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We often say, "Knowing the face of the person does not know the heart." ”
No matter who you deal with, you have to be careful, and if you don't pay attention, you will look away and mistake the villain for a gentleman.
However, we can't help but socialize, and we are also worried that we will treat good people as bad people, which will chill the hearts of good people.
Obviously, learning to see a person clearly is very important for adults.
There is an ancient saying: good and evil depend on the mouth, and the rich and poor look at the hands and feet.According to real life, if you carefully interpret the "ancient precepts", you will find that the key to seeing a person clearly is "from the outside to the inside", and inference is based on the principle of "being born from the heart".
"Look at the mouth and eyes", see the character.
When people meet each other, they will look at each other for the first time, and then leave a preliminary impression, and also form a point of view that judges people by their appearance.
Generally speaking, we like people with good facial features and a good temperament.
In further communication, we can see a person's eyes and hear a person's words. Thus, the quality of character is reflected.
First, the mouth can express the heart.
The mouth can speak, you can eat, you can also scold, spread rumors, etc.
When Zeng Guofan, the minister of the late Qing Dynasty, was training the Hunan army, many people came to take refuge, hoping to get a job.
One day, a fellow villager approached Zeng Guofan, hoping to join the army. Zeng Guofan did not agree immediately, but took his fellow villagers to have a meal.
After the meal, Zeng Guofan gave the fellow a few dollars and asked him to go home.
Because of this fellow, he keeps saying that he is very poor, but when he eats, he picks and chooses the dishes that are not delicious. Obviously, it is "unbearable and pampered".
People who don't have a good mouth won't have a good heart. A person who speaks evil words is not very good in character.
Those who are not picky about food, who can encourage others, who can manage the scale of words, have much better character.
Second, the eyes are the windows to the soul.
The sculptor Rodin once said: "The so-called masters are such people: they see with their own eyes what others have seen, and they can find beauty in what others are accustomed to." ”He who has the sun in his eyes sees everything as bright as gold. Even if he does something bad, he will actively encourage and strengthen guidance.
The eyes are always squinting at others, or showing a disdainful gaze, indicating that a person's heart has been darkened, and everything is crooked, and malicious words may be added.
People who dare not look at others with their eyes are most likely "ghosts" in their hearts, and at some point, they are guilty and lack the confidence to be a human being.
If your eyes show a lustful look, you can't stand the test at all, even your own love can't be controlled, and the family is difficult to be happy.
When we were children, we often saw the teacher's affirmative and smiling eyes, and our hearts were very happy, and then we had more courage to read.
When we don't dare to look into the teacher's eyes, we are not good enough to study and feel sorry for the teacher.
If you treat others with yourself, you will be able to see through your eyes to your heart. It's not wrong to be with gentle-eyed, well-meaning people.
"Look at the hands and feet", out of the truth.
Tao Xingzhi said: "Although the Tao cannot be learned, it cannot be achieved, and although it is small, it cannot be impossible." ”After seeing a person's appearance, and then looking at his achievements and pattern, you have to look at it from your hands and feet.
Some people are good-looking, but a "vase" is not worth associating.
Only those who make full use of their hands and feet can make a difference, apply wisdom to life and work, and break out of the world.
First of all, you are hardworking and have a worry-free life.
In ancient times, Tao Yuanming stayed away from the workplace and lived the life of an ordinary farmer, but he and his wife farmed together, and their lives could flourish.
The sun rises, and the sun rests. Farming life, can support the family;Those who work in the city are even better.
A family, where everyone is industrious, "starving" passes through its door, and does not enter.
For those who study art - one day without practicing hands and feet slowly, two days without practicing half of the loss, three days without practicing layman, four days without practicing staring.
When your hands and feet move, your talent will become better, and you are not afraid that you will not be able to find a job in society.
Then, the hands and feet are clean, and there is no pit or cheat.
We refer to those thieves as "three hands". They have an invisible hand that keeps an eye on someone's pocket and touches someone's wallet.
There are also some idle people, with slender fingers, who never get muddy, but they are very annoying. They are just gnawing at home, and they will eventually become losers.
Being a clean man, even if he doesn't wash his hands, will be welcomed by everyone, because he has always lost his invisible dirty hands.
In this life, as long as the money comes cleanly and people take the right path, they can reflect positive energy. You can also be friends with such people.
Finally, warm hands and feet, and help others.
Once, on the bus, a woman came up with a stroller.
The bus started and the stroller slipped back. The uncle on the side quickly stepped on the wheel of the stroller with his foot.
The car was suddenly filled with an air of love.
To be a human being is to be able to give someone a hand at any time. Although you have spent your own strength, you may not necessarily bring wealth, but you will become rich in your heart, and you can be regarded as dedicating your wealth to society.
In society, people are more with people who are diligent, warm and clean. On the other hand, if a person is lazy, his hands and feet are not clean, and he is often cold, he is unreliable. You should cut ties with such people in time.
In the Tao Te Ching, it says: "Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are clear." ”
Seeing a person clearly is wisdom, but there must be a premise: one's character is good, loves life, and works hard.
If you're a lazy eater, then it's weird to see a hard-working person;You are a ** person who sees others doing good deeds and thinks they are doing bad deeds.
On the premise of cultivating oneself well, we can look at the people around us with a righteous attitude, and choose the good ones to follow, so that we can feel the beauty of society and the warmth of the world.
The experience of the ancients, pushing through the old and bringing forth the new, has become the wisdom of socialization.
May you and I look at people quietly, make good friends, and do good deeds.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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