Pushkin once said: "When treating a woman coldly, it attracts her attention more." ”
Indeed, when a man pursues a woman, he does not blindly show affection, but the woman will have a good impression of you. On the contrary, be moderately cold to her, and she will pay more attention to you.
Women are very delicate in their minds, and when they are pursued by men, they will become very alert and will carefully judge whether your actions are sincere or not.
If she senses that you are not sincere enough, she will immediately become alert and quietly keep a safe distance.
At this point, the more you try to get close to her, the more she feels insecure and will unconsciously become suspicious and wonder if there are bad intentions behind your passion.
Therefore, in order to successfully pursue a woman, a man must know how to dispel her vigilance and avoid misleading her into misunderstanding that you have bad intentions. Only with her full trust will she fall in love with you even more.
Therefore, in these matters, it is easier to keep her heart by maintaining a certain coldness towards a woman.
First, when she is late for a date, she is a little cold, so that she realizes her mistakes In the early days of love, many girls often have the Xi of being late for a date, perhaps spending too much time dressing up or not paying enough attention to you.
Women generally think that being late is not a big deal and that you should be patient if you love her.
However, this idea is mostly untenable, and it is understandable to be late occasionally, but it is too willful and unreasonable to do so frequently.
When a man pursues a woman, he should not indulge her too much with this shortcoming, remember that you can tolerate her, but not let her go. Otherwise, she will only be more unscrupulous and will take you less seriously.
Many men think that it is not easy to find the right match, and because they love each other deeply, they will accommodate everything she does, even if she is always late, and never complains.
However, instead of attracting the woman's attention, this will make her feel that she takes her actions for granted, and her expectations of you may become more demanding.
On the contrary, if she is a little cold when she is late, she will feel embarrassed and begin to reflect on her behavior so that she pays more attention and cares about you.
Xiao Lin in the company is a beautiful girl who has always been favored by men and has many active suitors.
Because of this, Xiao Lin is quite confident in her charm and not too concerned about suitors. Even if she has a boyfriend, she still thinks that her boyfriend should revolve around her and accommodate her completely.
Therefore, on every date, Xiao Lin always carelessly dresses up and always shows up an hour late.
At first, her boyfriend was okay with this and was more tolerant of her, only occasionally reminding her that it was late. However, once Xiao Lin got angry, her boyfriend didn't dare to say more, and the issue was put on hold.
As the relationship went by, Xiao Lin became more negative, feeling that since her boyfriend could tolerate her, she became more willful.
When it comes to another date, Xiao Lin becomes a regular customer who delays arriving for two hours, and her boyfriend always waits for a long time. She even took it for granted, which ultimately affected the relationship between the two.
Her boyfriend's patience gradually ran out, and on the last date, her boyfriend clearly told her that such a relationship was too strenuous and that it was best to end it.
The boyfriend left indifferently, and Xiao Lin was stunned for a while, without any reaction. She then hurried forward to explain and apologize to her boyfriend, hoping for forgiveness and promising that she would never be late again.
In the next few days, Xiao Lin actively looked for her boyfriend and behaved very enthusiastically, and finally her boyfriend agreed to give her a chance.
I once asked Xiao Lin: Why is she so active all of a sudden?
Xiao Lin said: I can't stand my boyfriend's indifference, and the more he ignores me, the more I feel inseparable from him and worry about losing him.
Therefore, men need to understand that when pursuing a woman, no matter what stage they are in, they should not make themselves appear too humble.
Because your humble flattery and connivance again and again will only make her ignore you, not pay attention to you.
On the contrary, if you are cold to her at the right time, she will be impressed and even more reluctant to you.
Second, when she is a little cold when she has no bottom line and is willful, make it clear that your principle When interacting with a woman, a man can care for her and accommodate her, but he should never tolerate her willfulness without a bottom line, otherwise, the relationship will be out of balance.
Any feelings are mutually giving, unilateral efforts can not be sincerely reciprocated, only the two sides work together, mutual respect and understanding, feelings can go further.
In life, some girls are always playing tricks and completely ignoring men's feelings. If you indulge her, she will only become more indifferent to you.
If she looks down on you, she won't cherish you and may not hesitate to leave as soon as she meets a better man.
Therefore, a man must not let her feelings become unprincipled, and should restrain her behavior moderately in order to maintain the balance of feelings.
For example, when it comes to dealing with a woman, she is always headstrong and doesn't care about your image.
Whether at home or outside, she always makes a whole bunch of unreasonable demands and throws tantrums at you when you can't satisfy her.
At this time, you can't blindly indulge her, but you should learn to say no to her, let her be clear about your bottom line, and you can't trample on your dignity even in love.
When you are a little cold to her and show your self-esteem and principles, she will think that you are quite manly.
Men should know that women generally worship the truly strong, and if you behave too weakly, she will not respect you and may even think you are useless.
For example, I once saw a report that when a couple was shopping, the boyfriend was reluctant to buy the girl the bag she liked, and the woman insulted her boyfriend in public, attracting many onlookers.
And the man sat on the ground, completely conniving at the unreasonable behavior of the girl, and did not fight back or talk back, which is embarrassing.
Do you think such a man can really win the cherishment of women?Basically, it's hard because he loses his dignity in love, and she doesn't value him at all.
Therefore, when a woman is willful and has no bottom line, a man must not be overly indulgent, but a little cold.
Express your attitude in a timely manner and let her understand that your dignity and principles are inviolable, and she will respect you more.
3. When she is insatiable and asks for money, she is a little cold, and she defends her own rights and interestsShakespeare once said: "If love is full of calculations that have nothing to do with it, it is not true love." ”
In real life, many women tend to ask for money when they are in a relationship with a man, which makes the man pay a huge price for it.
However, they may not finally choose to spend the rest of their lives with men, which has brought huge economic losses and emotional damage to men.
Therefore, it is necessary for a man to examine her character when pursuing her, and even if the two are already in a relationship, he should pay attention to whether she keeps asking for money.
If she behaves too materially and will only ask for you without giving to you, then you should be wary. Don't blindly satisfy her needs because you pursue her and are afraid of losing her.
Once you lose your mind, it may eventually lead to a loss of money or even a senseless loss.
Of course, when a man interacts with a woman, he does need to pay some necessary expenses, but he must not pay for her endlessly. Especially when the relationship is not yet clear, it is all the more important to be cautious.
All in all, when a woman endlessly asks you for money, you have to behave firmly and be moderately cold and let her introspect, which is also a means to protect her own rights.
Being cold on this issue does not mean that you don't love her, but that you want her to understand the true meaning of love. Any love that is based on money and material things will not last long.
Men should be firm and not too compromising. Once you fully meet a woman's needs, she is likely to just take advantage of you and not really love you.
On the contrary, being a little cold and rejecting her unreasonable requests at the right time will make her dare not despise you and respect you more.
A woman who truly loves you usually doesn't ask for it endlessly, but is willing to give it together with you, hoping that the man will keep a clear head in the relationship.
In general, when a woman behaves irrationally, the man is moderately cold and expresses his attitude, which can win her more affection.
True love should not be mixed with calculations, but should be two people working together to meet a better future together.