Jiang Wen said in "Middle Age in Dog Day":
"Middle age is a laughing age, not only to please the elderly, but also to be a good example for children, but also to always pay attention to the face of the wife, and constantly cater to the boss's thoughts. Middle-aged people keep going around for their livelihood, face, house, car tickets. ”
It's not easy for middle-aged men, but it's even harder for middle-aged women.
Stay-at-home mothers are worried about marital changes, and working women may face crises, and if they don't pay attention, they will be labeled as cheap.
This will not only affect the quality of life of the woman, but also the family status and social status of the woman.
Therefore, middle-aged women must get rid of cheapness and don't do these few things.
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Don't palms up, compromises to live a full life
What kind of day is the saddest?
The days when the palms are up are the saddest.
When a woman's palms are upward, what awaits you may be contempt, neglect, compromise, and trembling.
A life that depends on others is not only devoid of equality and dignity, but may also encounter betrayal at any time.
There are many such real-life cases reported in the news.
The woman worked full-time for more than ten years and devoted herself to the family, but as a result, the man had an extramarital affair outside and insisted on divorce.
In the end, when the divorce is made, the subsidy that the woman receives is only tens of thousands of yuan, and on average, it is less than 10,000 yuan a year.
Netizens lamented that even if you hire the cheapest housekeeper, it will cost tens of thousands of dollars a year.
But the reality is so cruel.
Not being financially independent will make women seem particularly cheap, and the risk of ** is always there.
Economic independence can allow a woman to get rid of the days of relying on others, but spiritual independence can truly make a woman have dignity, status, and equal personality.
Not long ago, there was an incident circulating on the Internet, which made people sigh.
Women have good jobs and good incomes, but their spiritual dependence on men is extremely strong.
The man has a new love and wants to break up in two shots, but the woman is full of grievances and reluctance in addition to begging hard.
The woman even said, he's there, my home is there. He is gone, and my children and I have no home.
Such a low voice and compromises may be able to exchange for a temporary family integrity, but it is never possible to exchange for a man's respect from the heart.
A woman's dignity and nobility are all exchanged for her own value.
Even if you reach middle age, you must make yourself financially and spiritually independent.
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Don't be materialistic and vanity
At the class reunion, when it came to a female classmate, everyone sighed.
This female classmate's circle of friends is full of all kinds of showing off, showing off the house, showing off the car, showing off the travel, and even occasionally the husband gives some gifts, but also to show off.
At first, everyone thought she was living a good life, but later I learned that the truth was the opposite, she had been doing a dispensable job, and her husband had encountered a career bottleneck in recent years, and his development was not good, and the economic ability of household appliances has been average.
But in order to save face, she would rather save money for half a year, but also buy a new and exquisite equipment to participate in the class reunion.
Everyone lamented that when they were young and ignorant, material supremacy and vanity were bursting, which is understandable, who hasn't been superficial?
But when people reach middle age, they still care so much about material satisfaction, and they still want to compare face, it is inevitable that people feel that half of their lives have been in vain.
What is lacking will be flaunted, material supremacy, but because material needs are not satisfied, material desires are excessive, but because of the lack of spiritual sustenance.
Everything is materialistic, without spiritual support and pursuit, people are exaggerated and impetuous, without connotation and quality, it will appear extremely vulgar and cheap.
When people reach middle age, they should have seen through the essence of life, and clearly saw that life is just a process of simplifying the complicated, and there is no need to care and care about insignificant people and things.
Middle-aged women, grasping the most important people and things, and living their current life well, is the most stable happiness.
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When people reach middle age, don't be devoured by material desires, don't be bound by a sense of dependence, only by living out their self-worth, can they get rid of their two families and truly enjoy the freedom and fun of life.