The topic of the entertainment industry has always attracted the attention of the public, especially the marriages of those stars, which are always full of various dramatic changes. Some celebrities have been married for many years, but they choose to divorce for some reasons, which makes people sigh, is marriage really the grave of love?Why do men choose to divorce?What is the truth behind it?Today, we will analyze several reasons for men's divorce, as well as their psychological activities.
1. Derailment. Cheating is one of the most common causes of marriage breakdown, and one of the most unacceptable. When men meet a third person in marriage, they often fall into an ambivalent mentality, on the one hand, they still love their wife and do not want to hurt her, nor do they want to lose the warmth of the family;On the other hand, they are attracted by the charm of a third party, enjoy the fresh excitement, and do not want to give up this feeling. At this time, the reason why a man will choose divorce is the following possibilities:
Persecution by a third party. Some third parties are unwilling to be mistresses, they will constantly pressure the man, ask him to divorce his wife, give himself a name, and even threaten to expose their relationship so that the man has to give in.
The discovery of the wife. Some men cheat on them, but they still want to maintain the semblance of harmony in their marriage, and they will try to hide their whereabouts from their wives to find out. However, sometimes, the wife will still expose the man's secret through some clues, and at this time, the man will feel that he has no face and no trust, so he will choose to divorce in order to get rid of it.
Make your own decisions. After some men cheat, they will feel that they have no relationship with their wives, or they feel that they love a third party more, so they will take the initiative to file for divorce and want to start a new life with a third party. Such men tend to be more selfish, they only think about their own feelings, regardless of their wives' feelings, and do not consider the influence of the family.
Second, the three views do not agree.
The three views refer to the world view, outlook on life and values, which are the guiding principles of a person's thoughts and behaviors, and also the embodiment of a person's personality and quality. When the three views of husband and wife do not agree, there will be many differences and contradictions, such as consumption outlook, education outlook, life outlook and so on. These differences and contradictions, if not communicated and adjusted in time, can lead to a crisis in the marriage and even lead to divorce. There are several possible reasons why a man would choose to divorce:
The change of wife. Before getting married, some wives may hide or change some of their concepts in order to cater to men, such as they don't like children, but for the sake of men, they say that they want to have children;Or that he doesn't care about money, but for the sake of men, he says that he will be thrifty. But after getting married, the wife will slowly return to her original appearance, or be influenced by the outside world, and change some of her concepts, such as she wants a career, but the man wants her to be a full-time wife;Or that she wants to enjoy life, but the man asks her to save money. At this time, the man will feel that his wife has changed, and she is no longer the same as she was at the beginning, so he will choose to divorce and find a more suitable person.
Men's change. Before getting married, some men may show some of their advantages in order to pursue their wives, such as being very responsible, self-motivated, very interesting, and so on. But after getting married, men will slowly relax themselves, or be affected by the outside world, and change some of their concepts, such as they no longer care about their families, only care about their careers, or say that they are no longer loyal, and begin to look for flowers and willows outside. At this time, the wife will feel that the man has changed, and he is no longer the same as he was at the beginning, so she will choose to divorce and find a more suitable person.
The incompatibility of both sides. Before getting married, some couples may ignore some differences between each other because of the passion of love, such as personality, interests, hobbies, etc. But after getting married, these differences will gradually become apparent and will become more and more obvious over time. At this time, there will be a lot of friction and conflict between husband and wife, for example, one likes to be quiet, and the other likes to be lively;One likes to travel, the other likes to stay at home, etc. These frictions and conflicts, if not resolved in time, can lead to emotional estrangement between couples and even lead to divorce.
3. Lack of communication.
Communication is an important means to maintain a marriage, and it is also an effective way to solve marital problems. When there is a lack of communication between couples, there will be a lot of misunderstandings and estrangements, such as not understanding each other's thoughts and feelings, not knowing each other's needs and expectations, not understanding each other's behaviors and motivations, and so on. These misunderstandings and estrangements, if.