Hello everyone, I'm Mu Muxue!
I found that all the excellent girls in life have one thing in common, that is, they recognize themselves.
That is, no matter what others say, she feels that she is right and valuable, and insists on going her own way.
Recently, I learned a new word, which is called "self-conscious gold". What I understand is that no matter what kind of environment you are in or what kind of experience you have had, you must actively recognize yourself.
It reminds me of a quote from William James in psychology:
"Your value depends on the value you give yourself. ”Our self-awareness is one of the most important factors that affect our lives, and the core of self-awareness is self-evaluation, that is, self-recognition.
In fact, each of us should become the protagonist in our own life script, but in real life, many people are Xi to being a supporting role in other people's lives;
In the face of love, life, and career, he always panders to others and forgets his own heart.
The greatest charm of a person is to know what he wants and work hard for it.
I observed those excellent girls around me and found that they all have the following characteristics, which I summarized into six aspects, hoping to give you some inspiration.
Know how to invest in yourself and let yourself grow;
Charlie. Munger said
"The surest way to get what you want is to make yourself worthy of it. ”Invest in yourself and make yourself better to deserve better things.
Excellent girls will not be stingy with their investment. They will not only pay attention to their appearance, but also their connotations.
They are willing to spend time and money to learn Xi new knowledge, improve their skills, expand their horizons, and enrich their experience.
They know that only by constantly learning Xi can they continue to make progress and adapt to this changing world.
Only by constantly investing in yourself and making yourself better can you get more opportunities and achievements.
Only by constantly improving their own value can they continue to increase their influence and win their respect.
As Socrates said:
"I know I don't know anything, so I'm going to keep learning Xi. ”Excellent girls are such eternal Xi, they dress themselves with knowledge and wisdom to make themselves more connotative and attractive.
Girls who know how to invest in themselves will continue to Xi, improve their abilities, expand their knowledge, and improve their emotional intelligence, so as to walk more steadily and confidently on the road of life.
Stop messing up and start trying to be the best version of yourself;
It's cool to be rotten for a while, but it's not promising for a long time.
Haruki Murakami said:
"I didn't want to run today, that's why I went to run. ”When there is a difficulty, we must find a way to solve it, not run away from it.
Excellent girls will not give up their life goals because of temporary difficulties, but will strive to be the best version of themselves.
Take every opportunity and every task seriously, do your best to complete it, constantly challenge yourself, surpass yourself, and let yourself go further and further on the road of life.
In life, they set high standards for themselves, make clear plans for themselves, and strictly follow them.
They will use their own efforts to fight for their own opportunities, to realize their dreams, and to create their own value.
If you don't admit defeat and things don't do well, you will keep reviewing and summing up experience until it is done smoothly.
No more internal friction, work hard to make money;
Life esthetician Yataro Matsuura said:
"The so-called dilemma in life is nothing but the shackles of your cranky thoughts and self-imposed limitations. ”Self-internal friction has no meaning for one's own growth, but rather allows oneself to fall into endless confusion.
There are still many things worth doing in our lives, such as studying, Xi working, and growing.
Excellent girls will not let themselves fall into internal friction because of some trivial things, but will work hard to make money.
They will take every job and every income seriously, and constantly improve their professionalism and ability level, so that they can be more outstanding and fulfilled in their careers.
At the same time, they will also pay attention to their physical health and mental health to keep themselves in a good state.
I like Russell to say this:
"Spend more time shaping yourself and less time studying others. ”Spend more time shaping yourself, and when we become better, what we want will come naturally.
Start trying new things and keep updating yourself;
If a person stays in their comfort zone for a long time, life will become unchallenged, which also means that many opportunities for growth are lost.
The Book of Rites says:
"Gou is new, every day is new, and every day is new. ”A truly powerful one who is able to constantly renew himself, reinvent himself, and grow continuously.
Those excellent girls will not stop moving forward because of their comfort zone, but will constantly try new things and update themselves.
They will have the courage to try new cuisines, new travel destinations, new cultural experiences, and so on to enrich their lives.
At the same time, we will also pay attention to the latest developments and trends in science and technology, culture, etc., so as to better adapt to the changes and development of the times.
They are such insatiable explorers, they renew themselves with freshness and variety, and make themselves more interesting and dynamic.
Cultivate your own heart and stop paying attention to the eyes of others;
If your heart is not strong and you care too much about the eyes of others, it is easy to mess up and it is difficult to live the way you really want.
Psychologist Carl Jung said:
"He who looks outward is dreaming, and he who looks inward is awake. ”I think so!
Cultivating one's own strong heart, growing inward, and no longer paying attention to the evaluation of others is the real sobriety in the world.
Excellent girls will continue to cultivate their hearts and improve their own realm, so that they no longer pay attention to the eyes and evaluations of others.
They take their emotions and thoughts seriously, constantly reflect on themselves, correct their mistakes and shortcomings, and make themselves more mature and wise.
At the same time, we will respect the thoughts and feelings of others, establish good interpersonal relationships with others, and make progress and growth together.
Be independent, sober and live as you like.
Life is one's own, there is no need to measure one's own life with someone else's ruler, and use other people's standards to define one's own happiness.
Those good girls will live and work independently, and live confidently as they like.
They will stick to their beliefs and principles, and will not easily compromise and give up on their dreams and pursuits.
At the same time, they will actively face the challenges and difficulties in life, and meet every stage and experience of life with an optimistic attitude.
No matter what you have experienced, you will be calm, independent and sober, and live as you like, warm and powerful.
One thing that outstanding girls have in common is that they recognize themselves. They know how to self-recognize, how to improve themselves, how to present themselves.
They will not change themselves because of other people's opinions, nor will they feel inferior because of their own shortcomings, these are excellent qualities that we can Xi learn from and learn from.
Although we are not born to be excellent, we can make ourselves better than we are through our own efforts.
I want Mr. Yang Jiang to say this sentence:
"Not everyone can be what they want to be, but everyone can strive to be what they want to be. ”Finally, I hope that every girl can recognize herself, love herself, strive to become better, and live as she likes.
The above encouragement!
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Author: Mu Muxue, a self-leading writer who focuses on personal growth and is trying to run to freedom, may we become a better version of ourselves through hard work and live the life we yearn for.