The recent popular drama is none other than "Xiaoman Life".
This drama is directed by Wang Jun, who has directed many marriage and family dramas such as "Little Huanxi", "Little Farewell", "Those Things About Husband and Wife", and co-starring Qin Hao, Jiang Xin, Zhang Lingxin, Wang Ou and others.
This is a light comedy with the theme of marriage and family, mainly telling the marriage and emotional life of Ye Yifan and He Jiaru, Tian Dong and Tian Tian, Chen Li and Hou Yuanyuan.
As the epitome of the married life of ordinary Chinese families, the married life of the three pairs of protagonists has twists and turns and bitterness, but it is more sweet, Ye Yifan played by Qin Hao is praised as a "good husband in China", and as a representative of a good man with emotional stability, he frequently appears on the hot search.
Ye Yifan's domineering wife protection", "Ye Yifan's drunken monologue", "Ye Yifan's emotional stability" and other topics resonated with netizens.
Netizens couldn't help shouting: "Such a good husband, please give me a dozen" and "I want to get married again".
Under Qin Hao's Weibo, many netizens have become obsessed with him, and he set up a negative character because of the "mountain climbing" incident, but in this drama, he can be regarded as regaining many passers-by.
This drama is not only humorous and very good-looking, but at the same time, the attitude of the three couples towards marriage and their mode of getting along also brings us some thoughts.
A marriage without trust will collapse sooner or later
There is a good saying: "Fortresses are breached from the inside, and the love of the past is difficult to defeat the dull years after all." ”
is like Chen Li and Hou Yuanyuan in the play, from the love and beauty at the beginning, to the mutual suspicion later, there is only one trust in between.
Because of her daughter Hou Jiaqi's household registration problem, Hou Yuanyuan decided to resign and take her daughter back to her hometown to study the Xi exam, which inevitably caused her and her husband Chen Li to be separated for 4 years.
In order to prevent her husband from messing with flowers, she quietly installed a camera at home, installed a monitor in her husband's car, and she knew her husband's whereabouts well.
Even if Chen Li treated the cat, he had to transfer money to him with yuanyuan, and he would transfer as much money as he spent, and he would not give more than a penny.
Even when he was cooking and sleeping, Yuan Yuan kept staring at the monitoring screen on his mobile phone, for fear of missing the "important situation".
The flight attendant upstairs came to Chen Li's house to look at the sewer, and she was anxious, for fear that the two would spark.
Because Chen Li was with a friend, she switched the voice when she answered **, so she forced Chen Li to ask ** and asked him to call herself *** immediately
Chen Li was originally a good husband, but Yuan Yuan's impermeable control in the name of love made Chen Li feel out of breath, and he was cautious in his words and deeds everywhere, for fear of making Yuan Yuan suspicious.
In front of Yuan Yuan, he was nervous rather than relaxed. When he returned to his hometown from visiting relatives, even though Yuan Yuan had clearly shown that he wanted to be intimate with him, Chen Li just didn't want to get close to her, and it was clear that the holiday had not yet arrived, but he couldn't wait to escape.
Actually, Yuan Yuan ostensibly has a strong control over her husband becauseShe was extremely insecure inside, it was her lack of confidence in herself, and her lack of confidence and apparent strength eventually forced her and Chen Li's marriage to a dead end.
In Lin Chongde's "Dictionary of Psychology", he defines trust as follows: "An individual's emotional experience of feeling safe, reliable, and trustworthy about the people, things, and things around him." ”
In the modern society with highly developed information, the trust in marriage is already very fragile, and if you are not careful, the trust that you have built up with each other will collapse.
Many marriages start with trust and are ruined by suspicion, and the more sensitive and suspicious one of the parties is, the more the centrifugation between husband and wife will intensify.
Chen Xiaochun and Ying Caier's marriage is talked about by many people, and the secret of getting along between them is that they trust each other completely, and the money Chen Xiaochun earns, he has never seen it himself, it is in the hands of his wife Ying Caier.
Chen Xiaochun is filming, and Yingying Yanyan is inevitably around her, but Ying Caier also said that she has absolute trust in her husband at this point.
Cai Kangyong once said: "The strong are strong in lifting people, not pressing people down." ”
A good marriage must trust each other, leave space for each other, and let go at the right time, which is respect for each other and salvation for oneself.
A good marriage is one that is independent of each other and clings to each other
Dale Carnegie wrote, "Financially independent women have a capacity to create happiness in their own right, they need not please and depend on men, and marriage is only the icing on the cake for them." ”
Tian Tian, played by Wang Ou in the play, lives in a big villa, wears brand-name clothes, has a maid at home, and buys a set of pots and pans casually, which is tens of thousands of yuan.
She doesn't have to work hard, she already easily has what many people dream of, and everything she has is just because she married her wealthy husband Tian Dong as soon as she graduated.
