"Educating children is like cultivating flowers and trees, over-indulgence is the cultivation that makes them flourish but lacks roots, and only by guiding them to work independently is the true way to establish a solid foundation for them. "
In the family, children are the pride of their parents and the continuation of life, and parents often nurture their children with love and expectation, so that they can grow up strong and move towards an independent life.
However, in the process, there is a category of children who seem to exist more in the form of "debt collection" and become a burden on the family.
Regardless of the wealth of the family, these three types of children should not be indulged, because even the richest family is not enough to be their lifelong support.
In the final analysis, there are three kinds of children who come to "collect debts", don't get used to it, no matter how much money the family has, it is not enough to cover the bottom.
1. "Dependents" who do not work hard
Such children are accustomed to being dependent on their families, and they often lack clear plans and goals for their lives. They may become overly dependent on their parents in various matters and unwilling to take on the responsibility of living independently. This dependence is not due to their incompetence, but because they lack sufficient motivation and responsibility.
They may not realize that being dependent on a family is not a healthy way to live. Long-term dependence on the family can cause them to lose the ability to think and make decisions independently, making them passive and helpless in life. At the same time, this dependence may also weaken their sense of responsibility and autonomy, making it difficult for them to take on more responsibilities and obligations in the future.
In order to change this, parents should encourage their children to be independent and develop their autonomy and independence. At the same time, children should also be educated to establish a correct outlook on life and values, so that they are aware of their responsibilities and obligations. Only in this way will they be able to break free from dependence and live truly independently.
While encouraging their children to be independent, parents should also give them adequate support and love. Children need love and support as they grow up, which is an important guarantee for their growth. Only when children grow up in a caring and supportive environment can they truly live independently.
2. The "hedonist" who goes with the flow
Such children often tend to over-pursue material comforts and luxuries, and they focus too much on immediate happiness and satisfaction, and lack plans and goals for the future. They may indulge in material consumption and entertainment, pursuing short-term pleasure and satisfaction rather than striving to achieve their dreams and goals.
This negative attitude towards life may lead to them being more likely to seek help from their families when they are struggling. They may feel that they are not capable enough to cope with life's challenges and therefore choose to rely on their families for support and help. This dependency can weaken their autonomy and independence, preventing them from truly growing and facing life's challenges independently.
In addition, this negative attitude towards life can also have a negative impact on their mental health. They may experience negative emotions such as anxiety, frustration, loss, and emptiness because they are unable to find true joy and fulfillment. This state of mind can lead to a decrease in their quality of life, affect their relationships with family and friends, and may even lead them to a greater predicament.
3. "Spendthrifts" who lack a sense of responsibility
Such children often have misunderstandings in the concept of money, they do not understand the value and meaning of money, do not know how to save and invest, and only know how to pursue short-term enjoyment and satisfaction. They spend extravagantly and spend, ignoring the hard work and family support that money represents.
They may never have seriously thought about it, and every penny is the support and expectation of the family through the hard work and savings of the parents. These children don't realize that their spending habits not only affect their own future, but also invisibly burden their families.
In order to correct these children's perceptions of money, we need to guide them to understand the true value of money. We can help them build the right sense of saving and investing, so that they understand that financial freedom and stability can only be achieved through long-term planning and accumulation.
Emotional Message:
In the process of raising children, we are deeply aware that it is not wise to be overly indulgent, especially for those children who are "debt collectors". Household wealth may be able to alleviate their plight to some extent, but it is not the root of the problem. Only through guidance and education can children establish a correct outlook on life and values, so that they can truly prevent problems before they occur.
No amount of money at home can fill the lack of responsibility, independence and financial management. We not only hope that our children will have a good life materially, but also that they will become independent, responsible and responsible people. When facing the children of "debt collection", parents need to learn to guide and teach them appropriately, constantly stimulate their inner potential, and let them spread their wings and soar on the big stage of society.
I hope that every parent can know how to be strict and caring for their children in the process of growing up, so that they can be self-reliant and self-reliant on the journey of life, and meet a better and more fulfilling future. In the journey of nurturing the next generation, adhering to the correct educational philosophy may be able to build a more solid foundation for them in life, so that they can truly embark on an independent and meaningful life journey.
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