The phenomenon that the parents-in-law hope that the son-in-law lives with the parents-in-law is in today's worldSocialNot common. Although some sons-in-law are willing to live with their parents-in-law, many more refuse this arrangement because living with their parents-in-law will affect their small familylife。InLawsThe son-in-law is not obliged to support his parents-in-law, but in China, this is about human affectionFilial pietyofSocial, the son-in-law has the emotional responsibility of helping his wife support his parents-in-law. However, in some cases, the son-in-law may also be forced to refuse to support his parents-in-law. This article will ** a practical case to tell the story of a son-in-law who wants to live in their daughter's house after dividing the family property, but the son-in-law decisively refuses.
Zhong Linand his wife have always been considered good sons and daughters of filial piety. However, when the parents-in-law divided the family property, they showed their patriarchal thinking. In other families, even if the daughter marries, she usually receives a portion of the property to maintain the relationship between her parents and siblings. However, at the parents-in-law's house, they did not hesitate to put together two properties and 500,000 yuanPensionsAll to the son. WhenZhong LinWhen they and their wives learned the news, they were shocked. The property of the parents-in-law has long since fallen into the pocket of the brother-in-law. And after they knew all this, the parents-in-law actually wanted to live in their daughter's houseRetirementand let thatZhong LinFelt unbelievable. Although the wife has always been filial and even helps to support the family, in the face of the demands of her parents-in-law,Zhong LinFeeling nauseous and powerless.
However, such a request from the parents-in-law is not surprising. The wife has always been pinched by her parents-in-law, whether it is money or effort. The wife felt very embarrassed in this "parental exploitation" relationship, and at the same time, she could not refuse her parents' request. In her opinion, as a child, it is natural to support her parents. However,Zhong LinI felt disgusted, I couldn't say anything about my parents-in-law's request, and at the same time I couldn't accept living in. He felt nauseous like eating flies and had a hard time swallowing or spitting out. In the end, he decided to decisively refuse: leave both houses to your son, and you go to him yourselfRetirementbar.
Zhong LinAfter marrying his wife, he has been helping his parents-in-law financially, countless times. Whenever the parents-in-law cried and begged, the wife always had to compromise. Zhong LinOut of care for his wife, he often chooses to turn a blind eye and not care too much. However, it was precisely because of his forbearance that his parents-in-law saw hope and continued to ask his wife for money and goods by various means. This time was no exception, the parents-in-law once again used emotion to kidnap his wife in an attempt to force her to submit. However,Zhong LinI can't stand this kind of behavior anymore. Although the wife had given her parents a subsidy before marriage and 2,000 yuan a month after marriage, her parents-in-law had left all their property to their son, and now they want them to take care of their old agelifeZhong LinCan't take it anymore. He decisively refused the request of his parents-in-law and sent them back to his brother-in-law's house intact.
The parents-in-law didn't seem to anticipate itZhong LinWill rebel. In the past, even ifZhong LinNot speaking will not stop them from acting. However, this timeZhong LinIgnoring the accusations of his parents-in-law, he resolutely defended his position. He calmly told them that now it was his brother-in-law's turn to raise them. It's not as easy as it once thought, thoughZhong LinI no longer tolerate it, but I decisively refused with my son-in-law: 2 suites are all given to your children.
Zhong LinThe approach is indeed understandable and supportive. First of all, the patriarchal thinking and partiality of the parents-in-law in dividing the family property made the daughter and son-in-law feel unfair and dissatisfied. They leave all their property to their sons, which is a serious violation of the principles of family fairness and affection. It can be seen that the parents-in-law treat their children unfairly, and it is difficult to expect that the son-in-law will be willing to accept them to live in his own home.
Secondly, the son-in-law living with his parents-in-law will not only affect the small familylife, which may also be raisedFamily conflictsand strife. The patriarchal bias of parents-in-law may also be passed on to sons-in-law and grandchildren, causing them unfairness and inconvenience. The son-in-law's refusal can help him protect his small family andMarriagerelationship, make sure that you and your wife face the responsibilities and pressures of the future together.
Finally, the issue of support between a son-in-law and his parents-in-law should be a voluntary and equal choice for both parties. Despite the emphasis on traditional Chinese valuesFilial pietyand the responsibility of supporting parents, but the son-in-law does notLawsObligation to support parents-in-law. The son-in-law has the right to choose how to support his parents-in-law, and if the parents-in-law do not treat the daughter and the son-in-law unfairly when dividing the property, the son-in-law has the right to refuse support.
To sum it up, son-in-lawZhong LinThe approach is correct. The parents-in-law want to live in their daughter's house after dividing the propertyRetirement, is an unfair and unreasonable demand. The son-in-law rejected the request of his parents-in-law in order to protect the interests of his small family and the principle of fairness. At the same time, the son-in-law did notLawsHe has the right to refuse such a request to support his parents-in-law. daughter and son-in-lawFilial pietyIt should be a voluntary and equal choice for both parties, not unilateral demands and oppression. The son-in-law's refusal is not only a defense of his own rights and interests, but also a response to the unfair behavior of his parents-in-law. In this case, the decisive refusal of the son-in-law is understandable and supportive.