In the original work of "It's All Good", the marital relationship between Wu Fei and Su Mingzhe was barely maintained in a crumbling state.
However, in the face of the various unbelievable events that kept occurring in his father-in-law, Su Daqiang, Wu Fei decided to quit his job and return to China almost under the persuasion of Mingzhe, which made him strengthen his resolve again:
No matter how difficult and exhausting, she must stick to her responsibilities and expand her career. Don't put too much trust in Mingzhe. The problem is not that Mingzhe is not trustworthy, but that the father-in-law has many means. ”
In the process of ** drama, I always feel that Wu Fei's heart is quite cold, even a little selfish and contrived, and sometimes his behavior even makes people feel that he is a little indifferent.
But when she finished reading the original work, she really understood the various unbearable things about the Su family. She was deeply disappointed by Su Mingzhe's pretended filial behavior, she didn't want to have a husband, nor did she want to be a resentful woman, but through hard work to stop the loss in time, hoping to create a better life for herself and her daughter!
It must be admitted that her attitude towards reality should indeed arouse the vigilance of the majority of women!
01, now that Mingzhe has decided, she is willing to risk her life and will be by his side!
When the news of Ms. Zhao's death reached the United States, her eldest son, Su Mingzhe, who was most valued by her, was at risk of losing his job due to imminent layoffs.
Mingzhe's mother died suddenly, and the family's Optimus Prime also collapsed, which made Mingzhe feel extremely heartbroken, and his mind became confused, and he lost all his job opportunities.
He did not hesitate to return home to attend the funeral, hoping to see his mother for the last time before her cremation, and to shoulder the heavy responsibility of being the son of the Su family to ensure the safety of his old father.
However, Wu Fei had to think about Mingzhe's professional challenges.
Mingzhe is at a critical moment in the company's layoffs, and the vacuum state of his time at work is like digging his own grave.
Compared with the death of her mother-in-law, who had only seen her twice, she was more concerned about the future financial situation of the family, and even had the idea of returning to China for the funeral in place of her husband.
However, how can Mingzhe accept this?
At the time, his parents had struggled to raise money for his studies abroad, and he had been living a difficult life in China to send him snacks and books regularly.
As the most promising eldest son of the Su family, he only enjoyed the selfless dedication of his parents, but failed to show his due filial piety to his mother, and in the end he couldn't even ignore his mother's aftermath.
Mingzhe's desire to return to China to see his mother for the last time, to spend the last journey of his life with her, and to translate this emotion into worldly morality, is actually understandable.
In addition, in Mingzhe's roar, Wu Fei's thoughts were also released.
Mingzhe had high expectations for his late mother-in-law and his small family, and even unemployment could not prevent him from returning home. If she unilaterally stops Mingzhe, then this incident will forever be a thorn in his heart.
So while she knew it wasn't right to keep doing it, she didn't really have any other options.
Since she decided to live with Mingzhe, and since Mingzhe firmly believes that going home is the only way for her, she can only be by his side even if she risks her life. ”
She observed very clearly that the couple was going down the wrong path and was prepared for the possible consequences. In order not to distract Mingzhe, she also needs to suppress all her emotions, reorganize her emotions, and force a smile to accompany him on the plane back to China.
During that period, Wu Fei loved Mingzhe deeply and was full of dependence on him, and he preferred that Mingzhe could live a long and difficult life, rather than let him carry a lifetime of regrets and heavy crosses and repent for his future!
02. In order to care about her husband's mood, she worked hard alone and supported the whole family!
Although Wu Fei showed his understanding and understanding, Mingzhe did not express his gratitude or reciprocate with him.
Although he knew that he was about to lose his job and that his family of three would soon be in trouble, he still took on everything in front of his younger brother and sister, hoping to bring his father back to the United States to enjoy his old age.
However, his actions are not necessarily motivated by sincere filial piety, but more of a superficial vanity!
Although Yu's situation is not clear, her standard of living in China has touched a high level, and even the couple Mingcheng and Zhu Li live a petty bourgeois life at an upper-middle level.
Although he is the most promising eldest brother in the family and is regarded by his parents as the glory of the family, how can he be backward in the family and even inferior to his siblings?
