A few days ago, I wrote a "hitchhiker" and received feedback from some readers, of course, no matter what age you are, a good "hitchhiker" is a help in life.
Today, let's talk about what kind of partners we need more after middle age.
01.Casual hitchhiker
Many women are middle-aged and have no friends, because they live in unfamiliar cities, and it is even more difficult to make friends in the workplace. The trivialities of life bent their shoulders, and their friends were scattered all over the place.
At this time, the peers we meet while walking and the neighbors in a community we meet while shopping are likely to become our "partners".
The other day, I went to the stadium and met a mother who was also playing football with her child, and we both looked at each other and smiled, and a thousand words were in our words.
The two children were playing together, and we walked along the runway, talking about the recent cold air, talking about this year's school environment, and the children's naughty and abrasive ......
Suddenly saw a bush of roses in the snow in front of them, and the two of them smiled together and raised their mobile phones, and the little beauty was frozen in that moment.
When we separated, we didn't add WeChat to each other, but just said "goodbye" lightly.
In life, there are too many passes, and it is rare to have someone to accompany you for a ride, even if it is a short distance.
The leisure mode of middle-aged people, not boring or annoying, not near or far, blowing the night wind together, seeing the lights on the street, smelling the lights of the city, and tasting the tea ...... that still leaves residual warmthThat's enough.
02.Life hitchhiker
Naturally, our ideal life partners are our teammates.
However, when a woman reaches middle age, she finds that the person next to her will be a little behind.
It doesn't matter, the big lover is unreliable, and there are little lovers, our lives don't need to revolve around the child, but we need to be a good companion with the child.
When stir-frying, ask your son to help wash the dishes;After eating, ask him to clean up the dishes and chopsticks, or wipe the table;When you're done, pull him to give him a ...... on the backFragmented daily life, moving together.
You know, he is our son, and he will be someone else's husband in the future, and now he can become our life partner, so that he can better manage his own life in the future.
The days are trivial, and if someone bears it together, there will be less tiredness and annoyance.
03.Listen to the song
When people reach middle age, even if they are busy, they must leave a little space for themselves.
A friend said that she had a singing partner, 698 kilometers apart, and listened to 6,628 hours of singing together in three years.
She didn't even know the gender of the other party, but when she opened the listening software one day, she wanted to find someone to listen to** together, and she met each other.
Sometimes, when she encounters a song she doesn't like, she will also switch to what she likes, and the same is true for the other party.
But most of the time, they listen together quietly, and there is no simple text exchange.
Perhaps, it doesn't matter who you listen to, the important thing is that you know that somewhere, someone is doing the same thing with you, and there will be a little comfort.
04.Writing partner
Yesterday, an article "Writing Partner" written by the students I instructed was published in the "Jinling Evening News", and a search for a partner was set off in our group.
In this era of rapid information flow, we need a writing partner with a stable kernel.
But if the people you team up with don't do it if they write a little bit today, rest for a day tomorrow, and have other things to do the day after tomorrow, then such a pair is dispensable.
No matter what important things are today, even if you take a minute and write a 100-word punch card, this will continue.
Moreover, if you insist on writing for 10 days and insist on writing for 30 days, the gap between the two is slowly widening, and the other party may not be able to keep up with your rhythm in the future, which will lose the meaning of teamwork.
A pair is indispensable, but we need a good one.
05.Share the tie-in
Middle-aged people's emotions often need to be regulated by themselves, but we also need to share a partner.
When you are mourning, your partner suddenly sends a warm little **, maybe your mood will slowly improve.
When you work overtime on the weekend, make a meme and send it to the other party, and the reply you receive may be the source of your laughter.
Life is so tired, it's really good to have a partner to share with each other.
Of course, "hitchhiker" is not an emotional trash can, nor is it your punching bag, if you want to "ride" for a long time, any relationship needs a little more care.
Minimalist living