Today,I want to talk to you about a "woman with three ex-husbands".
There will be failures in life, but there is no life of failure. ”
Divorce is neither a medal nor a wound. ”
These words of warmth and wisdom come from "Soybean Field Permanent Son and Three Ex-Husbands".
It is the new work of Yuji Sakamoto, the screenwriter of "Tokyo Love Story", with a Douban score of 90。
The heroine, Nagako Soyadada, is a middle-aged woman who has been divorced three times.
As the president of a small architectural design company, he takes care of his daughter who is in junior high school alone.
What would it be like for a person who has been divorced three times?
Disillusioned with relationships? Full of vicissitudes? Even, the chatter is full of anger?
Sorry, there are no soybean fields.
In the play, the soybean fields are full of charm and power.
Although she is clumsy and clumsy, unlucky from time to time, and her love life has always been full of twists and turns, there is a kind of magic in her.
In the play, the three ex-husbands can never let go of her; Outside the play, it can also catch the eyes of every audience.
Magic 1: Be bold and sober, and face life honestly
Marriage and love are quite a heavy life topic for ordinary people.
But in this drama, you will see the unique attitude of soybean fields towards marriage and love.
At her niece's wedding, she was disqualified from giving a speech because she divorced too many times, and was even ridiculed by her father in public.
Although it was a little embarrassing, the soybean field was quickly relieved and accepted.
Deep down in her heart, she doesn't feel that divorce is a negative thing.
She agrees more with what her best friend Kagome saidwill choose divorce to prove that a person is honest about their life.
When she met her first husband, Hachisaku Tanaka, she quickly fell in love and got married.
Although the marriage was generally good and her husband did not deviate, she could find that her husband had always belonged to him and fell into a kind of regret that he could not get.
In other words, their marriage is three people moving forward.
This is certainly intolerable for the proud soybean fields. So, she chose to give up.
In her second marriage, Soybean Field suffered from her mother-in-law's belittlement and disrespect.
Moreover, the other party likes to pursue unrealistic romance, and Soybean Field is a very down-to-earth person, and it is difficult for two people to be at the same frequency.
What's more, this ex-husband's hygiene Xi is still very poor.
The third ex-husband is a bit turtle hair and stubborn.
Although I love the soybean field very much, because I am very childish and not good at interpersonal communication, the relationship between the two is getting farther and farther apart.
Soybean fields divorced decisively again.
After several marriages, the soybean field discovered:Marriage doesn't solve some of the deep-seated problems that plague her, nor does it bring her the happiness she wants.
Although she also longs for someone to love.
will feel a little frustrated because "when she comes home from work, no one pushes the switch of the light for her";
I also feel annoyed that I have made too much curry rice and no one to share it with.
However, she did not blindly choose to put herself in her feelings, and always maintained a rare sanity and sobriety.
After the divorce, the ex-husbands did not let go of her, especially the second husband Kataro and the third husband Shinmori, who almost turned their heads to pursue her.
However, she did not choose to covet the tenderness in front of her, but still chose to maintain a family-like good friend relationship.
This decisive and honest attitude is also reflected in the soybean field when facing a new boyfriend.
Later, he met the marriage partner Oda Kirirang, a handsome and successful businessman, who was originally a representative of the company that bought the soybean fields, but accidentally became obsessed with the soybean fields and invited her to spend his life together.
Just as Soybean Field began to plan to step down from the position of president and follow him to settle abroad, the words of her third ex-husband woke her up:"Happiness is not that you can accept love, but that you have to love others. ”
The soybean field woke up suddenly, and she found that she loved her first ex-husband.
So, she politely rejected her boyfriend Oda Cherang and broke up with him decisively.
From this point of view, soybean fields are the kind of people who really dare to be responsible for their own happiness, and once they decide that they can't be happy, they don't hesitate to stop the loss.
Magic 2: In relationships, be inclusive and responsible
A good friend, Kagome, once commented on the soybean field, saying that she was".Mountain-like people
It's really very vivid.
There's a charm to the soybean fields:All-encompassing, with strong commitment and inclusiveness.
The three ex-husbands are not fuel-efficient lamps.
The first ex-husband always has an innocent and desireless expression, which is especially liked by women, and he is good at listening.
But in fact, he is an escapist man.
obviously likes Kagome, but he chose not to say it, and instead married the soybean field. He was gentle with his wife, but he never opened his heart.
The second ex-husband, good at communication and considerate.
But he is stingy and always indulges in his romantic dreams and can't land.
The third ex-husband is simply handsome.
But he is not good at communicating with people, he is familiar with the people and things around him, and he especially likes to drill the horns.
When divorcing Soybean Field, her three ex-husbands did not see their shortcomings.
