: "Marriage is a practice, which requires two people to grow and operate together." The best marriage is to find happiness in the ordinary and support each other in the midst of difficulties. ”
And my thinking has also changed, I no longer think that he did not give me a good life, life is his own, although he did not give me good material conditions, but he is also working hard, and he is also constantly struggling...
The quality of your life is also determined by yourself, Yang Jiang also said: "Marriage is the most important decision in life, who you choose to be with determines the quality of your life." I hope that we can hold hands and welcome all the joys and sorrows of the future together. ”
Since we have chosen him to be our other half, the next step is to manage it well! The first step is to learn to speak well, don't bring him emotions, let alone let him guess what he wants, and communicate in time if there is a problem!
Learn from the mode of getting along with a happy family every day, keep trying, and you will always find a way to get along that suits you! Recently, I was abused by He Youjun and Xi Mengyao's mode of getting along, in everyone's eyes, Xi Mengyao climbed He Youjun, thinking that Xi Mengyao's married life would not be very happy!
But on the contrary, the mode of getting along with the two is really worth learning and Xi, the mode of getting along is really comfortable, and the problems encountered in the lives of the two will be solved in time, and anything can be said directly! I feel uncomfortable with the mode of getting along, and I will say it, and the two of them will adjust it in time...
On the whole, the way the two get along is really comfortable! Instead of letting the other party guess their emotions, because the other party really can't guess! The easiest and most direct way is to express it yourself! Two to adjust!
And I'm slowly trying this way, communicating well, and no longer complaining about others!