My name is Lin Fangfang, I am 28 years old this year, and I have been married to my husband Zhang Qiang for two years. We live in an ordinary neighborhood and life is uneventful. When I first got married, I was full of longing and anticipation for life.
I dream of being inseparable from my husband and spending a sweet world for two. We can go shopping together, watch movies and listen to ** meetings, and nest up on the sofa in the evening to chat. I even fantasized that we would be the model couple in a love story.
However, I soon discovered that reality was not as rosy as I had imagined. My husband Zhang Qiang is a simple person, and he likes to watch TV and newspapers at home every day after work.
I tried to get his attention, but I couldn't. Just like when I came home from work today, I opened the door and saw my husband sitting alone in front of the TV watching the news broadcast.
I am back. I said wiping my sweat.
I answered softly, and my husband was still looking intently at the TV screen. My heart sank instantly, and it was another unscheduled evening, which was really boring.
But I still decided to face it with a smile, and I silently comforted myself. "Look, I'm going to take a shower, and then I'm going to prepare dinner. I spoke again. "Good. The husband is still the same indifferent attitude.
I shook my head in disappointment and walked into the bedroom. It took more than ten minutes to take a shower, and I felt a lot more relaxed. Maybe a delicious meal will make tonight less boring, I thought to myself.
So I decided to cook a few dishes that my husband liked. When chopping and stir-frying, I still fantasize about the warm picture of us eating and chatting together. Finally, two dishes and one soup were ready, and I brought them to the table with great anticipation.
Honey, dinner is ready, let's eat together?I asked, smiling. However, his answer made me feel a little lost, "Here it is." He just answered, still immersed in the show.
I resisted the dissatisfaction in my heart and tried to change his attitude in a gentle tone, "I made this fish-flavored shredded pork according to the taste you like, try it."
He tasted it casually, then nodded, "Well, it tastes good." "I was so upset by his reaction that I ate in silence with a sense of loss and confusion.
My husband seemed to notice the strangeness of my mood, and he asked me gently, "Fangfang, are you unhappy about something?"I replied softly, "No, I'm fine."
I looked up at him, then lowered my head again. My husband didn't seem to pay much attention to it, and soon returned to the TV to continue watching TV. My heart was like a knife, and after washing the dishes, I found that my husband had gone to bed early.
This life is repeated day by day, and I feel that the distance between us is getting farther and farther away. I don't know if I'm not good enough, and I can't understand why my husband has become so cold.
Lying in bed at night, I tossed and turned and couldn't sleep, and I had a lot of thoughts. Last night, I plucked up the courage to say to my husband, "Husband, I want to talk to you about the problem between us.
My husband raised his head, his eyes a little confused: "What's the problem?".”
I took a deep breath and began to organize the language: "I feel like our relationship has not been as close as it used to be lately. You watch TV every day after work, and there is less communication between us as a couple, and I feel lonely.
I felt sad to see a flash of impatience on my husband's face. "I'm really tired from a long day at work, and I just want to take a little rest, what's wrong?," he said
You're also thinking too much. I couldn't help but raise my voice: "Am I thinking too much?".So what other exchanges and activities do you have between the two of us besides eating and sleeping?
The husband frowned: "You keep quiet, it's not good for the neighbors to hear it." I'm also tired from a long day at work, and I want to be quiet when I get home, can you not be unreasonable?
vexatious?I was so angry that I couldn't speak, "Then do you say that you have time to accompany me during this time and listen to what I have to say?"You know it in your own heart.
The husband looked impatient: "I've worked hard to maintain this family, what else do you want me to do?"Sticking together every day, who can stand it?”
I looked at my husband, and the tears in my eyes hit **, "Husband, do you still love me?".I feel like you don't care about me anymore. My husband also raised his voice: "Enough is enough, you think too much!."
I just want to sit quietly for a while now, can't I?"I looked at my husband and couldn't hold back the tears that welled up in my eyes. It turns out that married life is so boring, I thought I would live a romantic and warm life every day, but I didn't know that the other party didn't care about my mood at all.
You can sit quietly and I won't bother you anymore. Think about the problem between us, and then tell me. I choked up and turned back to my bedroom.
Lying alone on the bed, I couldn't stop crying. How did it become the way it is?When we first got married, it was so sweet, why did the relationship fade after a few years?
Am I asking too much?Or has my husband changed his mind?I tried my best to be suspicious and blame myself, but I couldn't figure out the answer. At this time, a thought suddenly flashed through me, what if the problem was with me?
Am I being too demanding of my husband and failing to understand his hard work?I kept reflecting and felt that maybe I didn't manage this relationship with my heart, and I always saw my husband's shortcomings, but I ignored his efforts and dedication for the family.
Closing my red and swollen eyes, I began to think deeply. Now that you've found the crux of the problem, let's start by changing ourselves. I can no longer blame him all the time, but I should put myself in his shoes and let him have a comfortable environment at home.
