Today's hero, my cousin, the daughter of the uncle's family. My cousin is 55 years old and retired from a business. In the first two years of retirement, the unit rehired her, which was a kind of retirement. Since last year, the company's efficiency has not been good, and my cousin is not a technical position, so she has completely retired.
Retirement is hectic because my son is not married and my brother-in-law is not retired. Fortunately, the two of them ate in the canteen at noon, but the 80-year-old mother-in-law lived with them. My mother-in-law's family is rural, and my brother-in-law was admitted to a technical secondary school that year, and after graduation, he was assigned to a thermal power plant. My cousin's father-in-law died early, leaving in his 50s. The mother-in-law did not remarry, and the brother-in-law had two older sisters, and he was the youngest. When the two daughters got married, the mother-in-law sold the old house, took out all her savings, and bought a big wedding house for her brother-in-law in the city. She said that she would no longer look for a wife, and would go to the city to live with her son.
After my cousin married my brother-in-law, my mother-in-law was responsible for taking care of the family's daily life, buying vegetables, cooking, and doing housework. My cousin just goes to work and helps the children with their homework. The brother-in-law's salary was handed over to the mother-in-law to manage, because it was a habit when she was unmarried, but her cousin couldn't accept it, and her salary was kept by herself. My mother-in-law sometimes complains that my cousin spends money indiscriminately, and my cousin doesn't care. My cousin's son is 30 years old, and my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have lived together for 30 years. How can there be a spatula that doesn't touch the edge of the pot, there were small contradictions in the past, when my cousin went to work, I didn't get together every day, and I got over it. Now that her cousin is retired, she spends more time with her mother-in-law than with her husband and son. The mother-in-law is willing to meddle in affairs, loves to nag, and is centered on her son and grandson everywhere, so it is superfluous for her cousin.
My cousin has a habit of drinking milk at night, but my brother-in-law doesn't want to drink it. In the past, my cousin bought it directly after work. Now that it's cold, she doesn't want to go out, so she asks her brother-in-law to bring a box when he comes home. The mother-in-law was not happy and said that his son, you don't drink milk either, what are you buying it for? My brother-in-law is also very strange, you just say that your daughter-in-law wants to drink it. He's good enough to never buy it since. This made my cousin so angry that she quarreled with her brother-in-law, saying that he was still a mother at such an age. This old lady is not happy, why do you say my son?My son earns more than you, and he doesn't eat, drink, prostitute or gamble. In the face of her mother-in-law's accusations, her brother-in-law did not squeak. My cousin was angry and ran away from home.
Someone rang the doorbell yesterday, and I saw that it was my cousin who came, and our two families were in the same city, not far away. But my cousin generally doesn't come, I thought something was wrong. But as soon as she entered the door, my cousin shed tears, quite aggrieved. My cousin said that for so many years, it was not easy, and outsiders only envied her family harmony, no need to worry, no need to do housework. But she knew it was no way. The mother-in-law is strong, and the brother-in-law is filial. If she doesn't give in, there will be no peace at home. is so compromised, and it can't get back their understanding, especially the brother-in-law, the man who has a bond between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I only know that I feel sorry for my mother, but I don't understand my daughter-in-law.
My cousin said she had been depressed since she retired. The mother-in-law who does housework picks and chooses, and does not do housework, and the brother-in-law says that she is not filial to the elderly, so it is a dilemma. The happiest time was when my mother-in-law was sick and hospitalized. The 80-year-old man was hospitalized for more than 20 days with a cold this time, and his cousin was busy before and after, accompanying him in the hospital during the day and changing his brother-in-law there at night. My cousin said that although she was tired, she had never felt so relaxed in her heart. You can live your life according to your own ideas, eat what you like, and do what you like. Lie down when you want, sit when you want, and do whatever you want. My cousin said that it was only in those days that she felt that this home was her own.
I called my brother-in-law and told him that I invited my cousin to stay at my house for a few days so that she could calm down. My brother-in-law said okay, I'll pick it up in a few days. Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read. I want to persuade my cousin these days, and when my brother-in-law comes, I will also persuade my brother-in-law. Home and everything is prosperous!
I think the main problem is not my mother-in-law, not my cousin, but my brother-in-law. He is a bridge, but his partiality will only aggravate the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. There is nothing wrong with him valuing his mother's feelings, and he can comfort his cousin in private. It may also be that you have been married for a long time and are numb.
This thing seems to be right, there is nothing wrong with being filial to the old man's son, there is nothing wrong with the cousin who wants his own hostess status, and it is not wrong for the old man to devote himself wholeheartedly to this family, so who is wrong?Life is not easy, do it and cherish it!