Therefore, even if it is sad to know that the father went to the United States to see that he is unemployed, even if it is decided to make the fragile wife work harder for life, even if it will definitely make the quality of life of the newborn child deteriorate.
From beginning to end, without any consultation with Wu Fei, Mingzhe did not hesitate to agree to his father's request and bring him to the United States for support.
He didn't think about it at all, even if he sent his young daughter back to China to be raised by his mother-in-law, considering the couple's financial strength, would they be able to afford his father's medical and pension expenses in a foreign country
Although he feared that his wife and daughter might be forced to "die", he still chose to compensate for the "separation" and guilt between himself and his mother with his false filial piety to his father.
How strong does a real adult's vanity need to be to make such an impulsive choice?
In Mingzhe's reckless choice, Wu Fei is undoubtedly the most sympathetic!
He clearly knew that in order to avoid taking care of Wu Fei's pregnancy and childbirth, his parents wanted Su Da to pretend to be sick. In order to help her daughter raise the child, the mother-in-law had to bear huge financial losses and went through the procedures for internal withdrawal with great difficulty.
Now, despite his wife's disgust, he has repeatedly stressed that bringing his father to the United States for maintenance is his and Wu's responsibility as children.
It's ridiculous and shameful!
In fact, Wu Fei had a premonition of this situation very early, and he magnanimously said that he no longer wanted to deal with Gongqi, and he was not even averse to paying for him to provide pension services, but he still could not accept this unrealistic arrangement proposed by Mingzhe.
It must be admitted that Wu Fei, as a daughter-in-law, has shown a high level of reasonableness, and all the suggestions she made were very detailed and comprehensive.
First of all, it should be mentioned that Su Daqiang is in good physical condition, his age has not reached the level where he can barely walk, he has his own residence and a stable pension, and he is fully capable of living a comfortable life.
Having said that, before Zhao Meilan died, he was always busy with laundry, cooking, pouring tea and playing mahjong for his wife, and it was difficult for him to cope with it alone
The worst-case scenario is that the two of them will only have to pay for a babysitter to do so.
No matter what happens, she doesn't want to be separated from her daughter, and she thinks that she will only consider taking her father-in-law to the United States if she grits her teeth and gets through this difficult period.
At this critical moment, while Wu Fei worked hard, he always thought about Mingzhe, and felt distressed for his sadness of losing his mother and the depression of unemployment.
As for her own frustration and fatigue, she did not show it, at most she was silently saddened by the "poor couple mourning"!
03, Mingzhe's old state reappeared, and he pretended to be fat again!
Luckily, while looking for a job, Mingzhe finally realizes that he has deceived himself and bravely rejects his father.
Although Mingzhe found a new job and received a higher salary, he still had to spend three-quarters of the year in Shanghai, which was convenient for his father and could lead to his separation from his wife and daughter.
Despite the tremendous pressure of losing his job, he finally chose this seemingly impractical job, and also hoped that Wu Fei would resign and return to China with him to become a full-time housewife.
However, Wu Fei's thinking is more in-depth.
She is only half a year away from getting her green card, and even if she plans to return to China, she must make sure that her job and garage are properly managed, and she hopes to stay alone with her daughter for a while before making a decision.
Fortunately, Wu Fei did not choose to resign.
After Mingzhe was given a new position, his vanity swelled rapidly, and the mentality of suffering for the sake of face resurfaced.
Although he was only a part-time worker, he had to behave very generously in front of his father and younger brother due to his unemployment. Despite his limited abilities, he still insists on being a true good man.
Not only did he replace the two-bedroom house he had planned to buy for his father with a spacious three-bedroom home, but he also decided to keep the old house full of memories and promised to pay for all the expenses of the house on his own.
In order to better fulfill his duties as the eldest brother and provide an upper-average standard of living for his father, he not only needs to pay the high income obtained due to the separation of the husband and wife, but also hopes that Wu Fei and her daughter can maintain basic food and clothing conditions in the United States.
Wu Fei was tired of Mingzhe's behavior, and when he learned of Mingcheng's mistake, he said even more firmly: I will only support taking the responsibility that we should bear.
