My life has never been so lost, and a marriage contract has affected the fate of two families.
I was born in an ordinary middle-class family, my parents both worked in ** institutions, and my life was very regular. When I first graduated from college, my parents were anxious to find me a partner to marry.
One day, my father mysteriously said to me, "Son, it's time for you to start a family." Dad heard that there was a good girl who lived in the community next to us, she was also beautiful and capable, and the most important thing was that her family was good, and her parents were working in foreign companies. Brother of this family, what do you think?”
I was a little embarrassed and said, "Dad, I'm not ready to get married yet, and my work has just stabilized, so I'm not in a hurry to find a partner, right?"”
The mother interjected on the side and said: "Son, you should also nod quickly, the parents have come to our house twice to mention, and they said that they want you to go to their house next month to propose, and if you delay it, you will have a child." This is such a great opportunity for family business, you should not miss it. ”
I still want to defend a few more words, but my father has already decided: "Okay, don't hesitate, it's decided." I'll confirm with them tomorrow, and you'll go to their house next week to meet their sisters, and if it goes well, you can get married on the spot, and we'll arrange the rest of the procedures. ”
Looking at the tone of my parents, I know that I can't escape this. As an only child, I have listened to my parents since I was a child, knowing that they are for my own good, and believing in their vision. In addition, I had just entered the society for a short time, and I was worried that if I made the wrong choice, I would add a psychological burden to my parents, so I never expressed strong opposition to their arrangement.
Hung up on my father's **, I have mixed feelings. I knew that getting married was a big deal for me sooner or later, but I didn't expect it to come so suddenly. I just met a girl Xiaofang through a friend a month ago, and we have dated twice, and we are quite along. I was going to observe for a while to see if the relationship could continue to develop, but I didn't expect my parents to arrange a blind date for me at this time.
A week later, I dragged a little hesitant to the door of the blind date girl's house. Her name is Fengxia, and according to her parents, she is very beautiful and has a good personality. But I'm still a little apprehensive, after all, the two parents are in a hurry to make us a couple, which makes me feel a little forced.
After the doorbell rang, a middle-aged woman soon came to open the door, and at first glance it was Feng Xia's mother. She warmly pulled me in and said, "Come on, welcome, come in and sit." Our Fengxia is inside. ”
Seeing me coming, Feng Xia's parents also came to greet me warmly. They asked me to sit down face to face with Feng Xia, and kept adding water and bringing refreshments and fruits in front of us.
I looked at Feng Xia, she lowered her head, and she didn't dare to make eye contact with me too much. Her parents ignored their daughter's shyness and asked me directly: "Xiao Wang, does our Fengxia still look like you?"As the saying goes, a friend's wife can't be bullied, do you think this family business can be done?”
Feng Xia's mother immediately said: "Baby, it's rare that both parents agree, this opportunity is rare, you have to quickly position your identity, so as to save people who regret their marriage contracts in the future." ”
I can see that Feng Xia's parents are very anxious and want us to confirm the relationship as soon as possible. I guess they wanted to marry Feng Xia off before other boys appeared next to her. However, my relationship with Fengxia is still at a completely unfamiliar stage, and all this is too fast for me.
Sensing my hesitation, Fengxia's mother began to do things again, asking me about my work, my parents' health, my plans to buy a house in the future, and so on. I could only reluctantly lie, saying that the job was good and that my parents were in great health. I can only perfunctory other questions.
After two hours, we couldn't continue to argue, so Feng Xia's parents refused to let us go. Before leaving, they repeatedly told me to come early next time, so as not to let this family business get cold. I can only nod yes without sincerity.