It wasn't until I met other women and was pointed out that I woke up:
The soybean fields used to not only tolerate them, but also spoil them
That's when they discovered the preciousness of the soybean fields.
I also discovered that in the days I spent with the soybean fields, I also got better.
Hachisaku Tanaka began to face his emotions bravely, sincerely praising his marriage to Soybean Field;
Shikataro went from a paparazzi to a well-known photographer in the industry;
And Shen Sen, who has been living in the air, has gradually learned how to interact with people and pay attention to details.
And not only in marriage,Face the work, soybean fieldsIt also shows superhuman responsibility.
When the company encounters the fate of being acquired, everyone panics: she silently collects information in order to defeat her opponents; On the other hand, he pretended to be casual in the company, talked and laughed, and comforted everyone emotionally.
The most commendable thing is that the way she deals with problems is always human.
When an employee of the company "defected" and tried to take her place, she was not annoyed, but cared about the other party's mother's physical condition and listened carefully and objectively to her thoughts on the company's development.
There was no retaliation.
It seems, soybean fieldsIt seems that there isA little kindOverdone
ActuallyShe wasPossessiononSuper inclusive and responsible, finding a special balance between worldliness and childishness.
Magic 3: Always keep a burning love for life
In the soybean field, there is always something that makes people want to laughTemperament, againStupidAgainSprout.
She does sports, and she is always inconsistent with others; Walking on the road, you will fall into a pit for some reason.
She will be in the bathtub, singing nursery rhymes loudly and self-absorbed, and she will also believe that the ** she meets on the side of the road is the lover of her dreams;
She is focused and mature, but she always has a childlike innocence when dealing with people and the little things in life.
When the man who loves her says to her with sympathy, "My divorce is a medal, and your divorce is an injury"; Soybean Tian said neither humbly nor arrogantly, "Divorce is neither a medal nor an injury." On the contrary, I find life interesting. ”
That's what she thinks, and that's how she feels.
In the face of feelings, she does not despair, and every time you meet a potential love partner, you can see the childlike heat and light in her eyes.
In the face of the entanglement of her ex-husbands, you can also see her driving them away, while being tortured by their various petty temperaments very happily.
When her best friend says she wants to get back to her paintbrush and get her dream back, she jumps up and cheers.
When her daughter said that she would give up the idea of relying on her boyfriend and work hard to study medicine, she couldn't help but be excited and secretly happy.
She tried to open her mother's mailbox, visit her mother's lover, and try to reconcile with her father...
It's all small, but it's very moving.
At the same time, it also makes people feel that the soybean field has always been intoxicated and enjoyed in their own lives.
Even if you are single, even if you don't have an emotional homeAlsoIt doesn't stop her from being happy.
One person's romance is the ultimate romance
The state of the soybean fields reminds me of Tracy McMillan's TED Talk.
Another woman who has been married three times and divorced three times.
Tracy McMillan's mother was a sex worker and her father was a criminal who was thrown into foster care when she was three months old.
Coming out of such a childhood, she had only one goal: to never be abandoned again.
At first, in order to achieve this goal, she chose to enter marriage.
After many attempts and countless mistakes, she discovered a fact:
If I don't love myself, I won't be whole. What can change my love and life is the idea of 'marrying yourself'.
When she began to choose to love herself and love life unswervingly, a miracle struck.
She handled the relationship very easily and returned to a good state of life.
The same goes for soybean fields.
After the death of her friend Kagome, who she had always relied on, she became truly independent spiritually.
She began to deal with the company's affairs calmly, carefully examined her inner emotions, and did not refuse a good relationship.
The balcony screens in the soybean fields were often misplaced, and every time they were out of place, she thought if someone could fix it for her.
Let's fall in love again.
However, she always found that the repaired screens were still misplaced.
At the end of the film, she learns to repair the screen window herself, and the satisfaction is self-evident.
This is also a metaphor for:
Some dislocations in life, some expectations, maybe you can complete them yourself, and it will be easier to achieve happiness.
Many people regret that in the ending, the soybean field did not choose any male.
In fact, this may be precisely the unconventional place.
It is happiness to faithfully guard a person and get married, and why not choose to be single or other forms of marriage and love according to your own heart?
The important thing is that you are smiling.
compared to whether to get married,What we need to pay more attention to is a person's life state and ability to perceive happiness.
This perception can be to take care of one's life and emotions when you are alone, or to maintain a good perspective when you get along with others.
It is also reflected in the sensitivity to the beauty of the surroundings.
Of course, it is good that romance can be shared, but a person's romance is the ultimate romance that lasts forever.
The above content is shared with all women who are looking forward to a better future.
The world and I love you.