Zhao Meilan's departure came very suddenly.
The support and core character of the Su family passed away in less than a day in the original book. When she died, she had no children by her side, so she did not leave any last words.
Su's mother died suddenly, which made his wife Su Daqiang and second son Su Mingcheng feel the most painful.
Su Daqiang couldn't stop sobbing at the bedside of his wife, and he was very confused, because the pillar suddenly fell. And Su Mingcheng went to Zhao Meilan's cemetery three times in a row, and has always regarded his mother as a life support.
The first time Ming Cheng went to the cemetery to find his mother, he sat there for a long time, and when he came back, he was covered in the sun like a boiling shrimp. He ignored his father and eldest brother, strode into the study and began to play the game, which lasted for a long time, until he felt very happy, "Wow", and then stretched
When he went to his mother's grave for the second time, Ming Cheng bowed twice, then lit a cigarette and sat there in a quiet daze. It wasn't until the cigarette butt burned his fingers that he bowed deeply and left. As he was leaving, he raised his head and exhaled a long "Ah...... like singing Peking Opera”
When Mingcheng went to his mother's grave for the third time, he cried on to the tombstone and didn't stop for a while. There, he realized that he could no longer hold his mother's hand. It was cold to the bones when I came, and it was cold to the bones when I returned.
At the beginning of "It's All Good", I have always been puzzled why Su Ming, who is already an adult, keeps going to the cemetery to visit his mother, this is because of the deep affection between mother and sonOr is there something else going on?
After re-reading the original book, I realized that the so-called deep mother-son relationship was just the real reason why Ming Cheng "went to the cemetery to find his mother three times".
Mingcheng is suddenly about to be "weaned" and needs psychological comfort.
The first time Su Mingcheng went to the cemetery to look for his mother was when Zhao Meilan died not long ago.
He had just experienced psychological weaning, and like a baby who couldn't get milk, he was struggling with pain inside, feeling lost and uneasy about everything.
When his mother was still alive, he was the core of the Su family. was particularly favored by his mother, and the people of the Su family doted on him and accommodated him like a nursing child.
Under Zhao Meilan's power, Su Daqiang and Su Mingyu did not dare to provoke her easily, and their mother tried her best to maintain their marriage. Julie admired his tall, handsome, personable image, and never really blamed him, even if she was occasionally dissatisfied. In Julie's opinion, he is her mother's darling.
At that time, Mingcheng was the center of his mother and the Su family, and he was also the center of Zhu Li. has a mother who shelters him from the wind and rain and arranges everything for him, so even in middle age, he has never felt the hardships of life, let alone any sense of crisis.
After his mother's death, Mingcheng felt that the whole world had become strange. He used to lack a sense of crisis and struggled to adjust to his role as no longer the center of the family. Life became confusing for him, his mind was in disarray, he made frequent mistakes, and he was constantly blamed by others.
He mistakenly thought that Manager Zhou would lend him money for investment, so he kept currying favor with her. While dancing in a bar, he actually asked Manager Zhou to rub lipstick on his shirt collar, which caused a misunderstanding for Julie, who thought that he had an affair with his female boss and scolded him loudly: "It's really useless to seduce an old woman."
Su Daqiang was worried that his father suspected him of greedy for his money, and showed great distrust of the change of house, and when he asked his father why he suspected him, he was stuffed into the study by his eldest brother and reflected on it behind closed doors.
Once his mother's love is lost, Mingcheng feels as if he has entered an unlucky passing year. In the past, everyone said that he was warm and cheerful and always smiling, but now everyone seems to be full of distrust of him, and he is blamed for whatever he says and does.
He refuses to admit his mistake because he doesn't want to lose the respect of others, so he plans to find his mother.
Mingcheng decided to walk out the door, went straight to the street to buy a bouquet of carnations, and drove to his mother's cemetery.
Mingcheng sat in front of his mother's grave, his heart full of grievances. He thought that Julie misunderstood him because she looked down on him and disliked him for earning less than her;And his father openly expressed his distrust of him because he never really valued him.
The more I think about it, the more I feel that this society is too realistic, the relationship between husband and wife, father and son is like floating clouds, and only maternal love is sincere.
He suddenly remembered that he had heard his mother say that if you argue with stupid people, you will become as stupid as he is;The best thing to do for those who look down on you is to ignore them and prove yourself with your grades.
