So far, there are two TV series that I particularly love, namely "The Legend of Zhen Huan" and "Parents' Love". In these two works, we can all feel a kind of warmth and touching. Every once in a while, revisiting it will produce different feelings.
"The Legend of Zhen Huan" describes the fate of women in the harem, while "Parental Love" shows the life experience of women in the era of poverty.
In the field of "love TV series", "Parents Love" is undoubtedly the undisputed leader.
In this work, there are neither villains nor perfect character settings, each character is real, with both their shortcomings and their strengths.
The plot of this work does not have too many highs and lows, but simply records the historical changes of a generation's family. In my memory, this book is a story about a father, a story about a father with his daughter, a story about a father to his daughter. From a very young age, I loved reading it. Every time, I was deeply moved by some of these episodes, which softened my heart, and before I knew it, my eyes were filled with tears.
Last year, I created this play, and now that I'm looking at it again, my understanding of the characters has become much deeper.
What I want to introduce today is An Jie, and many people label her as: the eldest lady of the capitalist, who is both contrived and hypocritical.
With such a big lady, her life seems to be happier than all the women around her.
Depending on her birth experience, she may experience a lifetime of upheaval. How did she become the richest man in the world?Despite this, she managed to raise 5 children and was well taken care of by her husband to live a carefree life. What is the reason for her fate to be so good?
First of all, An Jie's appearance is very outstanding.
An Jie's beauty is undoubtedly shocking. Her beauty is innate. No matter where you go, you always get people's attention. Her face is gentle, yet powerful. Even a tricycle ride will attract passers-by to talk in a low voice. Women are jealous of her, while men are afraid to look at her directly.
Despite the fact that they already have 5 children and have been married for 20 years, they are still praised by people because of their outstanding looks. "Are you a beauty?"A painter from outside the island was immediately attracted to her and wanted her to model for him.
The beauty that Anjie shows is that pure natural beauty, which he has cultivated since he was a child in books and comfortable life. Her beauty has an innate temperament, that is, unassuming. Even if she's weathered the storm or dressed like a peasant woman, the temperament and flavor she exudes are unique.
In those days, most of the officers' marriages were arranged by others, and their wives were also women in the countryside who did not even know basic Chinese characters.
Whether it is Wang Xiu'e married by Lao Ding or Zhang Guiying married by Wang Political Commissar, they all belong to the same type, lack taste and temperament, and only care about the basic living needs of the family all day long, such as firewood, rice, oil, salt and basic daily life.
In fact, deep down in their hearts, they all have a strong desire to marry a wife as wonderful as An Jie. They were happily married. Jiang Defu had also married a wife from the countryside before, and he knew how tedious it was to get along with such a woman.
Jiang Defu has a strong desire to find another wife in his heart, even if her personality is slightly different. If he thinks his wife is not good-looking, he will think she is not good-looking. From a different point of view, Jiang Defu is a man with machismo tendencies, and even if his wife is beautiful, he will feel that he has a good face.
Therefore, you will realize that although Jiang Defu and An Jie were criticized by their colleagues as "three washes of husbands" after marriage, he actually enjoyed it. It is no exaggeration to say that after marrying An Jie, Jiang Defu felt a strong superiority mentality.
Despite the criticism of his colleagues, they were full of envy for him in their hearts. Her beauty fascinated him. Jiang Defu's love for An Jie is not only limited to her appearance, but also her living habits.
An Jie is a delicate and well-behaved person, whether he drinks tea or water, he uses a water cup, he also builds toilets in his home, and makes sure there is running water**. He was a very good quality of life guy and would lock himself in his house every morning. To the outside world, An Jie's attitude towards life seems too pretentious, but Jiang Defu is very happy while complaining.
For a man like Jiang Defu, who spent his childhood in the countryside, a child who grew up in poverty. He worked so hard that he only hoped to fly from that barren valley and become a phoenix on the branches.
If you choose a country wife, it's like constantly asking about his family background. Finding a rural girl in the city is like finding a daughter-in-law next door in a small village, there is nothing to boast about. Only by choosing a woman like An Jie can he feel superior beyond his social status.
