I basically don't write social news, but I really can't bear it this time, Weibo pushes me every day, and I read all kinds of strange comments once and again. This matter is the Shanxi engagement case. Xi and the woman agreed on a bride price 1880,000, an engagement banquet was held on May 1, and Xi gave the woman 100,000 dowry and a ring. On the same day, Xi ** the woman. When this first came out, the woman was scolded one-sidedly on the Internet, thinking that this was a cheating marriage, and she obviously took the bride price, but she sued the man**, making it clear that the money was not negotiated. Later, more details were announced, and this matter was a real hammer. The woman has made it clear that she refuses premarital sex. And the woman fought strongly, in order to save herself, she lit a fire and burned the curtains, and there were bruises on the inside of her arms. The surveillance showed that the man had dragged and forcibly took away the woman's mobile phone. Judging from these details, there is basically no half-push and half-push, that is, **. But even when the details have been so clear, the online controversy is still very large, and many people still empathize with the criminal, saying that the woman did too ruthlessly. 
The first argument is that they are all engaged, what is the difference between getting married and why are they so ruthless. What is the difference between the person who said this and the woman's family?These people, along with the woman's family, and the police who mediated at the beginning, are all the same idea. The marriage is engaged, and it is only a matter of time before a relationship occurs, but now it is just a little early, what's the big deal, it is better to get married as usual. Besides, not getting married is not good for the woman's reputation. According to this logic, if a person is killed, it can also be forgotten, anyway, sooner or later he will die, but if he dies a few years in advance, what's the big deal. Although it is a matter of time before a relationship occurs, it is not possible to have a relationship earlier, not to mention, it is not a normal relationship, but **!Important words have to be said three times. Some people just confuse ** with having a relationship, so they feel that the woman is too much, and they feel that they can mediate and let the two get married quickly. And under this idea, there is also a subconscious, which is to feel that the woman has been **, how can she marry someone in the future, and she can simply marry **. The reason why the woman's family continued to talk to the man about marriage afterwards should be because of this psychology, thinking that they would quickly cover up the matter and get married, and forget it. If you don't get married, how ugly it is to say it, how will you marry in the future. The man dares to **, and even after the woman's family proposes to get married, he still acts as a demon, probably has this kind of psychology. The raw rice is cooked first, and then they are left to their disposal. Therefore, when the woman's family talks about marriage, they should be secretly proud, feeling that their son is doing the right thing, look, isn't the initiative in their own hands. So it is understandable why the woman refuses to have premarital sex. In such an ideological atmosphere, even if it is for self-preservation, you have to be a conservative girl. In this kind of atmosphere, the foreseeable result is: if you are engaged and have a relationship, rest assured, you will cut corners when you get married, and you will not give what you can. Others will not appreciate that you don't care, but will look down on you and think that you don't care. The woman is always very sober, whether she refuses premarital sex or calls the police as soon as it happens, she is very sober. But the woman's family is really confused, they are all stuffed with, and they have to take the initiative to talk about marriage. For the sake of fame, I don't care whether the woman will have a good life at all. It is not surprising that the man did not implement the conditions proposed. You are all in such a hurry to give the woman to the ** criminal, who will look down on you!
