In an intimate relationship, love and sex are two sides of the same coin.
Love is very important, and without love, there is no point in two people being together;
Sex is very important, and without sex, the relationship between two people is at stake.
But when it comes to running intimate relationships, the most important thing besides sex: communication.
Couples who can "talk well" often have a good relationship;
If you lose your love of communication, your relationship will only die step by step.
The most emotionally hurtful behavior: Nothing to say
In a talk show, a sentence was said:
My husband and I finally became brothers living in bunk beds. ”
How many couples have become "brothers" after getting married?
How many lovers have nothing to say after their relationship has entered a dull period?
There is a concept in psychology called "emotional neglect".
And the most obvious characteristics of emotional neglect are:
Let the relationship between two people enter the freezing point, refuse to communicate, refuse to respond.
You share a lot, and the other person doesn't respond;
You say a lot of things, and the other party looks at you indifferently;
Your emotions, good or bad, are no longer empathetic to you.
What are feelings most afraid of?
One "never finishes talking", and the other is "silent to death".
When it's cold, the feelings fade away;
There was silence, and the two of them dispersed.
The highest level of romance in a relationship: the desire to share
What is the desire to share?
You're messing around, he's laughing;
You don't finish talking on the side, and the other party has been cooperating with you.
Everything that happens in your day, good or bad, funny or bad;
You'll think of each other first and then share it with them.
Unavoidably. Why is it romantic to share?
Because even through the phone screen, even if you are not with each other;
This state of sharing with each other can also make the other person part of your life.
The older you get, the more you go through to understand :
It's really romantic to have someone who can talk nonsense with you at any time and consume life with you;
In those bland, exciting, expectant, and trivial days, it is not boring to have each other company.
How to "talk well" when you get along with others?
First: Please play straight.
A person's true maturity:
Be able to express your emotions and feelings directly.
If the other person's remark makes you unhappy, please speak up;
What you want, what you expect, what you need, just say it.
If you don't say it, bury it in your heart, and after a long time, it will become a "heart disease";
If the other party can't guess, you will be disappointed and anxious.
But have you ever thought that the other person is not a cell in your mind, and he doesn't know exactly what you're thinking?
Playing straight cards is the most basic respect for relationships.
If you have something to say, don't take a detour.
Second: Be sure not to treat it cold.
It's okay to quarrel, it's okay to have a mouthful, it's normal.
Cold treatment, solving problems in a silent way is always the "next step".
The matter of the day will be solved on the same day, don't delay;
Don't try to win or lose, just give in.
Problems that can be digested internally, don't make everyone know.
Third: master good communication skills.
Tip 1: Learn to compliment.
At all times, compliments are the most effective and quick way to resolve contradictions.
When you compliment the other person, the other person can also give you positive emotional value in return.
Tip 2: The Sandwich Effect.
If you're upset with your partner, don't blame, belittle or ridicule them directly, put them another way.
Express your compliments first, then your displeasure, and finally what you expect from them.
The feelings of careful management are often not bad.
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