The 66-year-old uncle wants to break up I can support you, but you can't let me support your whole family, right?
There is a new change in the choices of the elderly. Once upon a time, widowed elderly people often chose to rely on their children to spend their old age with. But now, things are different. Older people are becoming more aware of the inconveniences of being under the fence, even with their own children.
As a result, today's seniors are pursuing a new way of life: living together. They find that living with a partner gives them more autonomy and is more comfortable than living with their children. For example, 66-year-old Uncle Hu has always dreamed of finding a wife and enjoying his old age with him. However, what is surprising is that despite only getting along with his partner for half a year, Uncle Hu unexpectedly made the decision to part ways. Why is that?Let's explore why.
Elderly self-report: Uncle Hu.
It has been 66 years, and he has held important positions in public institutions until his retirement. Fortunately, even after retirement, you still have a stable pension income, coupled with years of medical insurance accumulation, you can get financial support when you get sick.
This kind of life makes me feel happy and satisfied, and my friends envy me and think that I have a good fate. But in fact, all this is the result of hard work. When you are young, you have to work hard to have a comfortable old age.
I grew up in a small town and chose to return to the town to spend my old age in retirement. Despite its small size, the town is well-developed, with complete facilities and convenient life. My son was very relieved that I would return to my hometown to care for the elderly, and I considered hiring a nanny, but I didn't think I needed it yet, so I declined his kindness.
I have my own ideas for retirement. My wife has been away from me for more than ten years, and I am busy with work and have little leisure in family life, so for me, not having a wife does not have much impact.
However, life after retirement is somewhat lonely. I am eager to find a partner again. So I decided to look for it in my hometown.
After returning to his hometown, he reconnected with his old friends. The elderly were enthusiastic and caring, and when they learned that I was looking for a partner, they made suggestions and introductions, hoping that I could find a suitable life partner.
I met Xiaomei through a friend's introduction, who is five years younger than me and not a local. Her daughter married here, and Xiaomei came to help take care of the child. Because she only has this one daughter, and she has no wife, she has no concern for her hometown, and hopes to spend time with her daughter in her later years, so she chooses to live with an old gentleman.
Xiaomei is very hardworking, and it is said that she is omnipotent in her son-in-law's house, taking care of the housework carefully, so that her daughter and son-in-law have no worries. During our time together, she often prepared various meals for me, and always took time to revitalize my home when she visited.
She has always had a good personality and I've never seen her get angry after we've known each other for so long. No matter how difficult it is, she can maintain a calm and calm attitude. In contrast, I sometimes have a more impatient personality, but Xiaomei is always able to tolerate me and never lose her temper with me.
Although there was some age gap between us, we were able to communicate very well. Overall, I have a very good impression of Xiaomei. She is my friend and my babysitter. After I got to know Mei better, I decided to live with her.
At first, Xiaomei was a little dissatisfied with this, she felt that cohabitation had no name, and she wanted a marriage certificate to ensure the stability of the relationship. But as I get older and have more experience, I think that marriage for older people may not be so simple. I think it's good to live together, even if I don't have a marriage certificate, I will be good to Xiaomei, and I will never treat her badly.
In order to reassure Xiaomei, I took the initiative to give her a bride price, although the amount was not large, only 30,000 yuan. However, it was precisely because of the 30,000 yuan that Xiaomei believed in my sincerity, and she believed that I would be good to her, so she agreed to our cohabitation life.
I am very happy to have found a suitable partner. I am willing to treat Xiaomei well, after all, the days ahead are long, and I know that there will always be times when we need her, and by caring for each other, we can live a happy and happy life.
I have always been responsible for earning money to support the family, so I don't let Xiaomei pay a penny. She is willing to live with me, and I am willing to support her. All the living expenses are borne by me, and I will also give Xiaomei some pocket money from time to time. Her personal expenses are up to her, and I never interfere.
The housework is mainly done by Mei, but I'm not the kind of person who just sits and waits for food and drink, and occasionally I help out. Since my son's place of work is far away from home, he usually only comes back once every two or three months, and I always hated him when I used to live close to him, but now I always think about him.
Xiaomei's daughter and son-in-law are very concerned about us and often come to visit Xiaomei every once in a while. Both of them are very good at pleasing the elderly, bringing laughter and laughter every time they arrive, and we welcome them.
However, I found out that I couldn't stand it because they came almost every day, and they always chose dinner time, and every time I needed to cook. Over the course of a month, the cost of food has also increased a lot. Some people may say, what's the big deal about eating something?I have so much pension, is it necessary to be so careful?
This guy, it's a bit excessive. Every time they came, they came uninvited and took a lot of things with them. Originally, the family only bought fruit once every three or four days, but after they came, the refrigerator was empty, and it was difficult to eat fruit.
Not only that, Xiaomei's daughter and son-in-law also borrowed a large amount of money from me, saying that they would pay it back in three months, but there was no news as soon as the time came. When asked, her daughter actually said that I am now her stepfather, and I still want to care about borrowing so much moneyIt's like trust being ruthlessly stepped on.
The matter is gone, and I don't want to talk about the money anymore. But later I found out that Xiaomei was silently supporting her daughter and son-in-law behind her back, and the pension I received every month went into the account, but it always miraculously disappeared completely.
When I needed the money, I found that the account was empty, and after checking the records, I realized that the money had been transferred to her daughter and son-in-law.
I asked Xiaomei to theorize, and she actually said that this was a matter of course, because because I chose to be with her, I had to be responsible for her daughter and son-in-law. She also felt that I had enough conditions and that subsidizing them was nothing.
I couldn't help but laugh and told her, "Although we don't have an official license, I have always regarded you as my life partner, and I promised to take care of you, but I didn't promise to raise you as a family." This is also too much. ”
After that conversation, I decided to put away my pension card and only give Xiaomei living expenses, and no longer support her daughter and son-in-law. Her attitude towards me has also become worse and worse.
I found out that Mei and I didn't match, so I decided to end our relationship. Now that we've broken up, I've chosen to live alone and have no intention of finding a partner again. In a few years, I plan to follow my son's advice and hire a nanny to take care of myself, which may be more suitable for me than looking for a life partner.