As a well-known and reliable marriage and love, Zhenai has always regarded it as its responsibility to solve the difficulties of the majority of single groups. Recently, according to the statistics of the Ministry of Civil Affairs, since 2014, China's marriage rate has been declining year by year, and in 2021, it will fall below the 8 million mark. In 2022, the number of marriage registrations in the country is only 68330,000 pairs, a decrease of 80 from the previous year30,000 pairs. The difficulties encountered by young people in marriage and love have led to the gradual postponement of the age of first marriage, which has become a clear trend in social development. This situation has also prompted more and more people to choose to participate in blind date activities, hoping to get the favor of love and find a partner who shares their interests.
In the current labyrinth of love, Mr. Zhang, the matchmaker of Zhenai.com, is playing the role of an almost "realistic version of Cupid". Mr. Zhang, who is over 40 years old, has been working in the marriage service market for more than ten years. In the process, she not only found the career she loved, but also gained an in-depth understanding of the various rules and needs of single men and women in marriage and love. For example, men pay more attention to age and appearance, while women pay more attention to economic and health conditionsWomen need clear boundaries in relationships more than men;Emotional value occupies a more important place in intimate relationships......These are the insights and perceptions she has accumulated over the years.
In the research report of Zhenai.com, I once saw a set of data showing that the most common emotional friction in a relationship comes from the lack of empathy ability of the other party, causing people to ignore their own feelings. The second is the disagreement of personality and concept, which leads to frequent quarrels;There are also inconsistencies in words and deeds on the other side, and they do not fulfill their promises;Xi the inertial Cold War and evasion of problems, refusing to communicate. At the same time, it is often mentioned that breakups and lack of trust between each other are also common causes of emotional internal friction. This is the information revealed to reporters by Mr. Zhang, a cherished Internet celebrity. She shared a case about emotional exhaustion that led to a breakup, and she once served a member named Mr. Liu. When Mr. Liu first came to the offline store, he made it clear that he wanted to find a girl with a good personality and understanding, and had no other special requirements. After nearly two hours of personal communication, Mr. Zhang learned that Mr. Liu set such a mate selection standard because his girlfriend in his previous relationship lacked empathy and often Xi the habitual cold war, which eventually led to a breakup. Therefore, this time he wants to avoid falling into the dilemma of emotional exhaustion on both sides again. ”
After learning about Mr. Liu's emotional journey, Mr. Zhang did not blindly look for a blind date for him. On the contrary, in his spare time, she systematically helped Mr. Liu analyze the differences in each individual's personality, growth environment, and way of doing things, so as to help Mr. Liu clearly understand what he wants and learn to empathize. "In fact, people may meet the right person in their daily lives, but they are not willing to adapt to the other person. "People usually tend to pursue better choices, for example, if I think I am a six, I want to find a seven, but a person with a seven, may not look down on me as a six, and vice versa." Sometimes there may be people with a score of five who like me, but I don't like a point of five, and this situation leads to an infinite loop of puzzles. Therefore, first of all, you must be clear about what kind of person you want, and you can find a matching person by positioning it accurately. Otherwise, not only will there be setbacks, but also a waste of time and energy on both sides. ”
After Mr. Zhang, the matchmaker, matched Mr. Liu with a cheerful and enthusiastic Ms. Wang, their first appointment went very smoothly, and both parties expressed their willingness to know each other further. But it didn't take long for Mr. Zhang to receive Ms. Wang's **, expressing his desire not to know more about Mr. Liu. "It was close to 11 o'clock that night when she suddenly called me **, and I could hear that she had just cried, so I took a closer look at the situation. Teacher Zhang recalled, "It turned out that she hadn't replied to her message because Mr. Liu was so late in the evening, and she didn't answer it, although she just replied to **, but her attitude was very impatient and she quickly hung up." This led to misunderstandings and emotional distress for Ms. Wang. Subsequently, Mr. Zhang contacted Mr. Liu as soon as possible, and learned that he was socializing with the boss that night, and it was inconvenient to pick up **, but he was worried that not answering ** would make Ms. Wang unhappy, so he hurriedly replied a few words and hung up**. He did not expect that such a move would cause Ms. Wang to be misunderstood and unhappy. "After understanding the situation, I told Mr. Liu that a woman's way of thinking is often delicate, and her little temper is actually a sign that she cares. I suggest that Mr. Liu be more empathetic and pay more attention to the other party's feelings. "At the same time, I also reminded Ms. Wang to be tolerant of her other half, after all, no one is perfect, and we all have negligence and mistakes, why do we ask our partners to be perfect?"”
Mr. Liu and Ms. Wang followed Mr. Zhang's advice and changed the way they communicated with each other and their views on love. Now, they are happily writing their own happiness stories, and often share their sweet daily moments with the matchmaker Teacher Zhang. Mr. Zhang told reporters: "In this process, I really feel the close connection between people, which proves that my work is meaningful, which makes me feel particularly moved." Actually, I'm not the creator of the story, I'm just the leader of fate, helping people who are lost in the fog of singleness out of trouble. My greatest wish at the moment is to do the best in everything in front of me and provide the best service to each member. I want to always be a matchmaker full of warmth, and I am confident in that. ”
As a well-known enterprise in the field of Internet marriage and love services, Zhenai has nearly 4,000 experienced professional matchmakers like Mr. Zhang. In the future, Zhenai will continue to give full play to its business advantages, deeply understand the real needs of members, and formulate personalized solutions. Their goal is to guide members to build a positive and healthy outlook on marriage and parenting that will help them achieve a better future and move towards happiness. By providing personalized services and marriage guidance to members, Zhenai is committed to building a platform for single men and women to understand, respect and grow together.