"Eldest sister" is the name used by the people of the Bai family to call Bai Xiaowen's wife.
In the TV series "White Deer Plain", the eldest sister is a little selfish and picky because of her unique ginning skills, and she often feels that her in-laws don't care enough about her, so she often shouts to go back to her parents' house. During a battle with bandits, she was wounded and hospitalized. In the process of robbing the Bai family by bandits, she was insulted and did not return to the Bai family after returning to her parents' home.
In the original, the eldest sister is not good at ginning, she is just an honest woman with an ordinary appearance and a strong physique. Since she was three years older than Baek Hyo-moon and didn't have any attraction, Baek Hyo-moon felt that she had become boring after studying her relationship between men and women.
Bai Xiaowen was attracted by Tian Xiao'e's charm, when he saw Tian Xiao'e's charming and angry appearance, and then considering the careless and clumsy eldest sisters in the family, he felt that after marrying home, he was like a pile of featureless "tofu dregs".
In the original, the eldest sister was not harmed by bandits and did not return to her maiden home. In fact, she starved to death after Bai Xiaowen was lured by Tian Xiao'e with hue and kicked all the houses and land away.
After the eldest sister starved to death, there was a huge sensation in Bailu Village, and the villagers expressed their regret and did not understand why the eldest daughter-in-law of the Bai family suffered such a wronged fate
From humble background, he is not popular with society.
Among the three daughters-in-law of the Bai family, Xiaowu's daughter-in-law is the daughter of Mr. Leng, a famous doctor in Bailu Town. Mr. Leng has a high reputation in Bailuyuan, so his daughter will naturally be more respected in her in-laws' family.
Bai Jiaxuan made many comparisons and appraisals through the five to six subjects introduced by the matchmaker, and finally determined the identity of the third daughter-in-law through multiple inquiries from relatives and friends. This woman not only has a good upbringing, but also behaves very lively when dealing with affairs, she is an impeccable woman, and at the same time the most satisfied and perfect daughter-in-law in Bai Jiaxuan's mind.
Only Bai Xiaowen's wife and sister came from a poor family, and their social status was extremely low, and she was a woman who was quite average in many aspects.
When the Bai family desperately needed a new employer, the eldest sister became the wife that Bai Jiaxuan hastily chose for his son.
Due to the urgent need for talents, Bai Jiaxuan only considered that her eldest sister was physically strong and three years older than her son, and he believed that she would contribute to the Bai family in the future, without considering whether she was compatible with her son or whether her son liked her.
When the eldest sister became a member of the Bai family, she was already nineteen years old, and at the same time, Bai Xiaowen's age was only sixteen. The eldest sister is her father's younger sister. Due to the limitations of the family's financial conditions, the parents of the eldest sister eagerly hoped that she would enter the palace of marriage as soon as possible to reduce her dependence on food. The younger sister married in, but their hearts did not let go. They didn't think deeply about whether their daughter could get the company of her husband and the favor of her wife after marrying the Bai family.
In the TV series, the eldest sister married the Bai family with her exquisite ginning skills, because the Bai family's ginning machine is irreplaceable for her, so her in-law's attitude towards her is relatively tolerant, and her social status in the Bai family is not low.
In the original work, the eldest sister has neither exquisite ginning skills nor a sober person, and she can only focus on the scene when dealing with affairs. She is a typical farmer, and after her husband died, she became a lonely old man with no children and no daughters. Without the support and value of her mother's family, the predicament she faced in the Bai family was obvious.
Due to her low social status, the eldest sister has always been regarded as a marginal figure in the Bai family. She has no husband and no sons, only a daughter-in-law. Only those kind-hearted Bai family members really noticed the existence of her daughter-in-law. She is also very tolerant of her husband and daughter. Bai Jiaxuan and his mother, Bai Zhao, only regarded her as a means of labor and childbirth for the Bai family's new marriage.
Since becoming a member of the Bai family, her eldest sister has always maintained a low-key attitude, working silently, she rarely makes eye contact with her father-in-law, and does not dare to have any conflict with him.
In the eldest sister's maiden family, there is a tradition that the new daughter-in-law cannot land before passing the door, otherwise she may be bullied by her in-laws in the future. On this day, the eldest lady is getting married. On the day of the wedding, when the eldest sister was sitting in a sedan chair waiting for someone else to carry her, Bai Jiaxuan reprimanded Bai Xiaowen with an expressionless face
Messing around, this is Bailuyuan, she can't do anything wrong."
