The people who went out and the people who came back seemed to be no different, but in fact, they had become two people.
When one person goes out, walks for a few years, or just walks for a few months, and comes home again, it's a different person. What he went out to see and hear became his own experience, and it was impossible to see and hear those things when he hid at home, even if he saw and heard them on the Internet, he might not have his own experience. As a result, people who go out have gained experience and become different from their original selves. It's as if people who know how to love are no longer the original raw melons and eggs, and it seems that people with self-awareness are different from the original people. The person who has gained experience and the original self have become two people, and they are completely different. In terms of time, as long as someone goes out for a spin and goes home again, it is considered two people. Time is different, and people are different. The philosopher once said, "It is impossible for a man to step into the same river at the same time." That's what it means.
The river is always flowing, and when a person enters the river twice, he is not stepping into the same river. People are also changing at any time, as long as you go out for a circle, and then go home is not the same person. The ancients seemed to know this truth, and once they went out, they had to say goodbye to their relatives and friends, and sometimes it even seemed like parting with life and death. After all, in ancient times, communication was not good, and information could only be transmitted through letters. Most people are illiterate, and when they want to report the safety of their families when they go out, they have to ask literate people to write instead of them. A letter from home takes a month, or it can go for months, which is not so convenient.
People who go out face a lot of difficulties, inconvenient transportation, difficult to eat and drink, but also face the embarrassment of robbers, bandits, unfamiliar places, etc., mainly because they have no money. Most people don't go out with a lot of money so as not to be the target of robbery. As the saying goes, "It's easy to be at home, but it's hard to go out." "After going out, people have to follow the local customs, not retain too much personality, and not be too public. Go out and listen to people more, talk less yourself, learn more experience, and do less out of line. As a result, most people go out in a low-key manner, making more friends and less grudges with others. The person who goes out is not a member of the family, and needs to adapt to the unfamiliar environment, and even need to live in the unfamiliar environment for many years. When scholars enter Beijing to take the exam, they must not only aspire to pass the exam, but also want to return to their hometown. It's just that those who pass the exam will become officialdom and return to their hometowns in fine clothes, while most scholars who fail the exam will not dare to go home openly and honestly, and will go home in the dark. Hide your tracks, review silently, endure humiliation, and take the exam again. Some people even felt that they had no face to go home and chose to wander outside, and some even chose to commit suicide, as if they had no face to see Jiangdong's parents again.
It is not easy for people to go out to be officials, and they face many difficulties on the road, in addition to the fatigue of traveling and driving, they also face the threat of mountain thieves, water thieves, and black shops and homeless people. There was a ** robbery on the road, lost the official seal, was pretended to be an official by others, and the worst thing was that after being killed, the official position was sat by others, and it became an unjust case. In "Journey to the West", Tang Seng's father Chen Guangrui encountered a water thief, and not only his official position was occupied, but his wife was also occupied. It wasn't until Tang Seng grew up that he took revenge. It is not easy for ordinary people to go out, they need to travel together, and they also need to help each other. Those who go out to do business must also guard against bandits, water thieves, black shops, etc., to guard against being deceived, and to guard against extortion by the government, which is simply more difficult. Farmers who go out generally have to travel together, and they also have to help each other, and when they encounter things, they can't take care of themselves.
Nowadays, people who go out are not so low-key and not so cautious. After all, social conditions are better, public security conditions are better, and society is harmonious. Tourism is being developed in many places and people are being asked to travel. When the security conditions are good, people are willing to travel. It's just that people who have been out for a long time still have a feeling of "mistaking a foreign country for their hometown", and when they go home, they have a sense of returning home. Perhaps, the Chinese people have a strong sense of locality, and they must dress up brightly when they return to their hometowns. Even farmers who work outside the village must be dressed up brightly when they return to their hometowns, and even drive cars back to their hometowns, even if they borrow cars and take taxis, they will be majestic and high-spirited. Xiang Yu doesn't like to go home in a low-key manner, and going home in a low-key manner is equivalent to "night walking in brocade". When you go home, you have to have face, which can be regarded as a journey and an achievement.
I work outside to earn money, and when I go home, I have to buy more things for my parents. I work outside to earn money, and I have to buy more things when I get home. It can be regarded as honoring his parents, and it can be regarded as giving himself enough face. In fact, in this life, only by guarding the countryside can it be regarded as a good destination. Even if you live in a big city, you may not be very happy. Making more money is not happiness, having power is not happiness, and only when you feel happiness is happiness. And the real happiness is in the countryside, there is food and drink, there is not too much pressure, and life is comfortable. When you go out, no matter how far you go, you will come home when you die. Of course, there are also people who are buried outside, and they become lonely ghosts wandering in a foreign land. But people don't think so, but think that people who go out are promising, at least there are more opportunities to earn money, but there is more pressure and melancholy.
When dreaming back at midnight, many people who are away from home will "go home", and even a lot of childhood hometown will surface, and there will be a homesickness complex. The people who go out seem to be capable people, and the people who come back are either returning home in fine clothes or can't get along outside. In fact, going out and coming back are the trajectory of life, as long as you go out or come back, you will change a person, change your understanding, and change your life. Let's learn from the ancients and attach importance to parting and reunion. After all, in the world dominated by capital, people's work and life rhythm is accelerating, parting is common, reunion is not common, and even going out is goodbye, and going home has become a sad thing ......