Mr. Yang Jiang once said: "The worst outcome of a marriage is not quarrels or separation, but that two people have no feelings, and they have to endure it for various reasons." This sentence is like a sharp knife that cuts into the deepest pain point of marriage. When two people gradually wear out their feelings because of the trivialities and various contradictions in life, and they can't be completely separated for various reasons, they can only endure silently, which is undoubtedly the most cruel interpretation of marriage.
1. Indifference and forbearance in marriage.
The indifference in marriage is the alienation of the heart, and the fact that each other that was once familiar is becoming stranger and stranger. Under the pressures of life, care and understanding between husband and wife are often replaced by trivial contradictions. Quarrels may also vent inner dissatisfaction, while indifference suppresses all dissatisfaction and disappointment in the bottom of the heart, making marriage a seemingly peaceful but crisis-ridden battlefield.
Forbearance is the greatest sorrow in marriage. When two people no longer have feelings, but they can't be separated because of children, family, society and other reasons, they can only bear the torment of their souls silently. This torment makes the relationship between husband and wife exist in name only, and even become a burden in each other's lives. And all this is often seen by the outside world as a model of "for family harmony", which makes people even more heartbroken.
2. Communication and understanding in marriage.
Communication and understanding are essential to avoid a marriage that leads to indifference and forbearance. Husbands and wives should maintain an open and honest communication with each other about their inner thoughts and feelings. Only in this way can we enhance mutual understanding and avoid conflicts due to misunderstandings. At the same time, we must learn to empathize and consider problems from the other person's point of view, so that we can better understand the other person's thoughts and behaviors.
3. Growth and independence in marriage.
In marriage, both spouses should maintain self-growth and independence. Don't give up your dreams and pursuits because you rely on each other, and don't lose yourself by accommodating each other too much. Only by maintaining self-growth and independence can we maintain an equal status in marriage and avoid conflicts due to dependence. At the same time, we must maintain our love and pursuit of life, and don't give up our dreams and interests because of the trivialities of life. Only in this way can a common future and purpose be found in marriage.
4. Tolerance and forgiveness in marriage.
Tolerance and forgiveness are indispensable qualities in marriage. When there is a conflict between husband and wife, learn to tolerate each other's shortcomings and shortcomings, and don't be overly demanding of perfection. At the same time, learn to forgive the other person's mistakes and mistakes, and don't dwell on past mistakes. Only tolerance and forgiveness can allow marriage to find reconciliation and harmony in contradictions.
The worst outcome of a marriage is not quarrels or separations, but indifferent forbearance. To avoid this outcome, couples should maintain open communication, empathy, growth and independence, and tolerance and forgiveness. Only in this way can the marriage move towards a better future with the efforts of each other. At the same time, society should also give more understanding and support to marriage, so that couples can get more help and support when facing difficulties. Let's work together to create a better environment for marriage, so that love can continue and sublimate in marriage.