Recently, I went on a business trip to Chengdu and Xi'an, and asked friends to have dinner and chat after work. During the chat, I talked about the children's schooling, and it happened that the children of several friends were in high school, so they chatted about the work and rest time, and I was dumbfounded.
My nephew has just entered his first year of high school, lives on campus, and can only go home once a month
A junior high school began to be militarized, with only one day off per week
A second-grade student in a primary school writes his homework until 10 o'clock every day, not the school keeps the homework, but the parents leave the homework;
The sixth grade of a primary school only has one day off a week, and self-Xi can be until nine o'clock every evening
The dormitory door of a high school was locked from the outside, with only a small window, like a "prison".
Even in the first-tier cities where education is easy, some primary school students start with four classes a week.
The seven-day holiday on November is said to have left more than 30 test papers at the least, and more than 70 papers at the most, which makes my heart bulge, my head buzzing, and my back is cold.
RecallWhen Brother Niu was youngAt that time, there was no mention of double reduction, and there was no crackdown on education and training institutions. Easy to playwithDo not attend make-up Xi classesIt is the norm of our six years of primary school life. The head teacher of the primary school clearly told us that as long as she carefully mastered the content of her class, she did not need to attend any cram Xi classes at all.
Think about it, Brother NiuElementary school life isAccompanied by after school andI haven't written any homework, ratherCrazy to develop their own interests, programming, composing, subway, astronomy, photography, basketball, etc.
The norm on weekends is to follow my father to the suburbs to see the stars, grind my grandmother to sit all over the Beijing subway, and disassemble and disassemble the computer at home. The interest class is just a basketball lesson and a piano tutor once a week.
Talking to Brother Niu that day, why do you feel that the current education is getting more and more volatile, Brother Niu said with a happy face, ".In fact, it is very volatile to reduce or not to reduce, but you are not in the circle of volatile in the first place
I asked, "Are you complimenting me?"
When I was reading the cover letter written by my son that day, I saw the first paragraph:
growing up in a family that was supportive and accepting, i had the freedom to explore and uncover the mysteries of the world and technology. i found myself captivated not only by its beauty and wonder but also by the order and patterns that lay beneath the surface. as i delved deeper into science and technology, i discovered that my true passion lay in the realm of artificial machines and the precision and automation they offer. this realization led me to pursue a career in computer science, a field where i can witness the flawless execution of commands and sequential orders by cpus."It reminds me of how many times my son's acceptance speech was to express that he grew up in an environment where he was relaxed, free, and full of exploration.
I am very touched by all of this, and I firmly believe in itThe strategy of accompanying and believing in his child from an early age is a great nourishment and support for him
In fact, the reason for the increasing volume is also obvious.
OneThe imbalance of resources will inevitably lead to a lack of high-quality educational resources, and parents always hope that fewer resources can help their children avoid detours. ObviouslyNumber of degreesIt is impossible to adjust according to the annual birth rate, and the age of the largest number of people is already gathered in the elementary school stage, which is bound to cause the reason why the burden of primary schools is reduced, but secretly they are happy.
IIThe imbalance in mentality inevitably causes parents to have to get involved. SinceClass groupsAfter this magical thing appeared, there was a first prize in dance and a first prize in chess, this painting won the prize, and that swimming won the prize. Even the crumpled and wrinkled students found in the schoolbag after the children arrived home now have to be sent out in the class group to dry.
Parents who do not participate in the roll have to be stimulated to choke on diving. Then self-reflection, I am too unrolled, so that the child has no material to dry, and with continuous reflection, slowlyI am rolledinto it.
Looking back now, when Brother Niu was in school, he didn't talk about WeChat groups, and there was no QQ group, which was really a happy thing.
IIIInformation overload and imbalance make parents live with more contrast anxiety. "Please don't compare your own children to other children, let them become better versions of themselves. "Education always says this, but parents always seem to be unable to escape the anxiety that they and their children bring.
If elementary schools are not ranked, don't they compare?
The middle school rankings only publish their own children's grades, and do not publish other people's big rankings. Is that all right?
It seems justSelf-deceptionNothing more.
Comparing this matter, there have been since ancient times, before I could only compare classmates and neighbors, and now there are also children on the Internet, genius children. The more anxious they became, the more the experts said, the more unbelieving.
Since it is not better than impossible, I will boldly share itMy method of comparison, which can greatly reduce the anxiety caused by contrast.
There are many aspects to children, and it is impossible to be excellent in all aspects, so I always amCompare my child's strengths to his inferior children, the mood immediately brightened.
When the teacher told me (I hope not to be seen by the teacher) my child's shortcomings (except for the problem of principle and character), I always thanked the teacher with a very good attitude. But turn your face and tell the child what your strengths are, and the teacher praises you.
Because only in the state of positive psychological cues and positive feedback can children become more and more energeticOnly children with sufficient energy can afford the "volume" that comes from the environment
Education is getting more and more volatile, and in the final analysis, it isParents do not see the end of education, nor do they see the whole picture of a child's growth
In today's society with too much information, we don't have no educational information, but too much information, but we don't know who to believe, and experts may also be "bricks".
That's why I've always told all parents, educate your children, you're the real expert, what you need to doBe quiet and be a parent who understands your child, just grow and practice with him.