Unexpectedly, her reasonable and reasonable request was exchanged for a philosophical and tearful accusation, and she thought that Wu Fei did not understand what she meant at all:
He hopes to be able to save the family's old house and the belongings left by his mother, and use money to try to make his father's life better, which is only a small compensation for his parents, which is already an advantage compared to the happiness that Ming brings when he becomes a parent.
Wu Fei really couldn't understand Mingzhe's unique way of thinking and logical structure:
Is it possible for him to be so caught up in it just because of his family's troubles and expect everyone to do what he wants?
She had made many concessions and compromises because she was concerned about Mingzhe's unemployment and the loss of his mother, but this not only did not make Mingzhe relent, but instead made his behavior more intense and endless.
Before he made any money, he began to show off his wealth to Wu Fei:
Please don't leave anything to chance, I'll make a new decision for you, not a second change. So decided, I will provide my dad's house first, and then change your dad's house. ”
Wu Fei felt deep disappointment and indifference to this arrogant man!
She herself was still trying to earn money to support her family, did not earn a living under his guidance, and was completely unqualified to rely on his favors to support her life:
Uncle Su, I don't want you to change your decisions at will, you can do whatever you want. Even Mingyu could feel the difficulty of my return home, and an unfamiliar person like her would sympathize with me, even pushing me into the fire at the cost of her life. ”
However, although Wu Fei's husband did not have much expectations, he still did not consider divorce.
She is eager to solve the problem quickly, personally cut off the Su family's improper intentions towards her, and quickly return to the United States after stopping the loss in time!
04. In the marriage relationship, women's discourse dominance stems from their economic autonomy!
Wu Fei originally thought that the father and son of the Su family were really weird, but the subsequent events made his concept change dramatically.
In order to buy a property for her father-in-law, she angrily leaves the hotel with her daughter and luggage, but Mingzhe becomes confident because he has the funds for their flight back to the United States.
Not only did he fail to keep up with her pace to save the situation, but he also blamed her for being too pragmatic, calculating the elders in the family, not considering the overall interests, and fearing that she would make the mistake of crying, making fuss or hanging, and that she might live a life with her husband in the future, let alone pursue her again.
When Mingyu revealed Wu Fei and her mother to him, he began to worry not about the safety of his wife and daughter, but about Wu Fei's confession to his father, which might make him lose face.
The subsequent series of events made Wu Fei truly experience the selfishness, shamelessness and ruthlessness of the Su family's father and son.
Mingcheng violently attacked Mingyu and took him to the hospital, while he was also taken away and detained. Although Mingzhe is the eldest brother in the family, Su Daqiang, as his father, does not care about it.
He is indifferent to his children, focusing only on when his property will be available for purchase and is desperate to move out of his already married family as soon as possible to avoid unnecessary disputes.
In the face of Mingzhe, who is too narcissistic and vain, her heart has long been full of disappointment, and for the indifferent father-in-law, she only has disgust left in her heart.
Therefore, she no longer acts willfully, and no longer only relies on Mingzhe to manage affairs, but has the leading power and is good at handling the Su family's buying and selling houses.
In order to ensure that Mingzhe no longer interferes in the affairs of the Su family, she is holding a child who is about to leave in the hot weather of a woman's house, not only to deal with intermediaries, but also to tidy up the old house, ** house, and move by herself, and experience a lot of pain in a strange place.
Regarding the issue of buying a house and his father-in-law, Wu Fei really didn't want to interfere, and he didn't have extra time to deal with it.
In her point of view, the past confinement feud was not entirely planned by her mother-in-law alone, and her father-in-law was so indifferent to his own children, how could he care about the life and death of a daughter-in-law with a surname other than that at that time?
Such a person, Mingzhe is really a troublemaker. She didn't want to meddle with this father-in-law anymore. Such a selfish person, even if the living environment of the Ming Cheng family is bad now, he can still find a way to survive. Let him stay in Mingcheng's house, just like a dog eats a dog. ”
She has satisfied Mingzhe's "affection" for his late mother, fulfilled his due "filial piety", and escaped with her daughter without hesitation with the determination and ability to go to the United States with her bare hands when she was studying abroad!
