Why do American adopted children always like to adopt girls?According to some data, in the past 18 years, the United States has probably adopted more than 80,000 children from ChinaThere are many children with congenital disabilities!
And the proportion of girls among these 80,000 children is as high as 9 percent, more than 70,000, which is a shocking statistic, which can not help but make people very surprisedWhy do Americans like girls so much?
According to the statistics of the United States in the past 18 years, American families have adopted about 80,000 children from China, of which about 90% are girls. This disproportionate proportion of girls has aroused concern and discussion from all walks of life.
For some Chinese girls who were originally living in poverty, being adopted by American families is undoubtedly a turning point, and they are able to leave their original environment and live happily ever after.
But the increasing number of girls being adopted by American families has also raised some doubts, and the outside world does not understand why American families have a soft spot for Chinese girls.
One of the important reasons is that American society is facing a serious aging population, many wealthy elderly families have huge real estate but their children are not around, very lonely, and docile girls are more able to accompany the elderly through their old age than ambitious boys.
The mass adoption of girls has also raised concerns that they will be discriminated against in the United States. After all, there are serious racist tendencies in American society, and ethnic minority groups still face all kinds of unfair treatment.
To this end, the United States and social organizations are also stepping up efforts to stop discrimination and call on all walks of life to tolerate multiculturalismAnd many adopted Chinese girls not only adapt to life in the United States, but also earn respect through their own efforts.
So what exactly are so many girls from ** being adopted?What kind of secret is hidden behind this?
Since the implementation of the family planning policy, there has been a phenomenon of abandoned babies in China, of which female babies account for a huge proportion. There are far more girls than boys in orphanages, and there used to be only girls in an orphanage, which is a serious backward mentality of "preference for sons over daughters".
In the past culture, the concept of "raising children to prevent old age" and "accumulating grain to prevent hunger" was deeply rooted, and having children was directly linked to raising children to prevent old age, and the son was proud, and the daughter was weaker than the son.
And men bear the task of passing on the lineageTherefore, the feudal idea of "male superiority and female inferiority" prevailed in patriarchal societyThe view of preference for boys has been passed down from generation to generation, even today, noFew people are still guarding these "dross" and refuse to let go.
Once a girl is born, these stereotyped families tend to discriminate against the baby girlEven if the baby girl is born healthy and does not encounter financial difficulties, she will be abandoned, and those who are sick will be abandoned directly.
In contrast, these families will not hesitate to spend a lot of money to treat a sick baby boy, and even go to the point of smashing the pot to sell ironIn extremely backward areas, there have been extreme cases in which the birth of a girl in the family is not approved and thrown away, and the boy is not recognized until he is born.
But among the children in the orphanage, girls tend to be more obedient, able to endure hardship, and have a higher survival rate, while boys are more naughty and more difficult to supportWhen foreigners come to China for adoption, they don't actually have much choice in the orphanage, because often only the girls are left.
The number of orphans adopted by Americans in China is huge, with 3,001 in 2009accounted for 23 percent of the total number of intercountry adoptions in the U.S. that year5%, that's a staggering number.
However, there is no way to do this, and in the early days of reform and opening up, China's civil affairs and welfare undertakings were slow to develop, and it was not signed until 1990Convention on the Rights of the Childand began to pay attention to the rights and interests of disadvantaged children.
After the opening of intercountry adoption in 1992, foreigners adopted Chinese baby girls in large numbers, and the total number of orphans in China reached 570,000 in 2005 and increased to 710,000 in 2010.
However, only 90,000 orphans live in welfare institutions and 620,000 live in society. Eighty-six percent of rural orphans are living in a worrying situation. The reality of the lagging construction of the welfare system also creates the possibility of foreign adoption.
And these children are not adopted if they want to adopt, and they have to go through a very complicated procedure, so what is the procedure?
There are significant differences in adoption policies and procedures between China and the United States, and these differences have led to orphans in our country being more favored by American families.
Because the adoption process in the United States is very cumbersomeFirst of all, the applicant needs to submit a detailed application form to the relevant departmentThe content covers various aspects such as the reasons for adoption and the future way of raising children.