From the current point of view, Jiang Defu is closer to the image of a phoenix man, while An Jie is a young lady from a wealthy family. He and she are a pair of lovers who love each other, and the love between them is very sweet. In this day and age, such marriages may not always be happy, but in that particular era, they seem to be a predestined couple.
Second: An Jie can grasp it very clearly.
Although An Jie sometimes shows a little temper, she can always point out clearly when it comes to major issues of right and wrong. In order to pursue her future, Jiang Defu gave up her original career opportunity, and after An Jie learned the news, she hugged Jiang Defu tightly and cried bitterly.
Although An Jie has repeatedly criticized Jiang Defu for being rude, she is always grateful for the sacrifice Jiang Defu has made for her. This incident made An Jie more convinced of Jiang Defu's deep affection for him, but at the same time, it also made him feel guilty deep in his heart.
In the time since then, she has paid special attention to her "influence", and is deeply afraid that her family will have a bad influence on Jiang Defu again. Subsequently, her brother-in-law, Ouyang Yi, was labeled as a "rightist", and the whole family lived a life of poverty and hardship on the island of Little Black Mountain.
An Jie did not disclose it to Jiang Defu, fearing that it would have a negative impact on his future.
It was only when Jiang Defu met Ouyang Yi on Little Black Mountain Island that An Jie began to tell the truth honestly. Jiang Defu is a person full of emotion and righteousness, and he did not choose to keep his distance from them, but encouraged An Jie to visit him.
Jiang Defu made great efforts to settle the family, he let his nephews and nieces join the army, providing a stable life for the An family**.
The reason why Jiang Defu took such an action was because he knew that An Jie would always remember this deep kindness.
Another clear attitude of Anjie is that she always makes sure that there are clear boundaries between her family and her mother's family. At home, she was never like her mother, who didn't make decisions about anything. No matter when and where, Jiang Defu will put his family first, and will never bear all the expenses because of the plight of family members.
If the mother's family can't handle it properly, she will never condone it, let alone indulge them.
For example, An Jie's brother values power very much, and he tries to convince Jiang Defu to plan for his daughter's future, but An Jie has already seen through his hypocrisy and resolutely makes him show a displeased expression.
When the eldest brother and his family arrived on the island, she did not go out to meet them, but as a way to express her dissatisfaction.
still remembers that in the early days of marriage, when she returned to her parents' house and heard her eldest brother and sister-in-law talking ill of Jiang Defu behind her back, she was so angry that she turned around and ran away. Frankly speaking, Jiang Defu's preference for An Jie has lasted for many years, mainly because An Jie has a distinct personality and has always been his companion.
In everyday life, women like Anjie are rare, and if her husband has a little power, other women want him to support their families.
Some women choose to get married, often with their family members.
Women who are able to clearly divide the family from the public, know what they are really pursuing, are neither blind nor insensitive, and therefore naturally deserve to be loved.
Third: Anjie is an autonomous woman.
Although many people believe that An Jie's happy life was brought about by Jiang Defu, in reality, she has always relied on her own efforts to shape her life. When she was still in Qingdao, she worked in a hospital, and even after getting married and conceiving a child, she always stuck to her job.
After that, Jiang Defu traveled to the island, where she took on the responsibility of raising two children on her own and never considered giving up her career. At that time, she only had a primary school education, and taught primary school Chinese and history classes in the village, teaching students to memorize ancient poems, reciting Tang poems and children's songs every day, and often helping villagers solve difficulties in life. When she arrived at the small fishing village on that island, she chose to become a teacher.
The teaching environment on the island is very limited, and the students are usually children of several grades mixed together, which makes the teaching task very onerous, but Anjie never flinched.
You have to understand that on this island, Jiang Defu enjoys a very high social status, and the money he earns is enough for the whole family to live a carefree life, but An Jie has never considered relying on Jiang Defu to raise him at home.