Before entering his in-law's house, Bai Jiaxuan had already shown his majesty to his eldest sister.
When I read the original work of "White Deer Plain", I often think about whether Bai Jiaxuan's second daughter-in-law would break the established rules if he was Leng QiushuiWill she be like her father, to her daughter, and like her husband, to behave gently and considerately in front of her, so that people feel kind and warm?
I always thought it was impossible!She is not very old, she is still a little younger in our big family, but her status and influence should not be underestimated, and she is the pillar of our family. Because Leng Qiushui came from a superior background, he was supported by a mother's family with a firm position.
A woman's status in her in-law's family largely depends on her birth background, which is similar to Hao Dongmei and Zheng Juan in "The World".
As the daughter of the governor, Hao Dongmei has always been so noble in the eyes of the Zhou family, and they always have a wait-and-see attitude towards her. But she just put herself in a position where she was not valued and had no status. Although she has never shown filial piety in front of her in-laws, even if her parents have never been willing to meet her in-laws, the people of the Zhou family have never had a different opinion of her.
Zheng Juan, a woman from humble background, unreservedly provided care for her vegetative mother-in-law for two years. When her mother-in-law woke up, she first complained that she had eaten up her son's money, then called her a vixen and urged her to leave the Zhou family as soon as possible.
For the children of the Zhou family, they have no guilt in believing that Zheng Juan's care for their mother is a matter of course, because these duties of caring for others should be undertaken by those from humble backgrounds.
In her mother-in-law's family, the eldest sister and Zheng Juan are also the ones who work hard and give the most, but her efforts have not received anyone's attention. Grandma Bai Zhao criticized her for not knowing how to cherish her grandson, while her father-in-law Bai Jiaxuan expressed dissatisfaction with her cooking skills and often criticized her in front of her family, hoping that she could learn more from her second daughter-in-law.
Unlike the eldest sister, Zheng Juan is full of love and care for her husband Zhou Bingkun, while the eldest sister's husband Bai Xiaowen has never really cared about her due to his lack of love, nor has he thought about the predicament she faces in the Bai family.
In the life of the Bai family, the eldest sister is like a drifting duckweed, she can only follow the crowd and fend for herself in this ever-changing world.
Humiliated for no reason.
There is no greater injustice in this world than being humiliated for no reason and not finding the right place to express it.
Due to her frivolous personality, when she first got married, her eldest sister paid for the greedy behavior of her "little husband" Bai Xiaowen.
In the early days of the marriage, after experiencing the sweetness between men and women, Baek Hyo-moon's infatuation with the joy of fish and water became uncontrollable. Isn't this the life he wants, he thought?Bai Jiaxuan saw the disfigurement on his young son's face and realized that this little guy was a greedy person.
Out of concern for his son's foundation, he hurriedly let Xiancao and his daughter-in-law show their true faces:
Hyo-moon is not very old now?He was just sixteen years old, his body was just beginning to develop, and he didn't need to be too young because he coveted his appearance."
Xiancao was reluctant to anger her daughter-in-law, so she entrusted the important task with her eldest sister to her mother-in-law, Bai Zhao.
After listening to her daughter-in-law's words, Bai Zhao felt like she had received an important task, she couldn't control her emotions, and immediately called her eldest sister.
Bai Zhao, a patriarchal person, has never regarded her daughter-in-law and granddaughter-in-law as important, she thinks that her daughter-in-law and granddaughter-in-law are like "pasting window paper", especially for the eldest sister from a humble background, she is even more disdainful. After the eldest girl gave birth, the granddaughter-in-law regarded the eldest girl as the pearl of her palm. She was originally an outspoken and rigid person, and she reprimanded her eldest sister harshly and unreservedly:
Can you have such a good time with Pony (Baek Hyo-moon's milk name) in the dark?If you constantly amuse him in a beautiful way every night. If you make his body weak, then you will have to live a life of solitude".
At first, Grandma's harsh reprimand for her eldest sister made her feel at a loss, but when she realized this, her face flushed with shame, and she lowered her head shyly and said, "Mother, I understand what you mean."
Bai Zhao was worried that his granddaughter-in-law would not pay attention to what he said, so he strengthened her tone again:
You are older than the foal, you are nineteen and he is only sixteen, although you are physically strong, the foal is still just a young seedling, you should always support him, do you understand"?
