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Since we were children, we are all proud of being a good person, and try our best to learn from Xi good side, just to become a good person like others.
However, as I grew older, I became more and more afraid to be a good person.
When I reach middle age, I don't dare to be a good person casually
It is with the increase of people's experience that I understand that to be a good person, there are also basic principles, and it is not that when you see the pitiful appearance of others, you can just reach out to help others.
1. Helping may be harmful, but not helping is a long-term help
People's fates are different, and if you casually mix in other people's lives, you won't be able to help others, and you will disrupt your own life.
There was once a person who had a good friend, and they lived a similar life, and even the life of a friend was a little better, because there were people around him who could help him.
But as time goes by, the life of a good friend becomes more and more difficult, while the life of this person gets better and better.
This person looks at his friend's difficult appearance and always tries to help his friend in any way.
However, I didn't expect that after a year, my friend's bad situation has not been improved, and it has even developed in a worse way.
In the end, this person found out from the comprehensive situation of his friend that the friend was formed by relying on others for a long time.
That is, as long as something happens, the friend always does not know how to solve it, and then tells the problem to others, and the people close to him will come up with their own ideas, and this person will do it according to the opinion of one of them.
But in the end, it always backfires, and it takes good opportunities to pass by again and again, so that life becomes more and more difficult.
This person can see from these facts that if those people hadn't come up with ideas from this friend in the first place, maybe they would have known what to do.
After all, the solution is always thought of by people, and the growth of people is always forced out slowly, and no one is born with a lot of things!
Friends are helped by other people's Xi, let themselves completely lose the opportunity to be independent, and finally use up all good resources, only to regret not being at the beginning is useless, but such a lesson is too cruel.
Therefore, sometimes helping may harm others, but not helping others can make others grow better, that is, helping them for a long time.
After understanding these truths, when people reach middle age, I don't dare to help others casually, I don't dare to be a good person casually, I just want others to get a good experience in life.
Second, the gang must recognize people, otherwise they will only be entangled by people
Then, for the person who wants to help, you can't just hear about other people's difficulties and just help others casually.
At the very least, this person must be self-motivated, have the spirit of enduring hardships, and be a person who does not like to take advantage of others......If you have a good character, you can.
Otherwise, in film and television dramas or **, or in real life, how many liters of rice and hatred, how did they come about?That's what other people really feel!
This is how they warn others: even if you want to help others, you must recognize that people can do it, otherwise you will only be entangled by others and your life will be very badly disturbed.
This is the real situation, so that when I am middle-aged, I really don't dare to be a good person casually in the face of other people's difficulties.
3. Even if you want to help others, you must know how to do what you can
Without the power of the Bodhisattva, there should be no Bodhisattva heart, let go of the knot of helping others, which is not only to respect the fate of others, but also to effectively protect yourself.The above paragraph is one that everyone often hears, and the popular meaning of this sentence is that if you don't have diamonds, don't do porcelain work, not only can you not help others, but also make yourself more and more difficult.
That is, even if you want to help others, you have to understand your actual situation, or the actual situation of the other person.
If you can't let others get help for a long time, it is better to let others exercise their skills to make a living in advance, which will be a long-term, safe, and very self-protective way for others and yourself.
It's just that some people always don't agree with this point of view, and like to help others casually, and in the end let others get no real help, and limit themselves to very embarrassing or dangerous situations.
If it is like this, it is better not to help.
That is, when people reach middle age and have experienced a lot of things, they will make people understand: helping may be harmful, but not helping is long-term help;Help to recognize people, otherwise they will only be entangled by people;Even if you want to help others, you must know how to do what you can.
Otherwise, not only will I not be able to help others, but I will also disrupt my life, and I may also let myself be stuffed in trouble and danger, so that I will be middle-aged, and I dare not be a good person casually in the face of other people's difficulties.