Next, the relevant departments will send special personnel to conduct on-site investigations to confirm the authenticity of the application information, and the investigators will personally visit the applicant's relatives and friends to learn more about the situationThe U.S. side said this was to ensure that the applicant's adoption intention was strong.
Then there is a need to review the qualifications of the applicantThe main investigation is the applicant's income status, living conditions, daily consumption, etc., and the requirements must meet certain standards, otherwise it may not be conducive to the growth of children
The survey spans a wide period of time, looking not only at the applicant's situation in the past few years, but also on plans for the next few yearsAll content has clear indicator requirements, and if there are non-conforming items, the application will be rejected
Even if it is finally approved, the applicant will still have to pay a high adoption fee at the orphanage to officially complete the adoption, which will take at least 5 years.
This is nothing short of a nightmare for families desperate to have children, and many families are gradually losing patience and have to give up on adoption
In contrast, in our country it is only necessary to prepare materials, and then it can be done in about a monthThe relevant review is also very fast and will not affect normal life.
The so-called "child support" is also lower and more of an attitude testAfter all, the most fundamental purpose is to let more orphans return to their families as soon as possible, regain the love of their parents, and get on the right track.
The reason why the Americans choose to go through the procedures in China is obviousAfter all, the procedure is convenient and fast, in line with people's practical considerations, and there are a large number of girls in my country who are eager for families, cute and obedient, which have won the hearts of American applicants
But there are two sides to everything:The simplified adoption process can lead to more good adoptions, but it can also be taken advantage of by others, some of whom have some ** intentions to adopt a child.
So many things in the world must be kind to adopted children, so what is going on?
The wheel of history continues to move forward, and human society is also constantly progressingIn the long process of social development, the call for equality has never stopped.
Whether in the East or the West, the advancement of women has always been one of the important signs of social progressIntercountry adoptions also reflect the changing status of the girl child.
Beginning in the 50s of the 20th century, American families began to adopt Korean girls on a large scaleAfter the end of the Korean War, there were a large number of orphans in South Korea, many of whom were mixed-race children left behind by American soldiers stationed in South Korea.
American families rushed to adopt these orphansIn the past 50 years alone, more than 150,000 Korean girls have been adopted by American families, which was a large proportion of the total number of girls in South Korea at that time.
After South Korea's economy took off in the 80s, in order to get rid of the embarrassment of "exporting abandoned women".South Korea** is gradually reducing the number of children sent for adoption and plans to completely stop sending children for international adoption by 1996.
However, due to the importance of blood ties in Korean society, few families in the country are willing to adopt girls. In addition, the Asian financial crisis in 1998 hit the South Korean economy hard.
South Korea's poor care of domestic orphans forced it to re-energize the use of transnational adoption, and despite a significant decline in the number of adoptions, South Korea was still the largest adoptive country in the United States during this period.
Since the mid-90s, transnational adoption in China and the United States has developed rapidly, and even surpassed South Korea to become the largest country in the United States for family adoption.
In 2005, a record 7,903 Chinese girls were adopted by American familiesThe reason why China has become the main foster country is not only the influence of China's thousands of years of feudal culture, the deep-rooted idea of preference for sons, but also related to the unbalanced economic development and imperfect social system of China at that time.
ButYes, these girls tend to be precocious and sensible, and they are deeply loved by American parents. For middle-class American families, raising a girl is significantly less expensive and more manageable than a boy, which is also in line with the American culture that values independent individuality.
In today's world, exchanges between countries are becoming more and more frequent. The international legal framework for intercountry adoption is also being improved. In the 80s of the 20th century, the United Nations and the Hague Conference formulated a number of conventions that provided guidelines for countries to adjust their foreign adoption laws.
These conventions emphasize the principle of "best interests of the child".However, it also takes into account the rights of biological parents, requires the informed consent of biological parents, and prohibits the use of adoption to obtain illegal benefits.
The Convention on Intercountry Adoption, concluded at the Hague Conference in 1993, was a milestone in harmonizing the laws of intercountry adoption.