The eldest sister felt extremely ashamed because she was reprimanded by her grandmother, and when she fell asleep at night, she repeatedly pushed Bai Xiaowen's hand away. After Bai Xiaowen understood what was happening, he angrily blamed Grandma for not interfering in everything.
Bai Zhao originally thought that she could stop her grandson's ** just by scolding her granddaughter-in-law, but she forgot about the intimate time with her granddaughter-in-law, which is not something that women can easily decide. Moreover, Bai Xiaowen's heart was full of greed and lust, otherwise why would he be so easily involved by Tian Xiao'e.
Due to the intervention of his grandmother, Bai Xiaowen has a rebellious mood, and he is even more obsessed with the love between men and women, and every time after dinner, he will close the door and pester his eldest sister.
When Bai Zhao discovers that her teachings are not working, she believes that her authority is being questioned. So, she blamed her grandson's lustful behavior on the eldest sister, and once again summoned the eldest sister to the upper room.
This time, Bai Zhao completely abandoned her status as an elder, she didn't care if her eldest sister could bear it, her face was indifferent, and she reprimanded her harshly with evil words:
The foal will talk about it later, you have to control yourself first, and if you can't control yourself, I'll sew your ** with a needle.
Under Bai Zhao's severe reprimand, the dignity of the eldest sister was completely destroyed, she lowered her head, if there was a crack in the ground at this moment, she would not hesitate to get into it.
In the face of Grandma's vicious words, the eldest sister who couldn't defend herself could only flee with her head bowed while crying with grievances.
Xiancao watched her daughter-in-law being humiliated inexplicably, and couldn't help but feel a trace of pity in her heart: her mother-in-law's words were too mean, and she didn't give her granddaughter-in-law face at all, how would such humiliation make her face others in the future?
Bai Zhao's rebuke to her was like a sharp ** that pierced deeply into her eldest sister's heart, considering that the husband and wife can't hit each other's walls when they sleep at night, and whether the husband is greedy for material things, how can she sway him?She was so scolded that she never wanted to see her brother again, and she didn't dare to talk to him. Being humiliated for no reason made the eldest sister feel as if she was a domestic animal at the mercy of others, and even if her heart was full of endless grievances, she could not find any place to confide.
Victims in extramarital relationships.
In the Bailuyuan area, the contradictions and discord between the two families of Bailu are well-known facts.
In the depths of Lu Zilin's heart, "the Lu family can't defeat the Bai family" is an obstacle that is difficult to overcome, and in order to defeat the Bai family, Lu Zilin really tried his best.
After Heiwa was wanted in the Agricultural Association and fled from Bailuyuan, Lu Zilin found a good opportunity to take revenge on the Bai family.
Lu Zilin understands that Bai Jiaxuan is a person who values face very much, and if he wants to defeat him, he must first involve his most cherished eldest son, Bai Xiaowen.
In order to let Bai Xiaowen fall into the water, Lu Zilin formulated a chess game, and he regarded Tian Xiao'e, who was left at home by Heiwa, as a chess piece in the chess game.
After Tian Xiao'e eloped with Heiwa to Bailu Village, Bai Jiaxuan realized that she was not a woman suitable for family life, and was worried that Heiwa would not be able to support her, so he firmly prevented her from entering the ancestral hall to pay tribute to her ancestors.
After Heiwa fled, Bai Jiaxuan noticed that there was an improper relationship between Lu Zilin and Tian Xiao'e. In order to punish Lu Zilin, he ordered Bai Xiaowen to put Tian Xiao'e ** in the ancestral hall and severely punished her with a thorn brush in front of the entire villagers.
With the help of these two things, Lu Zilin successfully aroused Tian Xiao'e's hostility towards the Bai family's father and son. In a private meeting with Tian Xiao'e, he said to Tian Xiao'e that you must try to wipe off the pants of the eldest prince of the Bai family, so that not only can you avenge yourself, but you may also pee on the face of the patriarch.
At the instigation of Lu Zilin, Tian Xiao'e took advantage of Bai Xiaowen's trip to watch a play, took him to an abandoned brick kiln, and successfully captured him with her beauty.
After Bai Xiaowen was pulled into the water by Tian Xiao'e, he was deeply attracted by her tenderness and couldn't extricate himself.
When Hetian Xiao'e enjoyed love to the fullest, Bai Xiaowen was contaminated with the vice of smoking big cigarettes. Soon after, he sold all the properties and land in his name to Lu Zilin in exchange for silver dollars, which were converted into wisps of green smoke through Tian Xiao'e's hands.