Mingcheng regained his strength and swore to his mother's portrait: "When I have money, I will see how those people will come to me." ”
After staying in front of his mother's grave for a long time, Mingcheng felt extremely relieved in his heart, as if he had been injected with new vitality.
When he got home, he went straight into the study and started playing the game, as if he were in a no-man's land. In the process of enjoyment, I felt unprecedented pleasure and relief, as if I had returned to the good times under the care of my mother.
He once again became the focus of the Su family.
Mingcheng needs to find a way out and no longer rely on his parents to vent his inner emotions.
The second time Su Mingcheng went to the cemetery to find his mother, it was when his dream of wealth was shattered and his life was difficult.
He ignored his own situation, secretly bought a car, borrowed money from his female boss and uncle, and then invested in a factory in a joint venture with his female boss, trying to make huge profits, but in the end he was deceived.
Mingcheng's experience left both him and Julie in financial trouble, not only having to repay the loans of their female boss and uncle, but also repay bank loans to maintain their daily living expenses. After Julie calculated her future income and expenses, her mind was full of numbers tumbling.
They had no choice but to borrow money from Zhu Li's parents, which made Mingcheng suffer the questioning eyes of his father-in-law and mother-in-law.
At this moment, Mingcheng recalled his mother and remembered those days when he was carefree and dependent on his parents.
When he first took Julie to see his mother, her mother saw at a glance that Julie was a girl who was much loved in the family. Understanding that it was not easy to pursue Julie, her mother resolutely took out all the banknotes in the passbook, renovated the two-bedroom and one living room in the house, and removed the small bed in the original living room for Mingyu to sleep in, so that he could take Julie home to play with dignity.
Mom's actions made the two of them feel very angry, almost making them feel unbearable. Su Daqiang lamented again and again that his hard-earned money was wasted;Su Mingyu found that her usual sleeping place was gone, so after arguing fiercely with Zhao Meilan, she moved to school and never returned home.
When Mingcheng got married, his mother once again pulled out all her savings and persuaded Julie's parents to help them make a down payment in order to buy a new three-bedroom house for them. Subsequently, in order to raise the cost of the renovation, my mother adjusted the original two-bedroom apartment to a one-bedroom apartment.
For him, even if it is just to maintain the most basic standard of living, his mother is willing.
Mom is gone, and there is no one like her who cares about him, takes care of him, thinks about him in every way, and is willing to support him until he is old.
Since Mingcheng's investment failed, he felt that he had become destitute. After that, everyone seemed to be falling on him;Dad revealed his details in front of Mingyu, accusing his mother of allowing him to rely on the family because she was afraid that he would get a divorce.
The father also showed Julie the family's account books, claiming that he had squandered all his parents' savings through his love for her.
Julie believes that the failure of his investment is due to the laziness and irresponsibility cultivated by long-term dependence on his parents.
When Ming Cheng lost his mother and couldn't rely on his family, not only did he not receive encouragement and help, but he became the object of everyone's anger, like a rat besieged by people.
His heart was full of dissatisfaction and resentment, and at this time he thought of his mother, and longed to confide in her and vent the grievances in his heart.
He pulled himself together, pulled out a carnation from the vase, got on the crowded and stuffy bus, and went to his mother's grave for the second time.
Mingcheng kept bowing in front of his mother's grave, and then he lit a cigarette and sat down, silently recounting his unfortunate experience to his mother, venting his long-standing anger at being deceived in his investment.
After the anger and dissatisfaction were vented in his heart, Mingcheng felt that the anger in his heart was still churning, so he opened his mouth, raised his head and neck, and shouted "Ah" loudly to the sky.
Ming Cheng's roar startled the birds in the cemetery to scatter in all directions.
After suffering a failure in life, Mingcheng desperately needs to be recognized by others.
Ming Cheng went to the cemetery to visit his mother for the third time, and at that time he was reduced to the point of going to his father Su Daqiang to ask for help.
Julie and he have divorced, and the property is registered in Julie's name. Because he offended his female boss, Manager Zhou, he was no longer able to gain a foothold in the industry. Without a stable job and a regular income, he was completely denied and abandoned in society.
Manager Zhou publicly stated in the industry that he is inseparable from Su Mingcheng, and anyone who supports Su Mingcheng is against her, and she will deal with Su Mingcheng at any cost.
