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My name is Li Feng, I am 30 years old this year, and I have been married to my wife Xiaomei for 5 years. We are a typical post-80s couple, who agreed with each other to implement the system when they first worked, and everything was divided equally after marriage to show equality between men and women. I consider myself very open-minded, I never touch Xiaomei's money, I take care of the mortgage and daily expenses. We were on good terms for 5 years until we recently had a dispute over buying a new house. "Xiaomei, let's discuss buying a new house. This time we have to have one of us pay more for the down payment, I think you should come. "One day after dinner, I said to Xiaomei. "Why am I out again?".Didn't you say that everything was good at the beginning, why did you want me to give more?Xiaomei's eyes widened in confusion. "It's not all out, just six or seven percent, I can continue to pay the mortgage and daily expenses. I explained, "Housing prices are expensive now, and they're improvements, and you have to pay more, you know." "The house is for the two of us to live together, how can you push it all to me?."Xiaomei raised her voice, "My salary is not high, and I am still preparing to have a child recently, and I have saved some hard-earned money, if you let me take it out, I will not be enough at all!."”
I was a little anxious: "Having a child is a matter of the future, we haven't been married for so many years, let's do the things at hand first!."I was stunned and at a loss for a moment. Xiaomei continued: "I didn't tell you before, because I didn't want you to worry. We can save slowly, or we can think about other things later. But children can't force it, and it will only make us miserable. "I had mixed feelings in my heart, both feeling that Xiaomei was not honest enough with me, and feeling sorry for what happened to her. There was also a hint of self-blame, because I only cared about myself having children before, but I never thought about her feelings. "Well, let's talk about the child later. Now to buy a house, you can take out all the money you can take out first, if it's not enough, I'll find a way. I said. "Brother Feng, why are you like this?Xiaomei's eyes were red again, "I've explained the situation to you, why do you still have this attitude?"I was also a little excited: "I have a bad attitude?".Over the years, I have adhered to the system and never touched a penny of your salary!I prepare all the children's houses, but you dislike me, and you have money to keep for yourself and not give it to the family, is this reasonable?”
Xiaomei glared at me, her eyes full of sadness of betrayal. I knew I was wrong, but I couldn't figure out how to give in for a while. "Forget it, let's talk about the house later. Seeing that Xiaomei's eyes were red, I softened my heart again, "Let's all calm down, don't hide anything in your heart, tell me." "Okay, let's put off the IVF thing for a while, and then consider it when we have accumulated enough in the future." "I'm a little irritable. "Then you have to make a little promise to me and the child, right?Xiaomei asked, "I really can't come up with that much down payment, you have to find a way, and you will have to pay most of the child's expenses in the future." When I heard her say this, I was angry: "Why?".That's what you're saving money forWhen you want to use it, you will push it to me?”
No, that's not what I meant. Xiaomei explained. "I thought we were living wholeheartedly, but it turned out that you had a premeditated plan!"I said something excessive, on impulse. With that, Xiaomei ran into the bedroom crying and slammed the door. Leave me alone to regret my gaffe. I anxiously asked, "Mom, what kind of disease do you have?"Does Dad know about the condition?What did the doctor say?"The doctor hasn't diagnosed it yet, but he needs to be hospitalized immediately**. I won't tell you more, the doctor is coming to check the ward, you and Xiaomei take care of yourself, don't worry about me. After saying that, Mom hung up**. 
I was extremely nervous, my mother had always been in good health, and this time she suddenly fell ill and was hospitalized, which made me both worried and blamed myself. What makes it even more difficult for me to talk about it is that Xiaomei and I are arguing about the house, and we can't afford to pay for my mother's medical bills at the moment. At this time, Xiaomei came out of the bedroom with red eyes and asked me softly about the situation just now. I briefly told her about my mother's sudden illness. Unexpectedly, Xiaomei took out her deposit card without saying a word: "You take it and use it first, Auntie's body is important." We'll talk about the money later. I was speechless, and I didn't know what to say. Xiaomei still looked resentful, but she did not hesitate to lend a helping hand in my most difficult time, and her kindness at this moment made me feel ashamed. "Xiaomei, I'm sorry, I was wrong. I said apologetically, "I shouldn't have quarreled with you over money." Don't worry, I will find a way to solve it, and I will never let you and your mother be wronged. Xiaomei silently looked away and nodded. I know it will take a long time to make amends for the damage she has suffered. 
That night, I tossed and turned with insomnia. While worrying about his mother's condition, he blamed himself for his gaffe to Xiaomei during the day. After a long time, I got up lightly and poured water. The moonlight shone through the curtains, and I saw Xiaomei lying there with her eyes closed, tears still on the sides of her cheeks, looking very tired. I sat down on the edge of the bed and whispered her name, "Xiaomei, have you slept?"Xiaomei didn't answer, still with her eyes closed. I continued: "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said that about you today, and I shouldn't have quarreled over money. You have been silently paying for this family, and I am the selfish one. "Hmm. Xiaomei replied weakly, her eyes still closed. 
I promise to discuss everything with you in the future. We will find a way to deal with the money together, and we will not only let you carry it yourself. Children too, we take our time, if we don't have each other. I whispered. Xiaomei finally opened her eyes, looked at me and said, "I hope you will do what you say." As long as you don't force me after making your own decisions, I can understand and accept the rest. "I know it's wrong. I said, holding her hand. Time flies, and in a blink of an eye, our new house has been renovated and is ready to move next month. My mother's illness has also improved a lot, and she has been discharged from the hospital to recuperate at home. Although she still needs regular check-ups, she is in good spirits and makes us all feel relieved. Yesterday, Xiaomei suddenly said that she had frequent symptoms of dizziness and noisy recently, and she wanted to go to the hospital for a check-up. Without saying a word, I took leave to accompany her to the doctor in person. 
When I got home, I happily hugged Xiaomei in a circle, and then gently stroked her flat belly, full of gratitude and joy. "It's a good thing you didn't listen to me that day and took out all your savings to pay for the house. I smiled and said to Xiaomei, "Otherwise, it will be more difficult for us to have a baby." Xiaomei also smiled: "You made me wake up." Without you being willing to give in and take a step back, we wouldn't be where we are today. This baby is our common joy. "I hugged Xiaomei deeply. The past disputes are like a dream in another life, and I am grateful to God for giving us this most precious gift. From now on, we will be one body, and everything will be faced and borne together.