"Family Commandments" mentions: "Character must start from a young age, expedient and tricky and consensual, then the character of the whole life is bad." "The image of the accumulation of trivial things in life also determines the future of a family. As the pillar of the family, if a man does not pay attention to self-cultivation, it will be like the inside of the pillar being eroded by moths, and he will eventually collapse into the fate. Although women are able to support a family after a man's failure, this situation is hardly sustainable. When the family is in decline, men need to reflect on whether they have developed the following bad Xi habits and need to abandon them as soon as possible.
"Greedy cup" is Xi, hurting the body and making mistakes.
There is a sentence that reveals the state of men drinking: "One, two, two, two, two gargle, three, two, four or two are not considered wine, five, two, six, two and two support the wall and walk, and seven, two, eight, two or two are still roaring." "Many men lose their sense of direction and don't care about their families, their parents, their children, or even their wives as soon as they hold their glasses. They only care about the friendship between brothers and the righteousness of the rivers and lakes. Men who are often obsessed with drinking usually make a lot of fox friends. Alcoholism leads not only to financial losses, but also to a lot of wasted time. Drinking alcohol can behave insolently and even lead to accidents, such as drunk driving, which can affect career development. Sima Zi of the ancient Chu State was drunk and neglected, causing the Chu army to retreat, and finally committed suicide in desperation. The problem of excessive drinking is not limited to individuals, but can affect the entire family.
"Lustful" Xi, the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious.
The ancients said, "A gentleman is lustful but not lewd." "Although it is human nature to be lustful, the upright person will restrain and change this nature, recognizing the dangers involved. However, ignorant men indulge in their own lust and eventually become scum in society. Lust can easily lead to the breakdown of families, regardless of the size of the family. It is difficult for women to accept the betrayal of men, and men's lustful behavior not only damages their character, but also may be spurned by society. men can lose their jobs and lose their performance. In history, Shi Chong of Chu caused trouble because of showing off his concubines, which led to the fall of his family. Lust will deteriorate people's morals, and it will have a negative impact on family and career.
"Xi, invite disaster."
A man who is too arrogant and arrogant may end up being a failure. There are unforeseen circumstances, and arrogance will only lead to more disasters. Men like to show off their wealth, family, beautiful wives, sensible children, and privileged jobs, and they try to maintain their face, always showing off in front of their brothers. However, people who are too arrogant will eventually become humble, just like Yu Hong of the Liang Kingdom of the Southern Dynasty, who eventually lost everything because he was too arrogant. A man who knows how to run a house should avoid being too public, but know how to enjoy and keep a low profile.
The Xi of the loser, the family collapses.
As the saying goes: "It is easy for a woman to lose, but a man is quick to lose." "Men who indulge in bad Xi habits such as gambling, alcoholism, and smoking can lose all their family fortunes overnight. Many losers' Xi, such as eating, drinking, prostituting, gambling, smoking, etc., may put the family in trouble. Even uncommon loser Xi such as domestic violence, laziness, gnawing at the elderly, not knowing how to raise children, arrogance, etc., may lead to family breakdown. To correct these Xi, men need to reduce unnecessary socialization, return to the family, persist in self-improvement, cultivate noble hobbies, often reflect on themselves and accept criticism from their families.
Men, learn to be a mountain and stabilize the foundation of the family.