Under the pressure of Manager Zhou, Su Mingcheng lost his job, causing his life to become more difficult and impoverished.
Julie went out in a taxi to run errands, and happened to see him strolling alone in the park, and this lonely and emaciated appearance made her feel deeply distressed.
Zhu Li looked back at Mingcheng's pale and sad face covered by a beard all the way, and kept asking herself in her heart, is this still the face she is familiar with?The former baby fat disappeared to **?The smile that used to be white and red and sunny is gone again
Zhu Li couldn't bear to watch Mingcheng continue to fall into depression, so she found Mingyu and told her about Mingcheng's predicament.
In order to please Zhu Li, Mingyu invited Manager Zhou to dinner. The smart Manager Zhou had already learned that Su Mingcheng's sister had a good identity background and superb social skills, so he wisely revoked his ** plan for Mingcheng.
After Manager Zhou was solved by Mingyu, Mingcheng thought that his business would improve soon, but even with his unremitting efforts, the business still did not make much progress, and his previous customers only dealt with him perfunctorily.
Myeongseong has always relied on his eldest brother's funding, and due to the lack of his own income, he begins to doubt his abilities.
The suspicion made him even more depressed, and the scene described in the original book was as follows:
His faith was gradually eroded by blow after blow, and although it did not lead to death, it did cause disability. He was like the frog in warm water, thinking about how to get out of this increasingly dangerous situation, but his movement was limited by his physical strength and external circumstances. He was well aware of the strength of his heart, but he was powerless to change the situation, and despair and frustration continued to encroach on his once sunny inner ......
Feeling disappointed in life, Mingcheng even desperately blamed Mingyu for why he wanted to help him. If Mingyu didn't help him, he could still be silent in the shadow of Manager Zhou with peace of mind, but now he had to start doubting and denying himself - compared to Mingyu, he was ashamed of himself, and this comparison was simply a shame!
After his mother passed away, Mingcheng initially thought that he was only a temporary predicament, but he didn't expect it to bother him for nearly a year. Not only did he not come out of it, but he became more and more heavy and helpless, and he seemed to find no trace of light.
Mingcheng felt that his life was a complete failure, and even felt that he was no longer worthy to stay on earth.
At that moment, he desperately needed someone to affirm himself, but when he looked around, he found that there was no one who could support him and give him affirmation.
His mind turned to his mother, who would give him the best guidance and support if she was still alive. So, Mingcheng went to his mother's grave for the third time.
Ming Chengyi came to his mother's grave and burst into tears while holding the tombstone. He no longer struggled to hide his inner sorrow and despair, and was determined to seek his mother's approval for him here. Without his mother's guidance and approval, he always felt that everything he was doing was wrong. This time, he was eager to find answers from his mother.
His head was bleeding and he had been struck by reality, so he didn't dare to take the next step. He is hesitating, is he holding on to the inherent, waiting for the opportunity to come to the door?Or go out and open up a new future?He longed for his mother's guidance.
Mingcheng was in front of his mother's grave and cried for a long time.
Final words: Su Mingcheng disappeared completely after going to the cemetery to find his mother for the last time, and his family never contacted him again, as described in the original book of "It's All Good".
Su Mingcheng's ending is extremely sad, and even arouses people's deep pity for him.
A man in his forties always seeks help from his deceased mother when he encounters problems, which is not a mother-son relationship, but an abnormal state of mind.
Su Mingcheng has been accustomed to living under the warm protection of his mother for more than 30 years, living a comfortable and comfortable life, and he has long forgotten how to grow up.
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Even when he was in his prime, he never thought about how to live independently. Because his mother has been doting on him, he doesn't know how to solve problems by himself when he encounters them, and just wants to seek comfort and vent his unhappiness. Even if he has not achieved anything, he refuses to admit his incompetence, but is willing to blame others for his incompetence, and then shamelessly seek affirmation.
No wonder Su Mingyu once described her brother to Zhu Li like this:
Su Mingcheng is like a child who will never grow up, when my mother died suddenly, his heart was like a knife, like losing the ...... of his soul
After Zhao Meilan's death, Su Mingcheng became like a "weaned" child, he had been living under the protection of his mother, and suddenly lost her, and his spirit collapsed instantly, causing him to completely lose his discipline when dealing with relationships and affairs. He fell into the situation of making mistakes again and again, like a child who will never grow up, always crying to "go to the cemetery to find his mother".