Older people often lament that they have been excluded and that they are seen as a burden as they get older. This feeling stems from their long-held way of thinking, and few people are willing to change their mindsets, so they always feel that they are being treated unfairly. However, in the eyes of many children, the elderly are not wronged, but because they completely lack self-awareness, rely on the old and sell the old, and cannot understand the situation of the younger generations.
In the case of Ms. Miao, her in-laws often complained to their daughter, claiming that their daughter-in-law was unhappy with them. So, the sister-in-law questioned her sister-in-law indignantly, but was unexpectedly reprimanded by Ms. Miao. She insisted that it was not that she disliked the elderly, but that she felt that the elderly lacked the ability to self-reflect and respect others.
Ms. Miao's statement.
As night fell, I had to work until eight o'clock. Stepping out of the company and getting on the bus, it was past the evening rush hour and unimpeded. When I got home, I caught a glimpse of the clock in the living room, which was already pointing to eight forty o'clock.
I hurried into the bedroom, changed my clothes, and when I looked back, I found my father-in-law sitting on the couch watching TV. The ashtray on the coffee table was piled with disused cigarette butts, and the smell of tobacco filled the living room.
My father-in-law started smoking in the living room again, and he and his in-laws had been living here for half a year, but my father-in-law never distinguished the occasions for smoking. Whether it's the sofa, bedroom, kitchen or bathroom, his cigarette butts can be found everywhere. Even the sofa cover and duvet cover were left with a few burnt holes.
As their daughter-in-law, I have kindly reminded me many times, but my father-in-law seems to be unconcerned about this, and even says that if I mind, he can buy me a new quilt cover and sofa cover.
I glanced at the ashtray, which was almost full and about to overflow. I sighed helplessly. No matter what I say, for my in-laws, it seems to be just a whisper in my ears.
I walked into the kitchen and opened the fridge, only to find it empty. I looked up at the clock in the living room again, and it was almost nine o'clock. I felt the anger rising in my heart, and I was too depressed to release it. My in-laws have been here for half a year, and no matter when I come home from work, it seems that I am only waiting for me to cook for them.
Many times I had to settle dinner on the way because I came home late. However, when my father-in-law saw that I didn't prepare dinner immediately after I got home, he would ask, "What are you going to eat tonight?"
I was always puzzled that both of them were not yet 60 years old, and they didn't usually help with the housework, and they even had to take care of their own food. It's already ** o'clock when I get home from overtime every day, and I still need to be asked "what do you want to eat".
Once, I got angry and said, "You can eat whatever you want." As a result, my father-in-law immediately called ** to my sister-in-law, saying that I disliked them and didn't cook for them.
Exhausted, I walked into the kitchen and cooked them bowls of noodles. It's hard for me to understand why they didn't cook their own meals before they moved into our house
Recalling the previous quarrel, I still swallowed my anger at my father-in-law and said to him, "Dad, there are vegetables in the refrigerator, you can go downstairs and buy some." ”
My father-in-law stared at the TV intently, and said lazily: "I don't know what to buy, you can buy whatever you want, go downstairs and take a look yourself." ”
This made me even angrier. I often come home from work and am busy cooking, even if they can help me get my hands on the ingredients in advance, and I can go home and do it directly.
But every time they are lazy and don't do anything, and they don't want to do housework at all. Even if it's something as trivial as shopping, they are tired and reluctant to go. Angry, I took off my apron and walked straight to the bathroom.
As soon as I walked into the bathroom, a pungent smell hit my face. The toilet bowl was covered with yellow stains, and even the inside was a mess. My anger rose again.
Isn't it a trivial matter to remind them to clean up the toilet after going to the toilet every time?The bathroom is stocked with wet toilet paper and brushes, so you can clean it up after use. However, despite what I said many times, they never put it into practice.
Once, I was so depressed that I decided not to clean up the bathroom to see if they could be self-conscious. Unexpectedly, after waiting for two whole weeks, in the end, my husband couldn't stand it anymore and brushed the toilet himself.
Sitting alone on the toilet, the mood is half angry, half frustrated. Looking back on the past six months, since my in-laws came, my life has really become a mess.
My father-in-law is like glued to the TV every day, from morning to night. And the mother-in-law is keen on brushing short**, every time she mops the floor, she will claim that her back hurts, and she quickly enters the Douyin mode when it comes to the holiday.
The mother-in-law in * is full of energy, but in fact, she is lying on ** but she looks tired. The hygiene of the home has never been taken care of, and every time I mop the floor, only after a reminder will the in-laws reluctantly move.
My father-in-law always smoked in the bedroom, which filled the room with a strong smell of tobacco. Every time I open the bedroom door, I feel like I'm in the smoky air. They were reminded to dry their quilts, but they were always politely declined.
I really felt powerless and felt that living with them made me extremely dull. After sorting out my emotions a little, I decided to go out grocery shopping. It was already 9 o'clock in the evening, and the vegetable shops were full of leftovers, and it took a lot of effort to finally buy three dishes. Sitting on the stool downstairs, I breathed a sigh of relief.
I've been struggling in my heart, in fact, I really don't want to cook for them anymore, but I feel that my in-laws are elders, and it's hard to tear my face. I had to sit down and calm down.
After 20 minutes, I adjusted my mood and returned home, and as soon as I stepped into the door, my father-in-law asked: "It's past nine o'clock, we have been hungry all afternoon, and you are too slow to buy food." ”
The emotions calmed down, but my father-in-law's complaining words instantly ignited the anger in my heart. I looked at my father-in-law and couldn't help but say, "You're not incompetent, I've been working all day, and I'm still counting on a ready-made meal when I get home." I don't expect you to cook for me, I just want you to take care of yourself a little bit. ”
My tone aroused the anger of my father-in-law, and he pointed at me and said, "We are also fifty or sixty years old, as a junior, you should be considerate of us old people, if you don't take care of us, forget it, and you want us to take care of you, how embarrassed are you!".”
As soon as he finished speaking, he began to shout loudly to his mother-in-law to ask her to call the girl, saying that she wanted the girl to take them home, because they were disliked, old, useless, and would be disliked if they couldn't work.
I became even more angry when I heard my father-in-law's words, turned around and went into the bedroom, and slammed the door shut. Whenever I said a few words, my in-laws would shout to find my sister-in-law, and my sister-in-law would point fingers at me every time she came, but she never took her in-laws to her own home.
At eleven o'clock in the evening, my sister-in-law came, and as soon as she entered, she began to slam my bedroom door, shouting my name, accusing me of not knowing filial piety, saying that I did not know how to respect the elderly, and asking me to apologize to my in-laws.
In the past, I tried to calm the situation and say a few nice words. However, this method did not change the attitude of the in-laws, but made them treat them more deliberately. After my sister-in-law slammed the door, I didn't give her a good face.
As soon as I opened the door, I bluntly retorted to my sister-in-law: "Saying that I dislike the elderly, shouldn't the old man be self-respecting first?."They are also people who have experienced a lifetime, so why can't they take care of the younger generation a little bit by themselves, and just think about being served. ”
If I can't take care of the elderly, you have the ability to pick them up today, let your sister go home, and let them be like uncles, and no one will object. Don't oppress others with moral kidnapping. ”
My sister-in-law saw that I had a tough attitude, and it was difficult for her to take a stand. I took my in-laws back to my home that night. I finally breathed a sigh of relief, and let her realize what it was like to be an old man who was just waiting to be served every day.
Even if it's my own daughter, I don't believe she can last for half a year.
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