At the age of 24, she resolutely decided to marry a 46-year-old old bachelor, despite strong opposition from her family. After marriage, she even took the risk to give birth to two children.
Dong Mingying, who is now 38 years old, is known as a "crawling mother", how does she take care of her two children and her elderly husband?
A young woman is married to an older unmarried man who has a disability.
At the beginning of 2009, a special wedding was held in a county in Rizhao, Shandong.
This special wedding is remarkable first and foremost because the bride can only walk by lying on her hands on the ground, which adds a special meaning to her new marriage.
The bride is only 24 years old, and the groom is 46 years old, and he is a lonely old man, this marriage with a huge age difference is difficult to understand, causing people to speculate and question.
These two people do have a heart-to-heart relationship, but there is an age gap of more than 20 years between them, so how exactly did they get together?What kind of twists and turns are hidden between them?
It is reported that Dong Mingying is the name of the bride, she was born in 1985, and her hometown is located in a barren mountain village in Rizhao, Shandong.
In her childhood, she was as lively and cute as any other little girl, but a high fever changed the trajectory of her life drastically.
In 1986, Dong Mingying was just over a year old when he suddenly had a high fever of more than 40 degrees, and it was early in the morning, and no doctor came to see him.
In that impoverished and backward mountain village, Dong Mingying's parents had to give him fever-reducing medicine, but his condition still did not improve.
Dong Mingying's high fever did not go away, so she had to knock on the doctor's door with her, and the doctor gave her a fever-reducing injection.
Sure enough, after Dong Mingying finished the fever-reducing injection, the fever quickly subsided. Within a few days, she was back to her normal life. However, what is surprising is that this disease will leave subsequent sequelae.
After a while, the parents noticed that Dong Mingying's body became weak and weak, her waist could not be straightened, and she would involuntarily lean towards the ground whether she was sitting or standing.
In that era of lack of information, Dong Mingying's parents just thought that Dong Mingying's growth was stunted and didn't pay much attention to it, and they didn't realize the seriousness of the problem until Dong Mingying couldn't stand up straight at all.
Dong Mingying's parents took her to the hospital for acceptance**, and after a joint diagnosis by several major hospitals, it was confirmed that Dong Mingying's current condition was caused by the failure to deal with the fever in time back then. This situation led to severe damage to the nerve center of Dong Mingying's brain, which led to weakness in the lower body.
At present, it is difficult to completely solve this situation, and even if there is a way, it will be expensive to pay for surgery. For the impoverished Dong Mingying family, this is simply worse, and the helpless parents can only take Dong Mingying home.
After Dong Mingying returned home, although she couldn't accept her situation for a while, she gradually adapted to this state.
Even when she sees her parents feeling guilty about their bodies, she will take the initiative to comfort them, telling them that she is not much different from ordinary people, except that others wear one pair of shoes, and she needs to wear two pairs of shoes.
Although Dong Mingying has long accepted her physical condition, she is still seen as an outlier by the outside world, which led to her being often criticized by her classmates when she was in elementary school, and eventually had to drop out of school and go home.
Drop out of school and go home. When Dong Mingying was about to enter junior high school, she faced a thorny problem: the junior high school was far away from her home, and she needed to pick up and drop off from school every day, which was very inconvenient.
Dong Mingying offered to drop out of school at that time, but her parents immediately objected. However, Dong Mingying insisted that he no longer wanted to go to school because he was ridiculed by his classmates when he went to school.
Dong Mingying's main reason for dropping out of school is not actually this, she knows that her family situation is not good. Not only do parents have to provide for themselves to educate and take care of themselves, but they also have to provide for their two younger siblings, which is a very difficult pressure. Dong Mingying has long had the idea of sharing the pressure for his parents.
Dong Mingying eventually succeeded in convincing her parents, who agreed to her request to drop out of school. After that, Dong Mingying took on all the housework at home, took the initiative to prepare meals for her parents in advance, and cleaned up.