Sending her parents away, I can finally talk to Fengxia alone. I looked at her embarrassedly and said, "I'm sorry to make you laugh, my parents are too anxious." Don't mind. ”
Feng Xia shook her head and said, "It should be that I said I'm sorry, my parents are too rude." You can see it, they've been crazy lately, and they have to marry me off quickly. ”
I smiled wryly: "I was also forced by my parents, so don't take it personally." ”
Actually, I never planned to go on a blind date," Feng Xia said, "I have a partner now, but I haven't told my parents yet." If they knew I had a boyfriend, they would have forced me to break up. So this matter can only be hidden from them. ”
I was surprised, I didn't expect Feng Xia to already have a boyfriend. Now I understand her predicament better, a girl with a boyfriend was forced to go on a blind date by her parents, and I can understand her discomfort.
We talked for a while, and I said I wouldn't force her to accept the business because of that. We're all young and need time to understand what we really want. Feng Xia was obviously relieved as well, and we said goodbye as friends.
However, after returning home, my parents still urged me to hurry up and not miss this good opportunity. They seem to be very optimistic about this family business, and they must let me end my single life as soon as possible.
I was in a dilemma, on the one hand, I didn't want to live up to my parents' kindness, and on the other hand, I also understood Fengxia's difficulties. How do I tell my parents that Fengxia already has a boyfriend?They're going to get furious and blame me for not taking my chance. It seems inevitable that there will be a painful hard bump.
Just as I was planning how to explain to my parents, an unexpected discovery disrupted my plans.
I looked at it, and Feng Xia was actually clasping her fingers with the boy!She had a happy expression on her face and love in her eyes. The two whispered something and laughed affectionately from time to time.
Now I finally determined that the boy must be Feng Xia's boyfriend. She met me without telling her family, and she looked like she was in love. I guess her parents would be furious if they found out she already had a boyfriend.
I left in a hurry, with mixed feelings. I'm happy for Feng Xia, after all, she has found true love, which is rare. But at the same time, I am also worried about her, her parents are so traditional and conservative, knowing that she already has a boyfriend, they may frantically force her to break up.
I nodded: "Of course I will keep it a secret for you." Don't worry, I won't say it. ”
Feng Xia breathed a sigh of relief. She babbled on and on about her boyfriend and her. It turned out that they were college classmates and had been dating for two years, and their relationship was very stable. But Feng Xia's parents have too old concepts, and they require their daughter to marry the right person. So Feng Xia can only date her boyfriend secretly.
I really love him and believe that we will have a future. I can't just give up this relationship and become a stranger with you. Feng Xia said.
I looked at her determined eyes and blessed her true love. But this was undoubtedly a problem for me, because my parents were still urging me to go and propose.
Actually, I also have something to hide from my parents," I plucked up the courage to say to Feng Xia, "I only met a girl a month ago, and we just started dating, so I can't marry you." ”
Feng Xia's eyes widened, obviously she didn't expect me to have a girlfriend too.
What a coincidence that we both hid our romance in front of our parents. Feng Xia sighed, "It seems that we are all in a dilemma. ”
I nodded and sighed, "It's really hard to do, and I don't know how to talk about it." ”
Or will we just keep the status quo?Don't tell your parents about this for the time being," Feng Xia said, "Wait for a while, and then find a way to deal with this matter." ”
I hesitated. Indeed, this seems to be the safest course of action at the moment, although the problem is still far away. But for now, I can only get through it like this.
We agreed to meet in the future or play the role of "quasi-newcomer" in the eyes of our parents, and not to pierce this layer of window paper for the time being. I also promised Feng Xia that I would keep it secret for her.
After separating from Fengxia, I walked alone on the night road. This series of events made me think more about life. How do I deal with family and personal relationships?What are the responsibilities of being a child?What do I want in life?Maybe that's the way to grow.
After this incident, I began to reflect on what kind of life I really wanted.
As the only child of my parents, I grew up with a lot of expectations. I knew they had high hopes for me and wanted me to live a life they hadn't had the chance to enjoy. So I've always been very obedient and filial, and try not to worry about them.
But I am also an independent individual, with the right to pursue the freedom of love and life. I can't sacrifice my happiness just to satisfy my parents. But as a son, I also have a responsibility to understand my parents and not go against their will on the spur of the moment.