Man is a social dwellerAnimalsMaking friends is an integral part of life. However, making friends is also a science. The ancients had a lot of experience and wisdom, and summed up some ways to recognize people. There is a saying in it, "The turtle's back and the snake's waist can't be crossed", which means don't want to get alongHunchbackDating a woman who shows a bewitching posture. This phrase is traditional and ancient, but many people don't understand what it really means. In fact, it provides some insights into people's ideas about making friends.
First, let's talkHunchbackHunchbackThe term describes a person with a bulging back, like a turtle, that leaves a bad impression. In fact,HunchbackThere are two types: congenital and acquired. CongenitalHunchbackIt is caused by congenital reasons, which cannot be changed by a person. Building a friendship with such a person requires more attention to their emotional state. They can be easily hurt because they may be looked down upon by others and have negative feelings about themselves. When getting along with such people, we need to be careful to avoid touching their sensitive points so as not to cause misunderstanding and harm. AnotherHunchbackIt is formed due to acquired life Xi. In ancient times, proper standing was important for etiquette, and not standing properly would be considered unruly. However, loose lifestyle Xi may cause a person to develop a wrong posture, which is considered a sign of non-propriety. When dealing with such people, we cannot guarantee their attention and input, and we may be disappointed or turned away. Therefore, the ancients did not advise associating with such people.
In addition, turtle back is also used to describe those who flatter others and have a low brow. Such people are often not truly humble and respectful of others, but bow their heads to cater for their own benefit. Associating with such people is easy to be taken advantage of by them. Therefore, the ancients likewise did not advise to associate with such people. However, in society, we can also find exceptions. For example:Liu Yong, this famous minister of the Qing Dynasty is a little because of his old ageHunchback, but this kindHunchbackIt's different from what the ancients said. HisHunchbackNot by nature, but naturally by old age. In this case,HunchbackIt does not fall into the category of non-sociability.
Next, let's talk about the "snake waist". The snake waist is often used to describe a woman's slender and soft waist, which is the embodiment of the feminine beauty of women. However, in ancient times, people were very strict with women. Women should dress conservatively and follow certain rules in their speech and behavior. Women who show their snake waist are considered to be indecent and unpopular. However, with the development of the times, the requirements for women have changed a lot. Today's women can show their charm within reason. Therefore, a person should not be judged only by their appearance, but also by their inner qualities and personality.
Aside from the phrase "you can't make friends with a snake's waist", I think the second half of this sentence makes more sense, but it is not well known. The second half of the sentence is "You don't need a knife to look at people with squint eyes". In ancient societies, people paid a lot of attention to dignity. Squinting at people indicates a contemptuous attitude that can easily hurt the self-esteem of others. The ancients warned future generations not to insult others with contemptuous eyes, because verbal harm is more difficult to accept than physical violence. Similarly, there is a modern saying that "a good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June", which is also a warning to people not to hurt others with bad words.
With the progress and development of society, our concept of making friends has also changed. Some of the sayings of the ancients, although traditional, cannot be fully applied to modern society. However, if we understand the principles and wisdom conveyed by these sayings in depth, they can still provide us with some advice and directions for thinking.