During this trip back to China, Wu Fei was not only deeply disgusted by the frequent illogical man-made incidents of the Su family, but also disgusted by Mingzhe's unstable way of dealing with them, which made him better understand the deep meaning:
Men are unreliable. If you think that you can rely on a man to avoid laziness for life after marriage, then you may be pushed to the position of a little daughter-in-law who has no right to speak. ”
Regarding how Su Mingzhe will be torn between them, she has no choice but to choose to turn a blind eye.
She is not afraid to take the baby to work alone, no matter how hard it is, she is only worried about physical exhaustion, and even more afraid of the endless mental entanglement of the Su family.
However, Wu Fei still underestimated Su Daqiang's shameless behavior, as well as Su Mingzhe's excessive indulgence of his elderly father.
This old man who is gradually recovering, his past days are like a balloon that has been pushed to the limit, and it has not been punctured, but has triggered a strong expansion and **.
He wanted a house with a good location, good furniture, and a computer.
Obviously, all his actions were borne by his wealthy and prosperous eldest son, and Mingzhe, in order to meet these demands of Su Daqiang, turned his attention to the last few thousand dollars in Wu Fei's hand.
Mingzhe's behavior was intolerable even to Zhu Li, she thought that Wu Fei raised the child alone and must have enough financial support. Mingyu even criticized Mingzhe and questioned what it meant for Wu Fei to expect a husband like him!
Wu Fei's slightly warm feelings for Ming Zhegang fell into a trough again, his heart was completely cooled, and his illusions about Ming Zhe disappeared.
There is no doubt that after so many things, Wu Fei knows very well that Mingzhe's pseudo-filial piety will never give up easily unless it is completely used by his father.
So she didn't hesitate to use that money to buy a plane ticket for her parents and suggest that they travel to the United States to help babysit, which would ensure the child's safety and save money on the nursery.
And she herself, pouring all her time and efforts into her career and career, took over the company's new projects, and got the opportunity for a salary increase.
Eventually, Mingzhe deeply regrets being deceived by his father's false accounts.
When he came back to his senses, he realized that even Wu Fei, a small family in the United States, could live well, and only when he was no longer needed did he really feel uneasy.
In the face of Mingzhe's return and currying favor, although Wu Fei has lost his dependence on him and his sense of security, he still chooses to reconcile, but it is no longer what it was before, everything is the best choice after weighing the pros and cons!
Regarding Mingzhe's suggestion that she quit her job again, Wu Fei resolutely refused. A series of past experiences, coupled with Mingzhe's disgusting irrational behavior, made her feel very uneasy and worried.
Wu Fei couldn't believe how much the situation might have deteriorated if she had really chosen to quit her job and return to China with MingzheHow could she have escaped so easily?
Having said that, people like my father-in-law always like to watch people make trouble, and Mingzhe is so obedient to his father, there will definitely be endless problems in the future, and he won't think about the affairs of their mother and daughter at all.
She was originally an exceptional woman who received a scholarship, but how could she have a voice without a stable job and financial independence
If the past happens again, if someone controls the lifeblood of the economy, then how do we go about pursuing true equality?If someone else catches the main artery of the economy, it can only be regarded as "being caught"!I guess there may be no other option than to be so angry that I lose my life.
If I choose to quit my job and concentrate on my family, I stay at home every day and don't want to go out, over time, my vision will become narrow, my mobility will also decrease, and I will become unrecognizable and difficult to be lovedAnd when you carry the burden of the family alone, in addition to fatigue, you may also accumulate dissatisfaction: usually people, why are you the one who bears the responsibility?”
In addition, Mingzhe is obviously unable to provide the confidence and interest that work can give her, and Wu Fei's hunch was later verified by Su Daqiang many times, he wanted money to publish a book, and he wanted to marry the nanny Cai Genhua.
Therefore, although Mingzhe has promised her many times how he will treat her in the future, due to Su Daqiang's existence, Wu Fei no longer trusts this unrealistic promise and vision!
I must admit that her attitude to life and sober mind can really sound the alarm for countless women: no matter when and where, no matter what kind of predicament you are in, you should not think very highly of yourself, you should not be a resentful woman who complains about fate and blames others, and you should not forget that you also have the potential to become an excellent person!