used to be a top student, but now he is "squatting at home" The bad things brought by the aura of 985 University
There is no way to learn, and there is no way to learn. If admission to a prestigious university is the only academic goal, it is like a time bomb that will ruin students' years of hard work.
985 universities are considered to be at the top of the higher education pyramid, with only 39 universities in the country and an overall acceptance rate of less than 3%. The quota allocated in the provinces is even more scarce. Usually, only top students with outstanding grades have the opportunity to enter 985 University.
Parents may mistakenly think that it is enough to train a 985 college student. However, when their children are admitted to university, they face more pressure. They are afraid that a good hand of cards will be played poorly and become a laughing stock in the circle of relatives and friends.
The former top student was reduced to a "squatting at home", and he was elated when he was admitted to 985 University, but now he is in a heavy mood. The father of a 985 college girl was once full of pride on any occasion because he had an outstanding daughter. At the parent-teacher conference, she was a role model for teachers and shared her educational experience on stage. When friends and family get together, their home is also the focal point, and everyone admires his approach to education.
However, after the college entrance examination, her daughter was admitted to an upper-middle 985 university. The parents held a grand college banquet and were extremely happy at the time, but since then, their daughter's performance has made the parents lose face.
In 985 University, there are countless outstanding students, and my daughter suddenly lost the aura of a scholar, her grades ranked in the middle and lower reaches, and her self-confidence was hit. The quota for evaluation and research is out of reach, and you can only rely on your own efforts to take the postgraduate examination.
The parents originally thought that their daughter had excellent grades since she was a child and would definitely be able to succeed in one battle. However, my daughter's learning status after entering college is completely different from what she used to be. In the end, the first war was lost, and the daughter was even more devastated, not looking for a job, not studying, not making friends at home, and living at home all day long to live a life dependent on her parents. Parents don't have a face to see now, worried that their daughter is now working at ** when asked.
It is not uncommon for some college students to become "squatting at home" after graduation. In the name of taking the civil service examination or the postgraduate entrance examination, some of them studied at home for several years. If you can't pass the test, you will continue to take the test, and parents will feel very bad when they see their peers getting married and having children, but their children are standing still.
Why are more and more college graduates choosing not to work and not to get married?At present, the competition for college students' employment is fierce, and the scores of graduate school entrance examinations are increasing layer by layer, but some students have become Buddhist. From the moment they enter university, they only pursue not failing their courses, and do not think about their future development at all. It wasn't until graduation was approaching that I found myself in the middle of a school, with a blank resume and no eye-catching highlights.
These students have been pampered since childhood, have almost no grievances, and have no financial pressure, so they simply cannot withstand the test of HR. The monthly salary of grassroots positions is less than 3,000, which is not worth mentioning for college students, after all, most students have more than 3,000 living expenses in school. Working overtime for a month is not as comfortable as relying on your parents.
Many parents are overprotective of their children, leaving them unaware of the dangers of society. Once they encounter a little difficulty in their first career, it is easy for students to give up. Parents are also reluctant to see someone bullying their children, so they tell them: If you don't want to do it, don't do it, your parents will support you. As a result, the student really quit his job, did not look for a job or get married at home, was addicted to his mobile phone all day long, slept lazily, and was not even bothered to do housework.
Parents thought it would be easier to send their children to college graduation, but they found that they had to work hard to support their children when they were old. Sometimes parents want to educate them, but as soon as they open their mouths, they quarrel, parents are worried that students will do stupid things and have no choice but to give up, and over time, parents are helpless.
The best way to motivate students is to set long-term learning goals. It is common to hear some parents or primary and secondary school teachers tell students to study hard and strive to be admitted to prestigious universities in the future, so that they do not have to worry about finding a job. However, when you go to college, you can play as much as you want, and there is no one to supervise you anymore.
This misleading leads students to think that they don't need to study anymore when they go to college, and in the absence of supervision from teachers and parents in college, students who lack self-discipline basically do not learn useful knowledge. Even if you have a diploma from a prestigious school, you can't escape the strict screening of HR.
Such students usually lack labor education from an early age, turn a blind eye to external things, and only concentrate on studying. Parents feel that as long as they can be admitted to a prestigious university, nothing else matters. As a result, students are detached from theory and practice, and lack basic sense of responsibility and interpersonal skills.
The author believes that parents should not only focus on the college entrance examination, but should set more long-term learning goals. For example, to become a doctor, teacher, or scientist, not just to get into a medical school, a teacher training college, or a 985 university. In this way, students will not relax easily and will continue to work hard during their university years to lay a solid foundation for future development.
As for college graduates who are dependent on their parents for the moment, they should no longer dwell on their past transcripts, but should plan more for the future. I can rely on my parents now, but what should I do when my parents are old?With the gradual relaxation of the epidemic policy, recruitment next spring will inevitably bring more employment opportunities. You can start to improve yourself now, wait until after the Spring Festival to re-plan, and get back on track.
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