My name is Zhang Xiaomei, I am 28 years old and I have been married for five years. My husband Li Jian and I are both ordinary migrant workers, wearing wedding rings to climb tall buildings, sitting on rickety buses, and facing crowded ** every day. From acquaintance to love and then to marriage, the two of us have been living in an old rented house on the outskirts of the city. The 20-square-metre shantytown room is shabby, but it is a place of great memories for us.
Now we have finally saved up enough for a down payment and are ready to buy a second-hand home on the outskirts of the city. Yesterday, when I went to see a house with Li Jian, I fell in love with a 100-square-meter three-bedroom apartment almost at a glance. This suite is located in a new complex and is decorated simply and brightly. What excites me the most is that the space is larger, and I can have a larger living room in the future, giving my parents and in-laws a room, and we young people can just sleep on the sofa. I couldn't wait to say to Li Jian: "My dear, let's buy this set, when the decoration is finished, take my parents to live in our house, and the six of us live together, how happy!."”
But when I called my in-laws Li Jianming and Wang Li, their reaction was very cold, just humming. Li Jianming is a middle school teacher with a serious personalityWang Li is **, with a strong personality and vigorous work. I was a little aggrieved, but for the sake of family harmony, I repeatedly told them how good the environment of the new house was, and I must come to live in it often.
Finally, the day before we were ready to move in, my in-laws arrived at our new home in a BMW that I had just bought recently. I hurriedly came out to greet you, and said with a smile: "Uncle and aunt, you are here, sister, I have already cleaned your room, do you like it?"”
Wang Li glanced at me expressionlessly, and said coldly: "Okay, you don't need to clean up, let's clean up ourselves." Then he pulled Li Jianming and walked straight into the house.
I was a little embarrassed, and my husband Li Jian whispered to me when he saw this: "Their personality is like this, don't take it to heart." ”
At this time, the in-laws had already come out of the house, and Wang Li said disgustedly: "Hmph, the house is too small, and the things are too old, outdated and out of date." Li Jian, quickly replaced the tables and chairs, they are all old things and unhygienic. You two can sleep on the sofa, and the master bedroom will be for your parents. ”
I was stunned when I heard this, and Li Jian also said embarrassedly: "Mom, the things at home have just been arranged, let's live like this first." You and Dad can use the master bedroom at any time, we don't mind. ”
Cut, bought the house by yourself, and the things are still finger-pointed. Wang Li snorted coldly, pulled Li Jianming to the master bedroom, and closed the door.
Li Jian and I looked at each other, bitter in our hearts, but it was not good to attack our elders. At this time, my parents also arrived, saw my anxious appearance, and offered to ask if we would like to help with cooking and washing dishes, and help us with some household chores. My heart warmed, my eyes were a little red, and I said to them: "Mom and Dad have worked hard for you, my husband and I can get it, you can rest." ”
I looked at my parents' shocked expressions and felt very uncomfortable. Li Jian hurriedly came over to play the round, smiled at my parents and said, "Uncle and aunt, you sit down, I'll go get fruit for you." With that, he dragged me to the kitchen.
Li Jian said to me softly: "Don't worry about my mother, she has a bad temper, she will be fine after a while." Let's take care of your parents. I held back tears and nodded, and came out with a smile on my face.
My parents didn't stay that day, and seeing that I was in a bad mood, I went back to my house. When I sent them out, my parents told me to be considerate of my in-laws and not to be like them. Looking at their warm and caring eyes, my nose was sore, and I couldn't help but hug my mother and cry.
In the evening, I said to Li Jian with red eyes: "Husband, I don't think your parents want to live with us at all, they will quarrel every day if they move here." "
Li Jian sighed and said, "They are just verbally difficult and annoying, let's not take it to heart." Ming'er, I'll discuss the money with them, and let them pay some mortgages. ”
Wang Li's face immediately sank, and said, "You bought the house, what does it matter to us, you can pay it back yourself." ”
What!Wang Li stood up suddenly, her face turned pale with anger: "Why do you want us to pay for the house you bought yourself!."Don't get an inch, I'll move out if you say anything else!”
After speaking, she pulled Li Jianming back to the room and slammed the door slammed. Li Jian looked at me helplessly. I thought to myself, my in-laws are really angry now, it's better to move out, and save yourself every day.
Unexpectedly, at dinner, Wang Li actually said to Li Jian in front of me: "Son, let's move out, we are Xi used to freedom, and we are not suitable for living with you." Let's go out and rent a suite, don't be embarrassed. ”
I was a little surprised to hear it, maybe my in-laws finally realized that the living Xi of both parties was not suitable. I couldn't help but say up, "Uncle and aunt, why don't you stay here for a while, and we'll talk about it when we Xi get used to it." ”
Wang Li gave me a blank look and ignored me. Li Jian also persuaded them to think about it again, Wang Li sneered, got up with Li Jianming and walked out.