After Bai Jiaxuan learned that Bai Xiaowen had all the real estate and land, he knocked him down with a cane and severed the relationship between father and son with him. Bai Xiaowen completely gave up because of this incident, and moved directly to Tian Xiao'e's broken cave, leaving his wife and children to his father.
After Bai Xiaowen ran away from home, his two children were taken to his home by his wife, Bai Zhao, for dinner, while his "tofu dregs" mother-in-law and eldest sister were left alone in Lu Zilin's undemolished home, enduring hunger. Mother-in-law Xiancao felt that she was very pitiful, so without Bai Jiaxuan's knowledge, she secretly stuffed her with a bowl and a half spoonful of food.
One day, when Bai Xiaowen went home to get something, the eldest sister plucked up her courage and said to him
It doesn't matter how many silver dollars you sell, if you don't buy a liter and a bucket of grain back, what are you doing?I feel like I'm going to starve to death."
Facing the dying eldest sister, Bai Xiaowen said with a cold expression:
If you decide not to buy it, then hurry up and end your life. I show you the way to death, you need to jump into the well to get to the yard of the horse, you need to jump into the river, jump off the cliff, leave the village and head north, you will hang you because you know the rope hangs on the **....Even if you don't die, I won't stare at you".
After Bai Xiaowen said these harsh words, he immediately turned around and walked straight to Tian Xiao'e's cave.
At night, Bai Xiaowen and Tian Xiao'e were alone on the kang in the cave, smoking one cigarette after another. At this time, his mother-in-law, known as "tofu dregs", struggled to walk outside the cave, crying and cursing with emotion.
After hearing the eldest sister's scolding and crying, Bai Xiaowen quickly opened the kiln door and slapped her hard, causing her to fall on the threshold of the door. Facing the eldest sister who was about to die, Bai Xiaowen was no longer obedient, she rushed into the cave with all her might, and grabbed Tian Xiao'e's crotch tightly.
Baek Hyo-moon witnessed the mother-in-law, known as "tofu dregs", violently assault his beloved, grabbed her by the hair and bun, slapped her with both mouths, made her stop crying and scolding, and then he dragged her back to his home like a dead pig.
Since marrying the Bai family, this sturdy and unstingy eldest sister has not only contributed wholeheartedly to the family, but also brought two children to the Bai family. She never expected that she would end up being the victim of her husband's affair.
Deathbed complaints.
Bai Xiaowen took her home, she was lying on a kang that no longer belonged to her, and her sister was no longer hungry.
She was dying, her whole body was yellow, swollen and shiny, and with a light touch of her fingers, her legs and arms would form a depression that would not pop out on their own for a long time. Grandma carried her into the courtyard, her head not yet fully raised. Grandma made sure that the food brought by Hyo-wu's daughter-in-law cooled in the bowl while her chopsticks remained still.
Surviving in such a humiliating environment, the eldest sister has lost her hope for life.
She wants to talk to her father-in-law, but she firmly believes that her father-in-law will never walk into her room, as an undesirable daughter-in-law, when did her father-in-law really notice her?Grandpa's temper is not good, how can she explain it?She has the ability to be self-aware.
However, the eldest sister is thinking again, as a person who is on the verge of death, what face can she consider?Her death can be regarded as her deadline approaching!As the daughter-in-law of the Bai family, at the last moment of her life, she had a sentence that she had to say.
So, with all her strength, she straightened her loose bun with her hands, and then leaned against the wall and walked into the upper room.
When she stood in front of her father-in-law, the eldest sister plucked up the courage to say what she should have said for the first time:
Dad, I've been in our house for many years and you can see how hard I work. I had such thoughts, but never thought I would starve to death.
After Bai Jiaxuan heard what the eldest sister said, he couldn't help but feel a tremor. When he looked up at his daughter-in-law, the eldest sister, who was already unable to walk due to hunger, fell to the ground the moment she crossed the threshold, and never got up again.
The eldest sister, a woman who was regarded as "tofu scum" by her husband, was not only snubbed by her in-laws because of her humble background and average beauty, but also insulted because of her husband's greed and gratuitous reasons. To make matters worse, she became a victim of her husband's affair and eventually starved to death.
The death of the eldest sister is really unjust!Should her deathbed complaint provoke deep thinking about how we should treat women better?