I, an older leftover girl who is a little hesitant on the road of life, is 36 years old this year. Just a few years ago, I found a boyfriend who was divorced for the second time. He has no children, a house and a car, a stable job, and a monthly salary of up to 20,000 yuan. We've been dating for more than a year and we've even got a marriage license. Just as we were happily taking our wedding photos, he did something that hurt my heart to the core.
That day, after the shoot, he told the photographer that he already had a frame and that he didn't need to buy any more. He then took out a photo frame from the car, which contained a wedding photo of him and his ex-wife. This scene made my face pale in an instant, and I felt like a knife in my heart. He asked that the wedding photos in this frame be invalidated and replaced with our wedding photos. I can't describe the shock and pain that he plans to continue using this frame in order to save a hundred or ten dollars. I slapped him angrily and turned away.
Later, he apologized to me and admitted that he didn't take my feelings into account. He explained that he thought the frame was good and didn't need to be wasted, and that he thought it was just a trivial matter and there was no need to discuss it with me. For more than a year, his personality has indeed been a bit picky and straight, but on the whole he is okay with me. There were a lot of little things that happened between us, and I didn't bother with him.
On dates, he always used traffic jams as an excuse to get us on the bus to our destination. When shopping at the supermarket, he would go to the queue with his aunt and uncle to buy discounted eggs and vegetables. As a result, a shopping task that would have taken us half an hour to complete took two hours because of his queue. He would also buy me some fruit and yogurt that were about to expire. I took a fancy to an 800 yuan dress, but he thought it was too expensive and didn't let me buy it, so he took me to the wholesale market and bought a similar dress for 100 yuan. These little things piled up in my mind, but what I didn't expect was that he hit me so hard while we were taking wedding photos.
Among his values, only keeping money in the bank is the safest, and only constantly saving money can give him a sense of security. He's pretty good to me, but he's even more critical of himself. For all seasons, he had only four sets of clothes. In the face of such a man, it seems a little unwilling to give up on him, after all, he did not make a mistake of principle. However, if I don't give up, I feel panicked in my heart and can't let go. I know that no relationship will be completely free of arguments, and all love requires the joint efforts and understanding of both parties. How do I choose?
Whether it's in love or marriage, life is not for one person. If you want to last a long time, there are only two people who can endure, let and boil together, no matter who can't help it, don't want to let it, can't survive, and will break up.
Therefore, love is easy to get, but whitehead is rare. Lovers are easy to get, but tolerance is rare.
In the face of this marriage that is about to begin, do you say I will continue to tolerate it, or will I give up?