Seeing that they were leaving, I was in a hurry, and hurriedly grabbed Wang Li's arm and said, "Auntie, wait, I have something to say." Wang Li shook off my hand and said angrily: "It's endless, don't bother me!."”
I plucked up the courage to stare into her eyes and said heavily, "Auntie, I beg you to give our family a chance,?."I know you're thinking about your son, but it's hard for us. Let's sign a contract, you pay a little rent every month, we are grateful, do you think it's okay?”
Wang Li squinted her eyes and stared at me, her face cloudy. After a few seconds, she nodded slowly and said in a low voice, "Okay, for Jianjian's sake, I can try." But to sign a contract. ”
I was relieved, and quickly nodded and said, "Okay auntie, I'll draft the contract tomorrow." Thank you so much!Wang Li didn't speak, and pulled Li Jianming back to the room. Li Jian walked over and grabbed my shoulders and said softly, "Thank you for your hard work, it's good to have you." ”
In the following days, although the in-laws were still impatient, their attitude improved significantly. They pay their rent on time every month and are no longer vexatious. My husband and I began to learn to be considerate of their feelings, often greeting and caring, and the husband and wife slowly ran in.
I also re-invited my parents to come and live with me. The in-laws saw that their parents were hardworking and capable, and their attitude towards them gradually improved. Once my mother cooked a few dishes, Wang Li also praised it rarely. After dinner, my mother smiled and said to Wang Li: "Sister Li, I'll wash the dishes today, you can rest." Wang Li was stunned for a moment, nodded and said, "It's okay, then I'll go pack my clothes." ”
I secretly rejoiced in my heart, it seems that everyone has finally broken the mustard and can gradually get along. These days, I often chat with neighbors and friends, and they all praise us for being filial to our parents and being able to deal with our in-laws, and we have a good son-in-law and daughter-in-law. Every time I hear such words, I feel that the relationship between people needs to be mutually understanding and tolerant in order to live a warm and happy life.
As the days passed, I watched my parents and in-laws slowly run in together, and I couldn't help but feel emotional.
One day, I came home from work early and when I opened the door, I saw my parents and in-laws watching TV and chatting in the living room. Mom smiled and said to Wang Li: "Sister Li, your hair is a little messy, let me help you comb it." Wang Li nodded, and her mother gently helped her comb her hair, and Wang Li's expression seemed to be very enjoyable. I was amazed, but a warm feeling rose in my heart.
After a while, Wang Li said to her mother: "Sister Jing, your hair is combed well, and your skills are still better." Come on, come on, help me trim my nails, my nails are too long, and I always wear socks. Mom smiled and came down and helped Wang Li trim her nails. As I watched their harmonious interactions, my eyes moistened.
After dinner, Dad took the initiative to clean the table, picked up the broom and began to sweep the floor. Seeing this, Li Jianming also stood up and said, "Yunwu, it's too hard to sweep the floor, don't sweep the man, I'll come, you rest." Dad smiled and patted him on the shoulder, and the two of them talked and laughed as they cleaned up the house together.
I was pleasantly surprised and said to my husband, "Look, your dad and my dad have a much better relationship!".It is really the harmony of birds and beasts in the sky, and you and I are the same in the world. My husband also smiled, nodded and said, "Yes, thanks to our mutual tolerance and understanding, the family is so harmonious." ”
In the blink of an eye, a few more months passed. One day when I came home from work, as soon as I opened the door, I saw my mother sitting opposite Wang Li, and the two of them were chatting seriously. I walked over lightly and heard my mother say, "Sister Li, I see that you have been in a good mood recently, have you encountered anything happy?"Wang Li smiled shyly and said in a low voice: "It's nothing, it's just that Jianjian is going to be promoted and raised, and I'm very happy for him." ”
The mother smiled and said, "Such a good thing, you have to treat the child well!."Wang Li nodded and said, "Yes, I already plan to buy him some new clothes in advance, I have worked hard for him for so long." The two chatted warmly for a while. I'm glad they've become so close.
During the Chinese New Year, my in-laws offered to give my husband and me 20,000 yuan each. I hurriedly excused myself, saying that you have already paid the rent and don't need to give us any more New Year's goods. Wang Li waved her hand and said, "I'm a mother, you can accept it." "I was extremely touched and thanked me repeatedly.
On weekdays, my in-laws are no longer picky and often take the initiative to help us cook and clean. When the neighbors met, they all said that we were a happy family. Sometimes I feel like I'm in a dream, and I'm really grateful to God for being able to adapt to each other so quickly.
On the road of life, how precious it is to live in harmony. I often feel that before you love someone, you have to learn to appreciate and tolerate someone. The four old people were able to finally get along in this small family, all because our hearts slowly learned to be considerate, give in and tolerate. There is no absolute right or wrong on the road of feelings, only continuous understanding and tolerance.