He looked at me in surprise: "Fangfang, your attitude has changed?".I nodded: "Yes, I have thought about it, as a wife, you should learn to understand and tolerate, instead of always complaining and finding fault."
I'll fix it later. As I spoke, I took the initiative to hold his hand and looked into his eyes: "I was a little impulsive last night, I'm sorry." Let's take our time, shall we?
He was a little surprised, but quickly smiled: "Okay, then we all start over, as long as both of us work hard, the marriage will definitely be happy." I smiled too, and my heart was full of hope.
Maybe marriage needs two people to run together, I can't just see his shortcomings, but learn to understand and tolerate. Starting today, I'm going to approach this relationship with a fresh mindset.
I believe that as long as I change myself, we will be able to regain the sweetness and happiness we were before.
After my husband and I reached a consensus, I decided to start with myself and become a good wife. I started to get up early every day and prepare a variety of gourmet breakfasts, from his favorite porridge, steamed buns, and eggs, to my newly learned dim sum and bread, I carefully prepared them, hoping that he would have a good morning.
At breakfast, I was no longer as reticent as before, but took the initiative to find topics, talk about news and current affairs, talk about what I saw and thought, and hope to keep in touch with him.
Before my husband goes to work, I help him put out his tie, check his file bag, and ask him about his day's plans. Although his response was still a simple sentence or two, I could feel him going out with a smile on his face.
During the day, I would carefully clean my room and do some light needlework to give my home a new look. After work, I would change into bright loungewear and wait for him to come home while preparing dinner.
Hearing the door open, I hurried out, took his briefcase, and asked him with concern what he had been busy all day. He still didn't seem to be Xi to my courtesy, and smiled and said that the work was going well.
I looked at his slightly tired face, and I was distressed, and I quickly asked him to wash up, and then enjoy a good dinner. After dinner, he sat down in front of the TV as usual to watch the news.
I suggested that we clean up the dishes together, and he readily agreed. We were talking and laughing and tidying up the house, and the atmosphere was as harmonious as ever. After that, I made his favorite Da Hong Pao tea, and we sat on the sofa and chatted together.
I struggled to find interesting topics to chat about, sharing TV series I watched during the day, talking about the new dishes I learned Xi I wanted to cook for my husband, and mentioning the recent contact with my old classmates for a party.
Although my husband didn't talk much, he listened very carefully and occasionally interjected a few comments. I watched him sit relaxed on the couch with a feeling of happiness in my heart. As he left, I reluctantly asked, "This business trip won't be too long, right?"
My husband seemed to notice my little emotions, and immediately touched his head and said, "It won't be too long, if you take care of yourself at home, I'll be relieved." I nodded and sent him out.
The wheels of the suitcase rolled on the ground and made a "gurgling" sound, which made my heart rise and fall with it. But I understand that this is only a short parting, and my husband will definitely return to me.
During my husband's business trip, although I was home alone, I didn't feel lonely, but learned to have fun on my own. I can sleep until I wake up naturally, and then I can get up slowly and make breakfast.
Instead of waking up early to prepare a hearty breakfast, I simply have a glass of milk and fried eggs. After breakfast, I can leisurely watch TV and do some needlework while watching.
At noon, I try to make some new dishes, and although I don't have my husband to praise me, I feel happy to eat my own dishes.
After lunch, I went out for a walk and enjoyed the scenery in the nearby park. I would find a bench to sit on, enjoy the sunshine, and look at the pedestrians on the road or the children playing by the lake.
After that, I will go shopping and look at the new clothes and shoes, and although it doesn't matter if I buy them or not, I can also feel good when I look at the fashion information. Although you are alone, you can live a leisurely and comfortable life.
In the blink of an eye, my husband was about to come back, and I began to plan to cook something delicious for him, and at the same time thought that I would spend time with him when he returned. On this day, I went to the supermarket early and bought a lot of fresh ingredients.
I plan to make my husband's favorite kung pao chicken, pan-fried pork ribs, scallion oil noodles, etc. After a busy afternoon, several good dishes were ready. I boiled my husband's favorite pork rib soup and prepared to make dumplings or dumplings with him.
These are all surprises that I have carefully prepared for my husband. When my husband came back from this business trip, I noticed that he didn't seem to be in a good mood. Although he can still maintain a smile on the surface, I always feel that he can feel the tiredness and irritability inside.
At first, I thought it was because of the pressure of work, so I tried to make my husband happier. I will stew some supplements and be more attentive and thoughtful to my husband. In the evening, when we were watching TV, I offered to massage him and help him beat his back.
Before going to bed, I would whisper to him what was bothering him and wanted to hear what he had to say. However, my husband just smiled and said that there was no problem, so I didn't have to worry. But I was sensitive to the fact that he avoided my eyes and rarely had in-depth communication with me.
I felt anxious, but I didn't know what to do. Gradually, the sense of distance between us gradually returned. One day, I couldn't help it anymore and plucked up the courage to ask my husband directly whether it was a work problem or ours problem.
