Talk about a topic: always want to be someone else. In fact, this is a very big and common problem in society today. Whether it's for yourself, your children, or your employees. We have to have a fixed and uniform standard of goodness, so we ask our children like this, and we ask our lovers like that, and in the end there will be problems. This is something unique to our Chinese, and our culture for thousands of years likes unity. For example, billboards, clothing, everything. But reunification will wipe out a hundred flowers, why should they all be the same?
For example, up to now, has there been any unified thing in the ** of the Void Economy?For example, uniform dress, unified this and that, all of them are not needed, and what you like is what you like. If you look at who wears this dress and want to buy it, it's not someone else's unity, it's our own liking, then go and buy it. A hundred flowers bloom is the way. The Tao is to allow everything in the world to take on its own form, to take on its own appearance, not to have a unified thing.
The same is true of the child, this child is very eloquent, so go do him;If this kid is a little stupid, then he is a little stupid;If the child is very smart, then he is smart;If this child is likely to be playful, then he will be playfulSay he likes to draw, then paint;He likes to dance, so let's dance. It's as simple as that, everyone has to be their own. Why should there be a fixed, uniform standard of good?
What do you mean by features?It's that everyone is different. Once you pursue the same, there will be problems. For example, we require our children to score equally well on their exams, isn't that foolish?He is what he is. If he can be very successful, we support him;If he likes a comfortable life, or if he just doesn't achieve anything, and we support him, that's him, that's his life, why do we have to let him have achievements?No, you don't.
A friend asked: Does the teacher have no requirements for **?Yes, but according to their own characteristics, development characteristics, preferences, and aspirations. Don't we ask a little bit of our children?Yes, but it is very important to follow his own characteristics, not ours. For example, when we raise flowers, each flower variety is different, when to water, when to fertilize, when to bask in the sun, it is different. It's not that I want to dry, I think it's time to water it, but I want to understand its characteristics and see when it's time to water, this is very important, otherwise the operation of different flower properties is unified, can it work?