When looking for a partner, most women tend to choose a condition that is comparable to their own in all aspects, or slightly better than themselves, or even much better.
Because women are more strong by nature, they like to be stronger than themselves.
There is nothing wrong with choosing according to such criteria.
It's just that there are some women who are not limited to the conditions, what they like, that is, even if the other party is not as good as themselves, their family background is not as good as their own, and their abilities are not as strong as themselves, they are still willing.
At the moment of love, I couldn't care about it so much, and I felt that true love was supreme.
In addition, there are some women who specifically don't want to find someone better than themselves, and would rather choose someone who is not as good as themselves.
There is nothing wrong with a woman getting married, but when making this choice, there are some things that need to be paid attention to.
It may be necessary to take into account the other person's self-esteem.
Many men, his self-esteem is very strong.
When his conditions are not as good as yours, he doesn't earn as much as you, and his contribution to the family is not greater than yours, he is really easy to break the defense, and the whole person is easy to be very unhappy, and even all kinds of things.
With him, you really need to take care of his psychology and emotions, and carefully maintain his face.
And in this regard, different people will be more different.
Some people, as long as you pay a little attention, everything will not be fine, but some people, even if you have paid a lot of attention, many times you don't mean to look down on him, but he still thinks a lot, and is always very fragile and glassy.
Therefore, when you choose such a man, you must see if the other party's heart is strong enough, relatively self-contained, and it is best to be able to pass this hurdle, without blindly emphasizing your dignity and face, which is always easy to deviate.
Some differences, whether they can be overcome.
I know a couple, and the two of them are typical women, who are more powerful, more educated, more capable, and have better jobs.
The difference between the two people's family background, knowledge, and ideas is quite big.
is such two people, at the right time, they happened to fall in love with each other and entered into marriage. After getting married, the problem also appeared, whether it was in terms of living habits or ideological differences, the difference between them was very large.
It's often hard to communicate, and I'm often arguing over trivial matters, and no one can understand anyone. Gradually, they all felt very tired, and they all felt that the other party was unreasonable.
Differences, that often mean a lot of differences, and these differences may not feel much for each other when they are in love, but once they are married, they will all become problems.
The best thing is not to be too emotional when you are in love, or to understand their respective backgrounds and see if they can be integrated.
Whether you are motivated or not, will it suppress you.
You can choose a man who is not as good as you, but he must not be lazy and idle.
Such a person, once that little bit of liking is gone, you will really dislike it, the psychology is very unbalanced, and life will become very difficult, when your attitude changes, the other party will naturally not be able to stand it at all, and neither of you will have a good time.
In other words, he can not be better than you, but you still have to be more acceptable, and the other party is still more hardworking.
On the other hand, some people are not as good as you, they will not see you well, they will not see you go up, they will try to pull you down and pull you to the same level as themselves, and it is best to make you mediocre, and there is no longer any goal and pursuit.
Needless to say, it's scary if the other person is always blocking you from going to a better place. He may be able to keep you in this way and reassure himself, but your life will only become unfortunate.
Your partner should not be unmotivated, nor should it be all kinds of obstacles that hinder you, it should be that you progress together and go further.
What is the character, whether it is sincere or not.
There will be some women who specifically want to find good conditions and let their lives have a guarantee, and it is best to ask for more.
There are also some men who have no feelings for you, they just want to be comfortable and want you to have good conditions.
It's really not good to be a person, that is, you just want to take shortcuts, covet your conditions, and it may not be good to you after marriage, and at a certain moment, maybe it will hurt you fiercely and take away a lot of your property.
Not everyone is like this, but there are really people who are like this, and if you don't want to fall into such a situation, you must get to know each other well, see if the other party is reliable, and whether they are sincere to you.
If the other party is not very good, they just think that you are in good condition, so choose you, such a person is better to forget it.
The other party is good, relatively kind, indeed very sincere, sincere, full of responsibility, and wants to live a good life, then it is okay, you can continue to move forward.
Whether it is a man or a woman, you can find something similar, you can find someone who is better than yourself, or you can find someone who seems inferior to you on the surface.
The most important thing is always people.
It's the nature of this person, it's how this person treats you.
In either case, you must remember that people who are upright, kind, honest, have others in their eyes and have a bottom line in their hearts will always be a good choice.
Such a person, with his education and upbringing, will never be too out of line.
Otherwise, if you feel that someone is not so right, you feel a little strange, and you had better have a snack.
You must know how to protect yourself, and don't delay your life because of a choice.
Text: Tan Meng.
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