I asked him, "Do you have any problems with this time?"I always feel that you are not as enthusiastic about me as before, am I ** not good enough?My husband's face looked a little ugly, and he said, "You're over-interpreting again, I'm fine, but I'm under a lot of pressure at work."
I continued to ask, "Then you are looking at me with obvious avoidance, and we are communicating less, are you sure it's just a matter of work?"."I felt a little uneasy.
My husband looked a little impatient, and he said, "I said it's okay, but you have to think that it's my problem, and it has affected my mood." ”
I was very frustrated: "Who else can you talk to?"I'm your wife, you trust me, talk to me. "There's nothing to say, don't worry about it, I'll go take a shower first!."
My husband closed the door, leaving me alone. It seems that the problem is indeed with me. I kept reflecting on myself, what did I do wrong?Is it because I've been too clingy lately, or is my concern stressing him out?
I racked my brains and couldn't find an answer. And just like that, the rift between us grew deeper. The husband often returns late at night, and his face is getting more and more gloomy. I racked my brains to please him in the hope of rekindling the fire of our love, but my efforts seemed to be to no avail.
During this time, my relationship with my husband became more and more estranged, and I almost despaired. It wasn't until one day that I happened to find an unknown woman** in my husband's bag, and it dawned on me that the root of the problem was another woman.
I brought my husband over with tears in my eyes and excitedly asked him what was going on. The husband suddenly looked a little flustered and stammered speechless. I never imagined that my well-cared marriage would turn out like this, and tears couldn't stop falling.
Husband, please tell me, how far has your relationship with her progressed?Is there still salvation in our marriage?I asked him with tears in my eyes. "Not as serious as you think?
I couldn't believe my ears, "You have a relationship with another woman who is beyond friends behind my back, this is already cheating, and you want to lie to me?"."I angrily asked my husband why he chose to betray me after I had given so much.
My husband finally became resolute, saying that he just had a lot of work pressure and needed to vent, and he didn't want to ruin our marriage at all, and I didn't understand his hard work. We got into a heated argument.
I felt deeply betrayed and hurt, and my husband thought I didn't understand his needs and didn't take him seriously at all. "Maybe we're really not fit in together.
The husband finally said. This sentence completely broke me, and I ran back to my bedroom in tears, feeling like the whole world had become strange and cold.
Lying alone on the bed, I covered my mouth tightly to keep the tears from falling. I can't believe that an affair can send us from heaven to hell. I love my husband so much, why should he bear to hurt me like this?
In the days that followed, I couldn't eat and lost a lot of weight. I don't want to face this harsh reality, and I don't dare tell anyone. I tried my best to salvage the relationship, but my husband had completely closed his heart.
After struggling like this for several months, he finally filed for divorce. I begged him to think again, but his heart remained steadfast. In court, I signed the divorce agreement with tears in my eyes, and we broke up from then on.
Now, years later, my heart still aches when I think back on this marriage. I guess I'll never be able to forgive him for his betrayal. But life has to look forward after all, the past is gone, and I have to continue to live.
Now I'm living well on my own. Although being single can be lonely, I have learned to be independent and self-reliant, and I have also found a sense of value in my work. I believe that Heaven will allow me to meet another person who is worthy of my life.
I'm ready to love and be positive for my future!
After the divorce, I spent some time alone. That painful marriage experience made me daunted to be emotionally involved again. Even though I felt lonely, I told myself that I was comfortable living alone.
With Wang Jun, I feel calm and warm. Together, we will go for a walk in the park, listen to the ** meeting, and visit the museum. Sometimes we're just lazy at home watching movies and cooking together.
Although life is simple, it makes me feel satisfied and happy for a long time. Wang Jun is also very considerate. If I come home late from overtime, he will leave a light for me;When I was sick, he would cook porridge for me and bring it over.
Once I sprained my ankle, Wang Jun took time out to change my dressing every day. These details made me feel deeply cared for. Wang Jun understood my sensitivity, and he said softly: "I will call you every day, you can rest assured, a month of business trip will soon pass."
I realized that I was too sensitive and immediately apologized to Wang Jun. Wang Jun didn't mind, but enlightened me to strengthen my trust, and he will definitely prove himself. I nodded, determined to overcome the shadows of my past.
During the month that Wang Jun was on a business trip, every day would be a moment I looked forward to. He always turned his camera out the window while chatting and shared with me the beauty of his city.
Once, when I fell ill, he immediately booked a plane ticket and rushed back to take care of me, which made me see his sincere love and made me trust him completely. Now, Wang Jun and I have entered the palace of marriage.
As I walked up to him in my wedding dress, I saw tears of happiness in his eyes. "I will give you the life you want. He said to me firmly. The marriage that once made me sad is a thing of the past, and I have been given another chance in life.
This time, I will know how to be grateful and cherish more. As long as we don't forget our original intention and support each other, the water of the rivers can become rain. I look forward to spending the next 30 years with Wang Jun and having the best time of my life.