Everyone will inevitably experience some trauma in their lives. Psychological trauma does not only come from wars and natural disasters, but also from neglect, emotional abuse, and violence in daily life, especially in the fast-paced life of modern times, where we are more likely to fall into the quagmire of psychological trauma. So, how should we deal with psychological trauma when it happens?How to ** yourself?How to transform through trauma and live a truly happy life?Here are 6 effective methods that I hope will help you.
1. Be aware of the scars of the past
When dealing with trauma, many people's first reaction is to try to change, but they ignore the importance of self-awareness. The first step in seeking adjustment should be self-awareness, understanding what happened growing up, and looking at the past with a present perspective. Psychology tells us that the emotional response to excessive anger or injury is often related to the family environment as a child. Learning to examine past experiences from a mature, objective standpoint is the first step.
2. Various forms of self-defense
There are three common types of self-defense in interpersonal interactions: pleaser, aggression, and isolation. Understanding these patterns and analyzing which one you belong to is the key to understanding the problem. Each has its own way of protecting itself, but it's important to note that overdoing the same can lead to problems. In relationships, continuous learning and solving problems with more mature methods is a necessary path to growth.
3. Keep an emotional diary to understand yourself better
By keeping an emotional journal, you can gain insight into your own emotions and psychological interactions with others. Mood diary is a tool for reflection on life, by carefully thinking about the things that trigger emotions in life, we can better examine and think, which has a positive effect on personal growth and psychological reconstruction.
4. Go back to the past with the help of the "lifeline".
By recalling a sad or happy event in a memory, mapping a lifeline, or conducting a psychohistorical analysis, we can gain a deeper understanding of our past. This kind of retrospective can not only help us relive the joys and sorrows of the past, but also allow us to feel differently about past events, which in turn can lead to new knowledge and understanding for ourselves.
5. Find a safe person to keep secrets
In the process of reviewing and healing, it is crucial to have a safe person. This person can be a friend or loved one who knows you well, or a professional counselor. When we are able to truly be heard, understood, and accepted, we will gain ** in this experience. Emotional or experiential learning tends to have a more profound impact than intellectual learning.
6. Change the code of life and reinvent yourself
Most wounds can be healed with the right methods, such as meditation, vipassana, specific healing releases, etc. However, for some larger injuries, such as assault, fear of death, ** harm, etc., it is recommended to seek the assistance of a professional (psychological counselor). No matter how big the wound is, I believe that it can be healed and traversed. As long as you are willing to explore and heal the wounds within you with a little courage and patience, you will gradually heal these wounds as you grow up, and become a valuable asset in your rich experience in this life.
The power of psychology
Psychology provides us with the tools to deeply understand and deal with psychological trauma. Such as:If you are interested in psychology or interpersonal problems, please leave a message or chat with me privatelyTogether, we can dive deeper into how to build healthier, more understanding, and more supportive relationships. Because understanding and caring are the keys to getting out of psychological trauma. May everyone who has experienced trauma find the best way to meet a happy life again.
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