My name is Xiaohong, I am 28 years old and I work for a foreign company. My parents are retired and live in my hometown, and I live alone in the city. In the past, when my parents were alive, I didn't cause them a lot of trouble, but now I think about it.
Yesterday, my parents suddenly called ** and said that they wanted to move to the city to live with me. I was surprised and asked, "Don't you live in your hometown?"It's not easy to move in with me. My father said, "My hometown is empty, and we only have two people every day, so I feel lonely." If I want to move to the city, I can see you often, and I can help you cook and do laundry, just like before. "I'm a little embarrassed, the house is not big, and living with my parents is afraid that it will affect each other's daily life. But I couldn't bear to refuse directly, so I could only say: "I'll think about it." "I was very bothered by my parents' proposals.
When necessary, I often go back to see you, and I go to my hometown to stay for a few days every month, so that you will not be lonely, and I still have my own space, do you think it's okay?”
The mother was silent, and then said with some disappointment: "Child, we really want to see you every day and move in together." When you were a child, we took care of you, and now that you have grown up, we will take care of us. ”
I know that my parents are hell-bent on forming a big family so that they can live together and rely on each other. But I'm Xi to living alone and need my own space. Besides, I'm also very busy at work, so I'm afraid I won't be able to take care of it. I was also sad to see my mother's disappointment, and quickly explained:
Mom, it's not that I don't want to see you every day, it's just that the conditions are limited now, and I have just worked, and my life and rest are not very regular. If you do come and live here, I'm afraid you won't be Xi used to it. Why don't I go to my hometown to see you regularly every month, you can stay for a week, and we can get along slowly, so that you won't be lonely, and when my work is stable, maybe we can live together. Do you think it's an idea?”
My father chimed in and said, "Forget it, we're just on a whim, and we don't want to really cause you trouble." If you want to work to earn money now, don't worry about us, our old couple can live a safe and stable life in our hometown, you just need to give some living expenses every month. ”
I could hear my parents' tone soften, so I asked, "Is it really possible?"Then I'll give you 20,000 yuan a month for living expenses, and then go back to your hometown for a week every month, let's have a good chat, can you think about it carefully?”
Mother whispered, "It's okay, you're busy anyway." We elderly people don't move to the city to get in your way, meet and chat every month, and I'll cook a few dishes that you loved to eat when you were a child in the evening, and we'll talk slowly. ”
I breathed a sigh of relief, and my family finally came to a consensus that they would take care of my parents and not affect myself too much. I said, "That's it!".I'm going back to stay for a week next month, and then we'll have a good chat, hang out together, and I'm going to show you the company I work for. ”
My parents smiled and agreed, and we both felt that this arrangement was actually very good, not only to see each other often, but also to keep each other's living space. I think that although I can't achieve my wish to live together, I will need to pay more attention to my parents in the future, so that my family can become closer and closer. This discussion has made me grow a lot and learn to think from my parents' point of view.
I was a little relieved. My parents did want to move in because they cared about me, and I should cherish this love. Although I can't fulfill their wishes, I will take care of their lives more carefully in the future.
I began to wonder how to take care of my parents. Maybe you can go to your hometown regularly and take them out for a walk. I can drive them around the surrounding attractions and enjoy the scenery while chatting and bonding. You can also take them to the parks, cinemas, and shopping malls in the city to experience urban life. Always ask them about their physical condition to see if there is anything they can help with.
In addition, I plan to transfer 20,000 yuan to them every month for living expenses. Their pension is not very high, and now that I have the ability, I should share more of the family's financial burden. 20,000 should be enough to cover daily expenses, and if there is an emergency, I am always ready to support more. Maybe in the future I can buy a new house and have a bigger room for my parents, who can come and live occasionally.
During this time, I sometimes think about the bits and pieces of my childhood. My parents put a lot of effort into raising me. Now that I am old and able to take charge of myself, it is time to give back to my parents and let them live a happy and happy life in their old age.