But his son Yuno, who grew up in such a very wealthy family, has no intention of learning Xi and is addicted to the Internet. In order to quit his son's Internet addiction, at Tian Dong's suggestion, they went up the mountain together to experience rural life.
Tian Tian, who was used to Mrs. Kuo, couldn't stand such a hard life in a few days, but Tian Dong was obsessed with life in the mountains and resolutely refused to go down the mountain.
So, she had to take her son down the mountain secretly, so she had a big disagreement with her husband.
She decided to divorce Tian Dong, and she hired a lawyer to help fight the lawsuit, but the lawyer told her that not only the family's villa and luxury car were mortgaged, but her husband also owed a lot of foreign debts. In order to support her and her son's life, she had to start from a stall.
It is said that "a desperate road is not a road, there is a road under a desperate situation", Tian Tian, who fell from the clouds to the bottom of the valley all of a sudden, finally changed from Mrs. Tian, who has always relied on her husband, to Tian Tian, who began to work hard to rely on herself, and her life has opened a new chapter.
Her stall business got bigger and bigger, and finally became a chain store, and in a work accident with her friend He Jiaru, she also learned that her husband's bankruptcy was not really bankrupt, but because he suffered from liver cancer, and he was afraid that his wife and son, who were accustomed to living a luxurious life after his death, would suffer, so he had to make this decision to force Tian Tian to become independent.
I have read such a sentence: "After getting married, married life is like walking in a stormy ocean."Only by working independently but together can we find a stable course together
Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu get along exemplary, although they are under the same roof, they do not disturb each other, do what they like each other, and have achieved success in their respective fields.
Just like milk tea Liu Ruoying said, "I dare to be lonely in your arms", even the closest lovers must maintain each other's independent growth, which is not only a respect for each other, but also can make the relationship longer.
Shu Ting described love in "To the Oak Tree" as follows: "It is not who climbs whom, not who praises whom, not who nourishes whom, but two tall and independent individuals, with the same beliefs and postures, like kapok and oak trees, independent of each other and paying tribute to each other." ”
The best marriage is probably independent of each other, but close to each other.
Emotional stability is the biggest tonic for marriage
Psychologist Tashiro Tashiro said, "Emotional stability is one of the important qualities, but it is underrated." ”
Ye Yifan in the play has been repeatedly searched because of his emotional stability, which has made netizens admire.
Although Ye Yifan and his wife, as ordinary workers, will be trapped by money and go to great lengths to buy a house that is more conducive to the growth of their children, the love between them has added a lot of sweetness to the originally boring and bitter life.
His wife was drunk and uncomfortable because of work entertainment, Ye Yifan did not blame his wife for going out to socialize in the middle of the night regardless of his family, like a somewhat suspicious husband, but intimately fed his wife medicine and helped her rest.
The father did not take good care of the child, causing the child to accidentally get crushed by the cabinet, and instead of blaming the father, he went to clean up the mess himself after confirming that the child was not injured.
The father misunderstood that his daughter-in-law was having an affair, so he asked him not to write his wife's name on the real estate certificate to leave a way out for himself.
He was domineering to protect his wife for the first time: "The two of them live together, what is the way out?"If you think about it, you will be single-minded, and if you don't want to do it, you will break up in two, and you will be tired and panting when you run forward, and you will still have a way out?”
Knowing that she was not pregnant with a second child, He Jiaru was very sad and couldn't help but get angry at Ye Yifan: "Ye Yifan, you are just gloating!."You didn't want this child from the beginning!”
Even if he was very sad, but in the face of his wife's questioning, he did not question his wife, but calmed his wife's emotions as soon as possible: "You think on the bright side, at least your work will not be affected." ”
Some people say:"When you meet an emotionally stable partner in a marriage, life is bright. ”
It is conceivable that in life, when you have an argument with your partner, you have cut into the mode of "the wind is roaring, the horse is barking, and the Yellow River is roaring", while the other party is looking at you with firm eyes, and at the same time the tone of voice is smooth feedback: "Don't be angry first, wait for you to calm down, and then we will solve the problem." ”
If you don't see the wind or rain, you don't add fuel to the fire, you will always wait for you to finish your grievances and calm down before solving the problem.
Such an emotionally stable partner, who doesn't get angry easily, and who can always think about you, everyone wants to have.
The drama "Xiaoman Life" is real and profound, and it is also full of warmth.
Regarding why the title of the play was "Xiaoman Life", director Wang Jun said: "The family concept shown in this drama is 'Xiaoman is perfect', this drama has anxiety but is more **, these three families have not to achieve very big ideals, and they work hard in their careers, realize their ideals step by step, and pile up small satisfaction, small happiness, and small joy to meet the expectations of this family." ”
No one's marriage will be really perfect, the heartbeat is only a moment, but the bottom of the eye is a lifetime.
The truth of marriage is probably that there are disappointments and quarrels, and there is also tenderness and affection when companionship and dependence.