The second argument on the Internet is that if you don't agree to have a relationship, don't accept the bride price, to put it bluntly, women just don't love men. There are always some people who equate the bride price with selling their bodies. You must know that most of the bride price is collected for the purpose of marriage, which is also recognized by the law, and any bride price that is not received for the purpose of marriage must be returned. In other words, accepting a bride price is equivalent to agreeing to marry. Why do you say about equals?Because until the end, everything is variable, what if it is found in the middle that it is not suitable?Both sides can quit. According to this logical reasoning, the bride price received by the woman is equivalent to agreeing to the marriage, but it does not mean that she consents to premarital sex. Marriage and premarital sex are two different concepts that should not be confused. I also analyzed it earlier, why people don't agree. Even if there is no reason, everyone has their own three views, and people still have reasons to refuse premarital sex. If the man does not accept it, he can also be replaced, instead of **. Why do some people always equate consent to marriage with the possibility of having a relationship at any time?According to this logic, if the man agrees to marry, is it equivalent to having half of the woman's property?Anyway, there is half of the woman after marriage, so why not give it in advance. Regardless of the law or social mores, they help people protect their property, but they do not protect others. Therefore, every time the bride price is involved, there are always people who jump very high and put all the fault on the party receiving the bride price. Go to Weibo to search for the word bride price, and the news that comes out can make people look at it. Some people who have been married for several years still ask for a refund of the bride price, and some children have given birth to several children, and they still ask for a refund of the bride price. As for the woman's birth injury, the workplace was interrupted, I'm sorry, it's not the money taken out by real money, many people pretend not to see it. I now feel more and more that the bride price is quite boring, and it has long since deteriorated. It's obviously a courtesy, but the person who can give it scolds and scolds, and the person who receives it may spit it out at any time, who is it protecting?Speaking of returning to Xi's engagement with the woman, some people said that the woman did not agree to have a relationship before marriage, so she didn't love the man. It's really a slippery play with PUA. I can also say that if a man wants to have a relationship before marriage, he doesn't love a woman. If you are still before marriage, it is even more evil, not only do you not love, but you have a grudge in your previous life. The scumbag coaxes the little girl, and he likes to use this trick the most, and often says that if you love me, you should agree to all my requests. Phew!Shameless!Why do I have to agree to all your requests if I love you?Do you love me and agree to all my requests?In the name of love, asking others to be what they must be, regardless of men and women, one counts as one, they are extremely selfish, and they only care about their own lives, regardless of whether others live or die!
The third argument on the Internet is that since the man has been sued, the bride price will be returned, and the compensation is another matter, one yard to one yard. The person who said this, at first glance, had never been beaten by society, and was as innocent as a child. Logically speaking, of course. One yard to one yard, the bride price will be returned first, and then compensation will be required, and the man will give it. But unfortunately, the real world doesn't work that way, and not everyone is so reasonable. Otherwise, there wouldn't be such a thing. Tell me a real thing. Our family used to open a restaurant, and some units owed money for food, and this unit had to collect money from residents every month (I won't say what money is collected, similar to just needs such as water and electricity bills). The food money they owe, and they don't have to come back after a few years, and there is no way, when they collect the money, we can only be in arrears. Then, the people from the unit came to ask for money, and they told a lot of truths, which means: you ask the unit for money, and the unit wants to go through the process, and it will naturally be given after the process, but the money you owe is another matter, you can pay it first, and then ask the unit for money. Do you think this kind of nonsense should be believed?If you believe it, you're either stupid or stupid!Since ancient times, it is the uncle who owes money, and it is the grandson who asks for money. Some money, even if the court awards it, you don't necessarily have to get it, and you may even be beaten by the money owed. Therefore, the other party has money in his own hands, of course, he will hold it first, and then talk about it when the matter is completely resolved. The other party is not a good person who talks about credit, first it is **, and then it is good to talk about things and backwater, you talk to him about credit, is there a disease in the brain!
So I don't think there's anything wrong with the woman not returning the bride price for the time being. **Sentenced to three years, if the woman feels that it is too light, it is not enough to make up for the harm she has suffered, it is not enough to calm her anger, and it is reasonable to let the other party lose some money. Of course, if the woman's family really thinks about the woman, after the matter is over, the one who should be returned must be returned, because this kind of money is uncomfortable to spend, it is the second harm to the woman, and there will be unclear troubles. It's better to retreat and start again. Finally, I hope that this matter will end as soon as possible, and that the woman will be able to get her life back on track as soon as possible and live the life she wants, even though I know it's hard. I also don't want people to provoke gender antagonism, whether male or female, wrong is wrong, right is right, whether it is right or wrong, it is a personal issue, and it has nothing to do with the group. Be an objective and rational person, and the world will be a little better. ** on the Internet.