Not only did Dong Mingying think about earning money to support her family in her free time, but due to her physical disability, she was unable to do general work, so she began to look for some manual work to do. At home, she began to make lighters, wear necklaces and tie rubber bands.
Dong Mingying has always tried her best to take care of her family, day after day, until she was in her twenties. The girls of her age have long been married and have children, but Dong Mingying has not yet come to introduce her partner.
Dong Mingying is physically disabled, so it is not easy to find someone who does not dislike her, and this reason is obvious. It wasn't until she was 24 years old that a matchmaker came to her door.
However, Dong Mingying's introduction by the matchmaker was a single old man over 46 years old, which made Dong Mingying's parents look very different.
Dong Mingying's parents made a big fuss because their daughter, although she was physically disabled, should not introduce her to someone who could be her father.
She bluntly said in front of the matchmaker that even if her daughter never got married for the rest of her life, she would never be allowed to fall into an unhappy marriage.
Dong Mingying is a sensible person, and she does not want to be a burden to her family. So she began to inquire carefully about the lonely old man. After learning about it, she learned that the lonely old man's name was Feng Zhiyu, and he had not been married for many years because his parents had been in poor health.
Although Feng Zhiyu had many brothers in his family, they all went out to work, and he was the only one who stayed with his parents to take care of them and used all his savings to treat his parents.
For this reason, wedding plans were postponed. After Dong Mingying learned about this, she had a good impression of Feng Zhiyu, and she felt that he was a very responsible and responsible man.
After the two began to get acquainted, they learned that Feng Zhiyu also appreciated her kind and strong qualities. They admired each other and soon made the decision to get married. The daughter's firm attitude made her parents no longer object, and finally agreed to the marriage.
Having children after marriage. After Dong Mingying got married, she was eager to have children for Feng Zhiyu, but the actual situation was not optimistic.
Dong Mingying was told by the doctor that her physical condition was not suitable for pregnancy because the fetus could compress her spine during pregnancy, which would be a cruel experience for her.
Despite this, Dong Mingying did not give up, and she finally successfully overcame many difficulties in 2008 to welcome her lovely daughter. After becoming a mother, Dong Mingying took care of her children very carefully, trying to avoid repeating her own tragedy.
Under Dong Mingying's careful care, the children grew up strongly, which made her have the idea of having another child again, because she wanted to have both children.
In 2012, Dong Mingying ushered in the birth of another child, however, this time it was still a daughter. However, Dong Mingying did not show any disgust, and still poured great love into this little daughter.
Now more than ten years have passed, the eldest daughter is already in her teens, and Feng Zhiyu has already turned gray and is about to enter the old age. There was no longer a labor force in the family, and it became a problem to maintain daily life. At this time, society also began to pay attention to their situation.
Donations from the National Poverty Alleviation and Subsistence Allowance, the Disabled Persons' Federation and enthusiastic people have helped this special family and built a house for them.
Dong Mingying expressed his deep gratitude for this, said that he would remember it in his heart, and vowed to repay the kindness with a spring of reciprocation. Therefore, when the county disabled people's self-improvement club was established, Dong Mingying actively participated in and actively promoted it.
At the same time, Dong Mingying also began to share his daily life on the Internet, which received the attention and support of many netizens. Netizens were moved by her strong will and expressed their admiration and encouragement for her in the comment area.
In order to encourage fans, Dong Mingying not only started the live broadcast, but also showed her specialty - singing. Today, she has accumulated more than 200,000 fans in the live broadcast room, and she also uses this platform to help the revitalization of her hometown and recommend agricultural products from all over the world to netizens.
Epilogue. It is reported that Dong Mingying's live broadcast has received widespread support and has also promoted the development of local e-commerce. From Dong Mingying, you can feel the true connotation of "self-improvement", and I hope that her future life will be smooth sailing and happiness.