Many times, she was proud of having a job, and she arrogantly said to Jiang Defu: "I am also an off-duty person. ”
An Jie does show the character of the eldest lady, but he does not have the attitude of the eldest lady to ask for clothes and food at will.
Anjie has always retained a modern concept of women in her heart, she has never believed that women are inferior to men, nor does she feel that women should only be satisfied with the basic needs of life at home.
If An Jie continues to play the role of an old mother at home for decades, Jiang Defu may not obey her. An Jie and Jiang Defu married a seemingly high profile, but in fact, An Jie relied on his own ability to make the marriage reach a harmonious state.
At that time, most women, such as Wang Xiu'e and Zhang Guiying, were not educated and did not understand even basic Chinese characters. They are mainly husbands who take care of their children at home, but they never think about going out to earn money. Maybe it's not really that it's not considered, but I just think that such an idea may not be practical.
Whether it is Lao Ding or Wang Political Commissar, they all have a contemptuous attitude towards their wives in their hearts, they do whatever they want at home, their status is high, and their wives are like nannies and servants in the family, and they are not treated with due respect and equality.
The reason why An Jie and Jiang Defu's marital relationship can be long and happy is because they have an equal relationship with each other.
This kind of equality is not given to them by society, but earned by Anjie personally through hard work.
In any era, marriage pursues an equilibrium that is determined by a combination of family background and individual abilities. We can't change the environment, but we can do something. Even though we can't decide our own date of birth, we have the ability to do it ourselves.
Third: An Jie is a very kind person.
Although Anjie seems to be strong on the surface, she is actually a very kind person at heart. There is always a tenderness and thoughtfulness in her eyes, and there is always a smile on her face. From her attitude towards Teckwah, we can feel her kind heart.
When Tokuwah first visited their home, he encountered a huge conflict because in order to comfort the child, Tokuhwa went so far as to let the child drink his own milk. The child is unwilling, so he goes to the old mother to theorize. An Jie was very angry, denounced Dehua as shameless, and even wanted to cut off all contact with him.
Later, learning about Tokuwah's past, her husband's fate became uncertain a month after marriage, and he was often talked about in his hometown, but no one dared to marry her.
When An Jie heard these words, he let go of all his resentment and began to feel heartache for this sister.
Subsequently, Dehua became interested in Lao Ding and did not hesitate to go to his home to work in laundry, cooking, and cooking. An Jie couldn't bear it anymore, so he went to Lao Ding to propose marriage, but was rejected by Lao Ding.
She gradually lost interest in Lao Ding, and repeatedly advised Dehua to avoid foolish behavior.
Although there may be some small arguments between An Jie and Dehua, he does think about her in his heart.
In preparation for her wedding, she behaves like a mother and insists on marrying Teckwah to someone else. But she doesn't like this man, is he a man?She prepares a large dowry for Dehua, and Dehua proposes a box made of camphor wood, which An Jie agrees without hesitation.
You have to understand that the camphor wood box was left to her by An Jie's mother, and it has a lot of meaning, but she is willing to sacrifice her feelings for the sake of Dehua.
An Jie's heart is filled with a sense of pride, and although she can't stand the various behaviors of rural women, she never holds a grudge. If someone treats her well, she will definitely repay you in other ways.
Although she may not be good at articulating, she always brings warmth to people in key moments.
Not only for Teckwah, but also for Mr. Ge. Teacher Ge is not only Yuba's daughter, but also an older girl, so everyone is laughing at her and keeping her at arm's length.
Only Anjie established a good relationship with her, invited her to her home for coffee, and lent her her high-quality clothes to wear.
In this era when everyone is uneasy, An Jie's attitude of not taking sides and not discriminating reflects his noble personality traits.
Although everyone thinks that An Jie is married to a good man, as if her happiness is given by men, in fact, a woman like her, no matter who she marries, will feel happy.
Not only is she good-looking, but she can also describe herself clearly, both independent and full of kindness. It is not surprising that women have a good life. In the final analysis, the fate of women is not predestined, it has long been deeply engraved in their character. Those women who are neither proud nor impatient, innocent and kind, will eventually be favored by fate.