Once upon a time, delicacy was the core that a woman could not give up at any time, and the overwhelming tutorials on the Internet on "how to advance to a delicate woman" were also common, but today the back of delicacy is labeled with an adjective that forms a strong contrast with delicacy - earth.
Wearing black silk is "delicate soil", wearing full makeup for two hours is "delicate soil", and small fragrance and puff sleeves are also "delicate soil". Especially under the aesthetic trend of advocating "high-end" and "relaxed beauty", the cage that imprisons girls is getting tighter and tighter, and the "exquisite soil" is the shackle locked on the cage, the people inside fall into the trap of appearance anxiety, and the people outside stand in the dark corners and make insulting remarks at will, and contemporary women have not escaped the aesthetic bullying in the Internet world.
Why is a woman's appearance always a point of contention?And today, when women's self-consciousness is constantly awakening, why are they always labeled with one kind or another?When will women who have been trapped in "satisfying the mainstream of aesthetics" truly be free?
Open social ** search for "exquisite soil", and everywhere you can see everyone's judgment on the appearance of girls wearing black silk miniskirts, lace puff sleeves, or full makeup. "It's not good-looking", "There is a sense of cheapness", "I'm the only one who thinks it's very earthy to wear black silk", the girls who work hard to dress up and their modal skirts, florals, lace, flesh-colored **, wool boots and other fashion items have become the focus of this "soil appreciation movement".
Obviously happily wore a well-matched style to go out, or just took a beautiful ** and posted it on social **, the result was ridiculed by the group, and even many netizens wanted to take out the same outfit of the star for comparison in order to prove that they were not dirty, but what they got was a sentence "Don't look at the gap between yourself and the star, a typical painting tiger is not an anti-dog", which not only aggravates the suspicion and denial of self, but also becomes more cautious on the road of pursuing beauty and self-improvement.
In fact, even glamorous stars cannot escape being labeled as "exquisite soil" and becoming the target of attacks under the poisonous tongue of netizens.
Recently, the styling in the hit drama "Love as the Camp" has caused controversy, and the rich local atmosphere created by the mixing and matching of a number of luxury brands and various fashion items has become a hard injury criticized by the outside world. The creator is too suspended in the portrayal of independent female characters, and firmly solidifies female beauty in the aesthetic shackles of dermabrasion filters and catering to "the domineering president falls in love with me", which leads to the audience also walking into a dead end in overkill aesthetic values.
Good things come in pairs" The degree of fashion completion depends on the face", "It's not that the clothes are not good-looking, it's that the temperament of the person can't hold up"...Contemporary women have also built one aesthetic wall after another on the road of pursuing beauty, and if they are not careful, they will become the laughing stock of others, and what is even more embarrassing is that behind these ridicules actually reflects the narrowness of social aesthetic standards.
The core of the controversy is cheapness: wearing black silk is not high-end, and wearing floral and lace is an aesthetic regression. If you wear heavy makeup, it will rise to personality humiliation and "don't look like a serious girl".
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On the contrary, wearing minimalist is high-end, light makeup is more impactful than heavy makeup, and effortless relaxation can often win over all painstaking dressing, because the former can better represent the spiritual core of women's calm and confident.
Barbie" and the above such "aesthetic bullying" not only publicly executes ordinary girls who want to become beautiful, but also reflects the value contradiction generated by the collision of long-term discipline in patriarchal ideological domination and feminist consciousness awakening - both want to get rid of appearance anxiety and become a "** both criticize male prejudice and fall into the trap of "female competition", both hold high the banner of freedom to dress and build a chain of clothing contempt with his own hands, and pursue external beauty in an excessive way not only gradually deviates from the original intention of eliminating discrimination, No longer argues for what women should really pursue and care about, but gradually regresses into the primitive gaze and judgment in the objectified heterosexual aesthetics and fragmented Internet language system.
So, when we criticize "delicate soil", what should we criticize?It's not a girl who wants to pursue beauty, nor is it an action she pays to pursue beauty. Actually, what should be criticized isWhy is women's appearance still the focus of criticism today?This phenomenon, and why everyone has a love for beauty, but this heart has not been given free wings.
Compared to those women who like to be more relaxed, why should women who use a little too much force be labeled as "rustic"?This kind of unequal aesthetic discrimination imposed on female subjects not only stifles pluralistic self-expression, but also reflects the phenomenon that contemporary women are not independent and confident in facing and identifying with themselves.
In the long-term discipline, women have the vocation to be responsible for beauty, and also have the mission of becoming wives and mothers, but they have not had the destiny of being a truly free individual.
Barbie's social culture also puts forward almost harsh requirements for women: you want to be delicate but not too delicate, you want to be beautiful but not too beautiful, you can be loose but not too unkempt, you want to be independent but not too independent, and you must always live carefully and cautiously in these rules, and these contradictory requirements are creating an illusory goal for women that does not exist at all, in fact, no matter how hard you try, you will not be able to achieve the goal, nor can you get everyone's approval.
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On the other hand, social culture also puts women into wanting to achieve self-subjectivity through self-determination of their own bodiesOn the one hand, it internalizes the misogynistic male gaze, and gains the same success and empowerment in the body that denies other women, as the male group achieves by seizing it. This paradox is not only a confused presentation of how women should get along with female characteristics, but also a reflection of cultural reality and cultural Xi favoritism between the sexes.
Facts have proved that despite our constant discussions about the true meaning of beauty for women, and our efforts to speak out and encourage people not to be held hostage by Internet culture and traditional aesthetic prejudices, women have not yet ushered in the true sense of equality and independence.
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Even so, as women, we should not give up the fight for our rights and freedoms. Others say that we dress "delicate earthy", then we boldly become "earthy spokesperson", break through all false aesthetic contempt chains to be real and free individuals, after all, no one can say anything about the definition of rustic, just as no one can define your beauty, only you can.
I love you" 60-year-old Ye Tong said: "I used to want to meet other people's expectations of myself, what style everyone likes, or what is popular, I will pursue in that direction." But then I realized that I couldn't meet everyone's requirements, so I chose to be myself. Because what fashion is, it's what people tell you what is good and you believe it and do it, so why can't I tell everyone that I am fashion, and I can develop my own unique interpretation of beauty. ”
Therefore, the current Ye Tong has neat short hair, a lot of hair is white, and the wrinkles on her face are clearly visible. And when everyone praises her with beauty, in fact, it is not only to appreciate her indifference to her appearance and age anxiety, but also to present the multi-faceted and free spiritual consciousness and style that an independent woman really should have.
It is obviously sad when we summarize the "delicate earthy" style as the aesthetic defects of a group of people, and then judge the taste of the former with a seemingly more advanced outfit that opposes it.
The sad thing is that we first trap the girl who wants to become beautiful with subjective aesthetics, and then bind women to beauty, as if girls who are defined as the second sex are only valuable if they are good-looking, which fundamentally ignores that women have more important and long-term goals to achieve on the road of self-growth.
It can be the equal rights of social value and status, the freedom to grasp independent marriage and love, or the hard work in self-improvement, in short, do not enter the chain of aesthetic contempt and become the object of appreciation and objectification of others. Allow yourself to be whatever you are, because that is your freedom and right, and don't take beauty as your only mission, get out of the cage of discipline and suppression, and grow savagely in the direction of freedom!